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Money makes everything easier, right? Not always. Not when you need\u00a0to get ready for a high net worth divorce<\/em>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n It\u2019s true, money can buy material comfort. Money can solve problems. But it can rarely buy happiness, especially if your marriage is falling apart. And it brings stresses of its own.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n If you or your spouse has a high net worth, divorce can get a lot more complicated. And a lot more acrimonious.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n How to get ready for a high net worth divorce<\/em> covers how to prepare yourself for divorce, emotionally and practically, when there\u2019s considerable wealth at stake. Whether you\u2019re the high net worth individual or your soon-to-be-ex is, getting ready for divorce is crucial.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Humans are complex creatures. Add relationship and wealth factors into the mix and our feelings get even more complicated. It\u2019s likely you\u2019re feeling a whole rainbow of emotions. These are five common responses, especially in high net worth cases:<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n If you want to leave, it\u2019s common to feel guilty about it. Perhaps your ex is perfectly happy. Do you have friends or family telling you to be grateful for everything you have? Perhaps you are telling yourself that? Accept that feeling guilt sometimes is part of the territory. It doesn\u2019t mean it\u2019s true. All the money in the world can\u2019t buy happiness if your marriage isn\u2019t working. You can allow the guilty feelings and still do what\u2019s right for you.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n It might look like you have a dream life on the outside. But you\u2019re lonely. Maybe both within your marriage, and outside it. You don\u2019t connect with your ex, and your friends can\u2019t understand why you would walk away. If you don\u2019t have friends you can trust it\u2019s important to reach out for support. Loneliness can erode your self-esteem and keep you stuck. Work with a coach, mentor or therapist to start creating the support you want and need.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n There\u2019s no getting away from the fact that high net worth divorces are usually more complicated. There are more assets, so there\u2019s more to decide and process. The thought of what\u2019s ahead can leave you feeling overwhelmed. Overwhelm is paralysing, so it\u2019s important to break things down into manageable, logical steps. If you\u2019re daunted by the task, seek a trusted professional to help you.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n When there\u2019s more at stake tempers flare. Maybe you\u2019re furious at your soon-to-be ex\u2019s behaviour, and you\u2019d like nothing more to take scissors to their entire wardrobe. You want revenge and you want it now. But acting from anger usually leads to unwise choices. And that can have repercussions in court. Accept and allow your anger, it can be a powerful catalyst for action. But don\u2019t let it control your decision-making.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Often women involved in high net worth divorces are used to getting things done quickly! You know what you want, and you want it sorted. And that\u2019s admirable. But don\u2019t let impatience lead to bad decisions. You might think, \u201dOh let them have everything, I just want out.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n But remember this is the rest of your life you\u2019re talking about. Yes, it is important to prioritise your happiness and freedom. But you don\u2019t need to relinquish what is rightfully yours to get it. It is important to take the time needed for yourself emotionally, as well as accepting that the legal process will take time.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n We talked about loneliness just now. Always, in divorce, your loved ones will have opinions. In high net worth divorces those opinions can be bigger and more public! You might find you\u2019re the hot topic in whole networks of \u2018friends\u2019. It might be that social circles fall away as the news of your separation filters out. It might be that your ex holds power over who you have social contact with.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Spend some time thinking who you can trust, and what you can trust them with. It might be you have layers of support: a small circle of friends you go to for cheering up and staying sane. An even smaller group you are more vulnerable with. And you only share the ins-and-outs with a professional in confidence.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Usually, in marriage, there is one person who\u2019s on top of the finances and one who just isn\u2019t! If numbers aren\u2019t your thing, now\u2019s the time to get organised and get savvy. There is no way you can enter the divorce process without a good grasp of your marital assets and liabilities \u2013 both jointly and individually.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n High net worth marriages have more complicated finances. It\u2019s important that you get the advice you need to navigate the numbers properly. Get advice from an independent financial adviser so you can understand what you\u2019re dealing with.