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If only leaving meant it was all over and you can finally have Christmas all on your terms. Sadly, that\u2019s not the reality for many women who are divorcing a high conflict ex. If you have children, or shared assets, you will need to maintain some sort of contact, and it\u2019s likely to be messy. So how do you deal with your high conflict ex at Christmas?<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n How do you know if your ex is a high conflict type? There are some key behaviours to watch out for. You can read more about those <\/span>and how to manage your high conflict divorce right here.<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n When it comes to Christmas it\u2019s likely those behaviours will manifest in two distinct ways. High conflict types thrive on drama, and they need to be the best or be the victim. So your ex will want to outshine your festivities and sabotage your plans.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n There are hundreds of ways your ex could display these behaviours. Here are three of the most common scenarios at Christmas:<\/span><\/p>\n Their Christmas is the BEST Christmas. The shiniest, sparkliest, most magical Christmas. They try to outdo you at every turn, from showering the children with extravagant gifts, to planning high-end getaways. Remember, this is never really about giving the children a good time, or even themselves a good time. It\u2019s about winning: they are the BEST at Christmas.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Alternatively, Christmas is cancelled. They are too stressed, depressed or over-worked to do anything. Christmas isn\u2019t happening for them this year \u2013 whatever your children want. They drain the Christmas cheer from you, from your children, and fill the space with their own needy gloom.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n The children are supposed to be with you by midday on Christmas day for lunch? Your ex will drop them at 2pm, if you\u2019re lucky. You need to leave to see Uncle Steve for Boxing Day? They\u2019ll be late. Or when you have the children they\u2019ll constantly call and demand to speak to them.<\/span><\/p>\n Forewarned is forearmed. If you suspect your ex might pull any of these stunts, get ready now. You can\u2019t control how they\u2019ll behave, but you can get plans in place to limit the damage.<\/span><\/p>\n Your ex will use any grey areas to their advantage. So make sure you have a clear, written plan for what\u2019s happening. If you have a court order, make sure you both know what it covers. If it\u2019s an agreement between you, reiterate the rules. Document everything so there can be no excuses: agree over email rather than a phone call. Evidence that you are being clear, fair and child-focussed will serve you well if there are future court hearings.<\/span><\/p>\n Stick to the plan. You can\u2019t control whether they turn up late, but you can stick to your plan like glue. This shows your ex that you\u2019re not up for negotiation \u2013 a strategy that draws you back into their world. So don\u2019t play tit-for-tat if they\u2019re half an hour late. Make sure you\u2019re on time. Don\u2019t agree to any changes to the written plan. You want your ex to know you mean what you say. And don\u2019t get drawn into the power play: don\u2019t reply to messages on Christmas Day if it\u2019s your time with the children.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Yes, it\u2019s unfair and totally out of order if they\u2019re late bringing the kids back. It\u2019s fine to reiterate the agreement: \u201cWe agreed midday. It\u2019s now 2 pm. That\u2019s not okay and can\u2019t happen again.\u201d But don\u2019t rage or get upset in front of them \u2013 it will add fuel to the fire. Narcissists and other high conflict personality types thrive on drama. Don\u2019t give them any. Keep it brief, to the point, dull. This is how you drain high conflict people of their power.<\/span><\/p>\n If you suspect your ex will try to jeopardise your plans, think about what you will do if it comes to pass. Hopefully, you won\u2019t need a Plan B. But if you do it will be a lot easier on your stress levels if you\u2019ve thought about it already. And your children will be able to roll with it better too.<\/span><\/p>\n The best way to deal with your high conflict ex at Christmas is to deal with them as little as possible. Make the contingency plans now, then draw a line, mentally. I say this a lot, but it\u2019s true: the only thing you can control is your own behaviour. Not your ex\u2019s. So, while it\u2019s easier said than done, focus on your relationship with your children, and the Christmas you can have together.<\/span><\/p>\n It will be different from previous Christmases. And that can be sad. It can also be an opportunity for a reset. Spend some time now with your children agreeing what you\u2019d love to do together. Get their ideas, and follow through on them if you can.