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n It may be that your soon-to-be-ex attempts to hide assets \u2013 sadly that\u2019s not unusual, especially in high net worth divorces. A wealth tracer can work with you to ensure you and the courts are not being misled in any financial disclosures.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n In high net worth cases there will be a lot of people wanting to offer their professional services and take their fee! And it is definitely worth getting professional support. Your emotional, legal and financial decision-making all benefit from expert input. So as you decide who to invest your money, time and trust in, ask yourself:<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n For example, there are thousands of law firms to choose from. But not all of them know how to handle high net worth cases. When it comes to money, Independent Financial Advisers vary in specialism enormously. Equally, there\u2019s now a growing number of divorce coaches in the UK. But not all of them have the expertise and experience to support women in high net worth marriages. I do!<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Trust is a critical factor when it comes to working with professionals. Can you trust the person who wants to help you? Have they talked through how they operate? Do they have values and principles you agree with? For example, I often refer my clients to a wealth tracer who works with the utmost integrity \u2013 it\u2019s the right thing to do, and it also means all the evidence will be permissible in court. Even if you\u2019ve found a company that specialises in what you need, make sure you know exactly who you will be dealing with. And decide whether you can trust them.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n We talked about impatience earlier, and it\u2019s so tempting to rush headlong into divorce. You want to get it over and done with so you can get on with the rest of your life. That\u2019s understandable, especially if divorce has been on your mind for some time. Or maybe your ex has acted appallingly and you just want out. But you risk more than money if you charge ahead without thinking. You risk your reputation and future happiness as well as any material assets.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n The only time to act quickly is if your safety is at risk. If that applies to you, you can get specific advice <\/span>from Women\u2019s Aid here<\/span><\/a>.\u00a0 Don\u2019t forget to cover your tracks online.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n It is vitally important to have a plan. A plan starts with knowing what you want. A vision for your life after divorce. If you know where you want to end up, you can start to build a road to get there.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n The first part of your plan has nothing to do with practicalities. It\u2019s about what\u2019s important to you \u2013 your values. Once you connect to those you can bring them to life, in a way that is realistic for your situation.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n The next part of your plan is about understanding where you are now. As we\u2019ve seen \u2013 that can feel overwhelming, especially if finances are complicated. But you can work through it, and you can get the support you need.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n And the final part of the plan is about taking the steps to get from where you are now to where you want to be. That\u2019s about the legal process, yes. It\u2019s also about the emotional journey. It\u2019s about establishing yourself as an independent woman now and into the future.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n I have years of experience in supporting women through high net worth divorces. I bring my years of expertise as a lawyer, as well as a coach to help you navigate the very personal journey of your divorce. My network of trusted contacts will help you take charge of your wealth and financial decision-making.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n I offer private coaching packages for women who need intensive, 1-1 support as they embark upon divorce. I can help you with every stage of the process: from making the decision to leave, to putting a professional team together, to understanding the numbers, to coping with the emotional fallout, to understanding what happens next.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n If you want the support you need, exactly when and how you need it, I can be that person for you.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Just <\/span>contact me here<\/span><\/a> to find out how we can work together.<\/span><\/p>\n Emma Heptonstall,<\/strong><\/a>\u00a0the Divorce Alchemist is author of the Amazon best selling book\u00a0How to be a Lady Who Leaves, the Ultimate Guide to Getting Divorce Ready<\/strong><\/a>. A former lawyer, Emma is a family mediator and founder of Get Divorce Ready the online self-study and group programmes. Emma has been featured on BBC Radio, The Telegraph, the iPaper and in Marie Claire Magazine. To find out more visit\u00a0www.emmaheptonstall.com<\/strong><\/a> How to get ready for a high net worth divorce Money makes everything easier, right? Not always. Not when you need\u00a0to get ready for a high net worth divorce\u00a0 It\u2019s true, money can buy material comfort. Money can solve problems. But it can rarely buy happiness, especially if your marriage is falling apart. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":16003,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"on","_et_pb_old_content":" \u00a0<\/p> Money makes everything easier, right? Not always. Not when you need\u00a0to get ready for a high net worth divorce<\/em>\u00a0<\/span><\/p> \u00a0<\/p> It\u2019s true, money can buy material comfort. Money can solve problems. But it can rarely buy happiness, especially if your marriage is falling apart. And it brings stresses of its own.\u00a0<\/span><\/p> \u00a0<\/p> If you or your spouse has a high net worth, divorce can get a lot more complicated. And a lot more acrimonious.\u00a0<\/span><\/p> \u00a0<\/p> How to get ready for a high net worth divorce<\/em> covers how to prepare yourself for divorce, emotionally and practically, when there\u2019s considerable wealth at stake. Whether you\u2019re the high net worth individual or your soon-to-be-ex is, getting ready for divorce is crucial.<\/span><\/p> \u00a0<\/p> Humans are complex creatures. Add relationship and wealth factors into the mix and our feelings get even more complicated. It\u2019s likely you\u2019re feeling a whole rainbow of emotions. These are five common responses, especially in high net worth cases:<\/span><\/p> \u00a0<\/p> If you want to leave, it\u2019s common to feel guilty about it. Perhaps your ex is perfectly happy. Do you have friends or family telling you to be grateful for everything you have? Perhaps you are telling yourself that? Accept that feeling guilt sometimes is part of the territory. It doesn\u2019t mean it\u2019s true. All the money in the world can\u2019t buy happiness if your marriage isn\u2019t working. You can allow the guilty feelings and still do what\u2019s right for you.\u00a0<\/span><\/p> \u00a0<\/p> It might look like you have a dream life on the outside. But you\u2019re lonely. Maybe both within your marriage, and outside it. You don\u2019t connect with your ex, and your friends can\u2019t understand why you would walk away. If you don\u2019t have friends you can trust it\u2019s important to reach out for support. Loneliness can erode your self-esteem and keep you stuck. Work with a coach, mentor or therapist to start creating the support you want and need.<\/span><\/p> \u00a0<\/p> There\u2019s no getting away from the fact that high net worth divorces are usually more complicated. There are more assets, so there\u2019s more to decide and process. The thought of what\u2019s ahead can leave you feeling overwhelmed. Overwhelm is paralysing, so it\u2019s important to break things down into manageable, logical steps. If you\u2019re daunted by the task, seek a trusted professional to help you.\u00a0<\/span><\/p> \u00a0<\/p> When there\u2019s more at stake tempers flare. Maybe you\u2019re furious at your soon-to-be ex\u2019s behaviour, and you\u2019d like nothing more to take scissors to their entire wardrobe. You want revenge and you want it now. But acting from anger usually leads to unwise choices. And that can have repercussions in court. Accept and allow your anger, it can be a powerful catalyst for action. But don\u2019t let it control your decision-making.<\/span><\/p> \u00a0<\/p> Often women involved in high net worth divorces are used to getting things done quickly! You know what you want, and you want it sorted. And that\u2019s admirable. But don\u2019t let impatience lead to bad decisions. You might think, \u201dOh let them have everything, I just want out.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/p> \u00a0<\/p> But remember this is the rest of your life you\u2019re talking about. Yes, it is important to prioritise your happiness and freedom. But you don\u2019t need to relinquish what is rightfully yours to get it. It is important to take the time needed for yourself emotionally, as well as accepting that the legal process will take time.\u00a0<\/span><\/p> \u00a0<\/p> We talked about loneliness just now. Always, in divorce, your loved ones will have opinions. In high net worth divorces those opinions can be bigger and more public! You might find you\u2019re the hot topic in whole networks of \u2018friends\u2019. It might be that social circles fall away as the news of your separation filters out. It might be that your ex holds power over who you have social contact with.\u00a0<\/span><\/p> \u00a0<\/p> Spend some time thinking who you can trust, and what you can trust them with. It might be you have layers of support: a small circle of friends you go to for cheering up and staying sane. An even smaller group you are more vulnerable with. And you only share the ins-and-outs with a professional in confidence.<\/span><\/p> \u00a0<\/p> Usually, in marriage, there is one person who\u2019s on top of the finances and one who just isn\u2019t! If numbers aren\u2019t your thing, now\u2019s the time to get organised and get savvy. There is no way you can enter the divorce process without a good grasp of your marital assets and liabilities \u2013 both jointly and individually.\u00a0<\/span><\/p> \u00a0<\/p> High net worth marriages have more complicated finances. It\u2019s important that you get the advice you need to navigate the numbers properly. Get advice from an independent financial adviser so you can understand what you\u2019re dealing with.\u00a0<\/span><\/p> \u00a0<\/p> It may be that your soon-to-be-ex attempts to hide assets \u2013 sadly that\u2019s not unusual, especially in high net worth divorces. A wealth tracer can work with you to ensure you and the courts are not being misled in any financial disclosures.