<\/span><\/p>\n You may be surprised \u2013 it often isn\u2019t the expensive outings that hold the most magic. It\u2019s the chance to stay up late watching Christmas movies, eating chocolate until everyone feels sick. Or doing something completely different.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Throw away the rulebook and make your own. If it\u2019s fish and chips on the beach instead of turkey dinner that gets you all excited, do it. If your children are desperate to introduce you to Plants Vs Zombies on their Nintendo Switch, indulge them. Remember, Christmas isn\u2019t really about the glitz and presents. It\u2019s about taking a break from daily routine and connecting with one another.<\/span><\/p>\n It is incredibly hard to hold the line with your high conflict ex at Christmas, while creating a festive time for you and your children.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n So put some support strategies in place for yourself. Don\u2019t rage at your ex, but do vent at trusted friends. Bash out angry emails and then delete them without sending. If your ex can\u2019t be trusted to give the children a merry time over Christmas, enlist others to help. Meet up with friends. Go for a walk in the woods collecting holly and feeding the birds. Have a Christmas TV night together.<\/span><\/p>\n And think about what you want and need from Christmas for yourself. You don\u2019t need to burn out creating magical memories for everyone. Your children need their mum to be healthy. Take time for yourself, and take shortcuts. Is your six year old really going to tell the difference between goose fat-basted roast potatoes or the Aunt Bessie\u2019s ones from the freezer section? Will anyone really care? And if they do, does it matter?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Ditch the guilt. You are as entitled to a relaxing Christmas, just like everyone else. Put the toddlers in front of the CBeebies Christmas panto and have a prosecco with friends in the kitchen.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n If you\u2019re stressed about Christmas, I can help.\u00a0 I\u2019m the UK\u2019s only trauma responsive high conflict diversion specialist, and I\u2019m a trauma responsive divorce strategist. Which means I can help you both navigate your own emotions, and plan for your soon-to-be-ex\u2019s high conflict behaviours too. When you\u2019re dealing with a high conflict ex, you need a strategy, and we can do this together.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Book in a <\/span>free 15 minute consultation<\/span><\/a> to see how you can make next year the one where you deal with the trauma of your divorce, and plan the life you deserve to live.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}”]<\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_code disabled_on=”on|on|on” _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” disabled=”on” global_colors_info=”{}”]{ “@context”: “https:\/\/schema.org”, “@type”: “FAQPage”, “mainEntity”: [ { “@type”: “Question”, “name”: “How can I prepare emotionally for dealing with my high conflict ex at Christmas?”, “acceptedAnswer”: { “@type”: “Answer”, “text”: “Start by noticing what you are expecting from your ex and from yourself. Be honest about what usually happens, and how it leaves you feeling. 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Focus on staying steady and emotionally available for your children. Do not bad-mouth your ex to them, even if you feel tempted. Instead, validate your children\u2019s feelings and reassure them that adult issues are not their responsibility. Keep a record of any worrying behaviour and seek legal or professional advice if you are concerned about their emotional or physical safety.<\/p>\n [\/et_pb_accordion_item][et_pb_accordion_item title=”Q: How can I create a peaceful Christmas even if my ex is being difficult?” _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}” open=”off”]<\/p>\n A:<\/strong> Christmas does not have to be perfect to be meaningful. You can create your own traditions, however small: a special breakfast, a walk, a film night in pyjamas. Keep plans simple and manageable so you are not overstretched. Give yourself permission to say no to people or events that drain you. The goal is not to prove anything to your ex, but to create enough calm and connection for you and your children to feel safe and cared for.<\/p>\n [\/et_pb_accordion_item][\/et_pb_accordion][et_pb_text _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}”]<\/p>\n Emma Heptonstall,<\/b><\/a><\/span>\u00a0the Divorce Alchemist is the author of the Amazon best-selling book\u00a0How to be a Lady Who Leaves, the Ultimate Guide to Getting Divorce Ready<\/b><\/span><\/a>. A former lawyer, Emma is a family mediator and founder of Get Divorce Ready, the online self-study programmes, and the newly released \u2018Should I be a Lady Who Leaves?\u2019<\/p>\n Emma has been featured on BBC Radio, The Telegraph, the iPaper and in Marie Claire Magazine. Emma is also the host of\u00a0\u00a0The Six Minute Divorce Podcast<\/b><\/span><\/a>. 