\u00a0<\/span><\/p> \u00a0<\/p> In high net worth cases there will be a lot of people wanting to offer their professional services and take their fee! And it is definitely worth getting professional support. Your emotional, legal and financial decision-making all benefit from expert input. So as you decide who to invest your money, time and trust in, ask yourself:<\/span><\/p> \u00a0<\/p> For example, there are thousands of law firms to choose from. But not all of them know how to handle high net worth cases. When it comes to money, Independent Financial Advisers vary in specialism enormously. Equally, there\u2019s now a growing number of divorce coaches in the UK. But not all of them have the expertise and experience to support women in high net worth marriages. I do!<\/span><\/p> \u00a0<\/p> Trust is a critical factor when it comes to working with professionals. Can you trust the person who wants to help you? Have they talked through how they operate? Do they have values and principles you agree with? For example, I often refer my clients to a wealth tracer who works with the utmost integrity \u2013 it\u2019s the right thing to do, and it also means all the evidence will be permissible in court. Even if you\u2019ve found a company that specialises in what you need, make sure you know exactly who you will be dealing with. And decide whether you can trust them.<\/span><\/p> \u00a0<\/p> We talked about impatience earlier, and it\u2019s so tempting to rush headlong into divorce. You want to get it over and done with so you can get on with the rest of your life. That\u2019s understandable, especially if divorce has been on your mind for some time. Or maybe your ex has acted appallingly and you just want out. But you risk more than money if you charge ahead without thinking. You risk your reputation and future happiness as well as any material assets.\u00a0<\/span><\/p> \u00a0<\/p> The only time to act quickly is if your safety is at risk. If that applies to you, you can get specific advice <\/span>from Women\u2019s Aid here<\/span><\/a>.\u00a0 Don\u2019t forget to cover your tracks online.\u00a0<\/span><\/p> \u00a0<\/p> It is vitally important to have a plan. A plan starts with knowing what you want. A vision for your life after divorce. If you know where you want to end up, you can start to build a road to get there.\u00a0<\/span><\/p> \u00a0<\/p> The first part of your plan has nothing to do with practicalities. It\u2019s about what\u2019s important to you \u2013 your values. Once you connect to those you can bring them to life, in a way that is realistic for your situation.\u00a0<\/span><\/p> \u00a0<\/p> The next part of your plan is about understanding where you are now. As we\u2019ve seen \u2013 that can feel overwhelming, especially if finances are complicated. But you can work through it, and you can get the support you need.\u00a0<\/span><\/p> \u00a0<\/p> And the final part of the plan is about taking the steps to get from where you are now to where you want to be. That\u2019s about the legal process, yes. It\u2019s also about the emotional journey. It\u2019s about establishing yourself as an independent woman now and into the future.<\/span><\/p> \u00a0<\/p> I have years of experience in supporting women through high net worth divorces. I bring my years of expertise as a lawyer, as well as a coach to help you navigate the very personal journey of your divorce. My network of trusted contacts will help you take charge of your wealth and financial decision-making.<\/span><\/p> \u00a0<\/p> I offer private coaching packages for women who need intensive, 1-1 support as they embark upon divorce. I can help you with every stage of the process: from making the decision to leave, to putting a professional team together, to understanding the numbers, to coping with the emotional fallout, to understanding what happens next.<\/span><\/p> \u00a0<\/p> If you want the support you need, exactly when and how you need it, I can be that person for you.\u00a0<\/span><\/p> Just <\/span>contact me here<\/span><\/a> to find out how we can work together.<\/span><\/p> Emma Heptonstall,<\/strong><\/a>\u00a0the Divorce Alchemist is author of the Amazon best selling book\u00a0How to be a Lady Who Leaves, the Ultimate Guide to Getting Divorce Ready<\/strong><\/a>. A former lawyer, Emma is a family mediator and founder of Get Divorce Ready the online self-study and group programmes. Emma has been featured on BBC Radio, The Telegraph, the iPaper and in Marie Claire Magazine. 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<\/span>Guilt<\/span><\/h3>\n
<\/span>Loneliness<\/span><\/h3>\n
<\/span>Overwhelm<\/span><\/h3>\n
<\/span>Anger<\/span><\/h3>\n
<\/span>Impatience<\/span><\/h3>\n
<\/span>Choose your support crew<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>Understand your numbers<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>Choose the right professionals<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>Are they experienced in cases like mine? <\/b><\/span><\/h4>\n
<\/span>Do they act with integrity? <\/b><\/span><\/h4>\n
<\/span>Know what you want<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>Get the support you need<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>About Emma<\/span><\/h2>\n
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Accept your emotions<\/h2>
Guilt<\/h3>
Loneliness<\/h3>
Overwhelm<\/h3>
Anger<\/h3>
Impatience<\/h3>
Choose your support crew<\/h2>
Understand your numbers<\/h2>
Choose the right professionals<\/h2>
Are they experienced in cases like mine? <\/b><\/h4>
Do they act with integrity? <\/b><\/h4>
Know what you want<\/h2>
Get the support you need<\/h2>
About Emma<\/h2>