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High-conflict relationships dont disappear during the festive period. So if you are feeling stressed about the holidays ahead this article will help you. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":19887,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"on","_et_pb_old_content":" If only your narcissistic ex was a dim and distant memory. Sadly, it\u2019s not always possible to consign them to past history. If you have children, or shared assets during and after divorce, you will usually need to maintain some sort of contact. So how do you deal with your high conflict ex at Christmas? <\/span><\/p> How do you know if your ex is high conflict? There are some key behaviours to watch out for. You can read more about those and how to manage your high conflict divorce right here<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p> When it comes to Christmas it\u2019s likely those behaviours will manifest in two main ways. Remember that high conflict types thrive on drama, and they need to either be the best or be the victim. So your ex will either:<\/span><\/p> Or maybe some of both, just to spice things up a bit. <\/span><\/p> There are hundreds of ways your ex could display these behaviours, tailored to your circumstances. Here are a few of the most common:<\/span><\/p> Their Christmas is the BEST Christmas. The shiniest, sparkliest, most magical Christmas. They try to outdo you at every turn, from showering the children with extravagant gifts, to planning high-end getaways.<\/span><\/p> There won\u2019t be the usual school plays, nativities or get-togethers this year. But you may well end up all in the same place. And your ex will make a great show of being the loving parent. Compliments will flow. They will expect to get all the attention \u2013 from the children and from anyone else. Of course, they want the world to know who\u2019s No.1 parent. <\/span><\/p> Alternatively, Christmas is cancelled. They are too stressed, depressed or over-worked to do anything. Christmas isn\u2019t happening for them this year \u2013 whatever your children want. They drain the Christmas cheer from you, from your children, and fill the space with their own needy gloom.\u00a0<\/span><\/p> The children are supposed to be with you by midday on Christmas day for lunch? Your ex will drop them at 2pm. <\/span><\/p> You need to leave to see Uncle Steve for Boxing Day? They\u2019ll be late. Or when you have the children they\u2019ll constantly call and demand to speak to them.<\/span><\/p> Forewarned is forearmed. If you suspect your ex might pull any of these stunts, get ready now. You can\u2019t control how they\u2019ll behave, but you can get plans in place to limit the damage.<\/span><\/p> Your ex will use any grey areas to their advantage. So make sure you have a clear, written plan for what\u2019s happening. If you have a court order, make sure you both know what it covers. If it\u2019s an agreement between you, reiterate the rules. Document everything so there can be no excuses. Having evidence that you are being clear, fair and child-focussed will serve you well if there are future court hearings. <\/span><\/p> Stick to the plan. You can\u2019t control whether they turn up late, but you can stick to your plan like glue. This shows your ex that you\u2019re not up for negotiation \u2013 a strategy that draws you back into their world. So don\u2019t play tit-for-tat if they\u2019re half an hour late. You be on time. Don\u2019t agree to any changes to the written plan. You want your ex to know you mean what you say. Don\u2019t reply to messages on Christmas Day if it\u2019s your time with the children. Focus on the children. <\/span><\/p> Yes, it\u2019s unfair and totally out of order if they\u2019re late bringing the kids back. It\u2019s fine to reiterate the agreement: \u201cWe agreed midday. It\u2019s now 2 pm. That\u2019s not ok.\u201d But don\u2019t rage or get upset in front of them \u2013 it will add fuel to the fire. Narcissists and other high conflict personality types thrive on drama. Don\u2019t give them any. <\/span><\/p> If you secretly suspect your ex will try to jeopardise your plans, think about what you will do if it comes to pass. Hopefully, you won\u2019t need a Plan B. But if you do it will be a lot easier on your stress levels if you\u2019ve thought about it already. And your children will be able to roll with it better too. <\/span><\/p> How to deal with your high conflict ex at Christmas? <\/span>I know I say this a lot, but it\u2019s true: the only thing you can control is your own behaviour. Not your ex\u2019s. So, while it\u2019s easier said than done, try to shift your attention from them. Focus on what you do instead. Focus on your relationship with your children, and the Christmas you can have together.<\/span><\/p> It\u2019s likely to look different from other Christmases. This year we have Covid-19 to contend with, as well as everything else. And that can be sad, and frustrating. It can also be an opportunity for a big reset. Spend some time now with your children agreeing what you\u2019d love to do together. Get their ideas, and follow through on them if you can.<\/span><\/p> You may be pleasantly surprised \u2013 it often isn\u2019t the fancy trips to Santa that hold the most magic. It\u2019s the chance to stay up late watching Christmas movies, eating chocolate until everyone feels sick. Or whatever works for you and your brood. <\/span><\/p> So decide what you want from this Christmas.\u00a0 <\/span>Throw away the rulebook and make your own. If it\u2019s fish and chips in the woods instead of turkey dinner, do it. If your children are desperate to introduce you to minecraft, indulge them. Remember, Christmas isn\u2019t really about the glitz and presents. It\u2019s about taking a break from daily routine and connecting with one another. <\/span><\/p> The absolute best way to deal with your ex is with civility. Be boring. Give them no way in to your inner world. This is incredibly hard to do. But it\u2019s essential.<\/span><\/p> So have your support crew around you. Don\u2019t rage at your ex, but do vent at trusted friends. Bash out angry emails and then delete them without sending. If your ex can\u2019t be trusted to give the children a merry time over Christmas, enlist others to help. Meet up with another family (if allowed). Go for a walk in the woods collecting holly. Have a Christmas TV night together.<\/span><\/p> And think about what you want and need from Christmas yourself. You don\u2019t need to burn out creating magical memories for everyone. Your children need their mum. <\/span><\/p> Take time for yourself and take shortcuts if you want to. Is your six year old really going to tell the difference between goose fat-basted roast potatoes or the Aunt Bessie\u2019s ones from the freezer section? Or would they be just as happy with a buffet style Christmas lunch? <\/span><\/p> Ditch the guilt. You are as entitled to a relaxing Christmas as everyone else. If that means putting the toddler in front of the CBeebies Christmas panto while you have a zoom prosecco party with friends, do. <\/span><\/p> If you\u2019re stressed about Christmas, I can help.\u00a0 <\/span>I\u2019m the UK\u2019s only divorce coach with specialist training in high conflict divorce. <\/span><\/p> I have slots available for 1-1 sessions, to help you work through issues and create a plan. And December is the last month you can join The Absolute Academy for the bargain price of \u00a3147 per month. I\u2019m in there a lot! We have weekly Q&As, group chats by zoom, and a lively community of supportive women all rooting for you. <\/span><\/p> I\u2019m taking my first Christmas off in years from 18 December, so just get in touch with me<\/span><\/a> before then and we can work out a plan together.<\/span><\/p> Emma Heptonstall,<\/strong><\/a>\u00a0the Divorce Alchemist is author of the Amazon best selling book\u00a0How to be a Lady Who Leaves, the Ultimate Guide to Getting Divorce Ready<\/strong><\/a>. A former lawyer, Emma is a family mediator and founder of Get Divorce Ready the online self-study and group programmes. Emma has been featured on BBC Radio, The Telegraph, the iPaper and in Marie Claire Magazine. 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<\/span>Splash the Christmas cash<\/span><\/i><\/span><\/h3>\n
<\/span>Play the victim<\/span><\/i><\/span><\/h3>\n
<\/span>Sabotage your plans<\/span><\/i><\/span><\/h3>\n
<\/span>How to prepare for your high conflict ex at Christmas<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>Have a clear agreement<\/span><\/i><\/span><\/h3>\n
<\/span>Hold your boundaries<\/span><\/i><\/span><\/h3>\n
<\/span>Don\u2019t show emotion<\/span><\/i><\/span><\/h3>\n
<\/span>Have a Plan B<\/span><\/i><\/span><\/h3>\n
<\/span>Focus on you and the children\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>Get the support you need this Christmas\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>Get the trauma responsive divorce support you need<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n
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<\/span>FAQs – Dealing with a difficult ex at Christmas<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>About Emma<\/span><\/h2>\n
How to deal with your high conflict ex at Christmas<\/span><\/h1>
Know their MO<\/span><\/h2>
What might that mean for your Christmas?<\/span><\/h2>
They spend like crazy.<\/i><\/span><\/h3>
They hog the limelight<\/i><\/span><\/h3>
They play the victim<\/i><\/span><\/h3>
They ruin your plans<\/i><\/span><\/h3>
How to deal with your high conflict ex at Christmas?<\/span><\/h2>
Be prepared<\/span><\/h2>
Have a clear plan<\/i><\/span><\/h3>
Hold your boundaries<\/i><\/span><\/h3>
Don\u2019t show emotion<\/i><\/span><\/h3>
Have a Plan B<\/i><\/span><\/h3>
Focus on you and the children<\/span><\/h2>
Get the support you need<\/span><\/h2>
I can help<\/span><\/h2>
About Emma<\/h2>