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Breaking news! The kindle edition of \u2018How To Be A Lady Who Leaves: The Ultimate Guide To Getting Divorce Ready\u2019<\/span><\/a> will be on sale for 99p! The powers-that-be at Amazon don\u2019t tell me exactly when that will happen, annoyingly. But it will be over the Christmas and New Year 2021 period. So this blog\u2019s all about how and why you should read How To Be A Lady Who Leaves for 99p.<\/span><\/p>\n Let\u2019s start with you now. Christmas Day has come and gone. How was it for you? <\/span><\/p>\n Did you get chance to relax and take time for yourself? Were you able to ride the waves of divorce grief, if that\u2019s what you\u2019re experiencing at this emotional time of year? There\u2019s still plenty of Christmas holiday time left, so if you want to make sure you do get time to look after yourself take a read of my blog \u2018Divorce Grief at Christmas\u2019 here.<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n These days between Christmas and New Year are often when time loses all meaning. Days merge into one another on the sofa, with turkey sandwiches and chocolate biscuits keeping us going. Or maybe you\u2019re striking out for a dose of fresh air on a bracing winter walk. Whatever you\u2019re up to, these quiet winter days are time to replenish. <\/span><\/p>\n \u2018Replenish\u2019 will have different meanings for all of us. Maybe you\u2019re the sort of person who likes to feel as prepared and in control as possible. So the best way for you to replenish is to use this time to gently get on top of things \u2013 organise paperwork. Do some research. Get your divorce affairs in order.<\/span><\/p>\n Or maybe you\u2019re the sort of person who needs to switch off the pressures and the \u2018shoulds\u2019 from the outside world for a while. Lose yourself in these hazy days. Everything can wait.<\/span><\/p>\n Both are totally valid approaches to the final days of 2020. Do whatever you need to do. In either case, bagging yourself a 99p copy of How To Be A Lady Who Leaves<\/span><\/a> will serve you well. <\/span><\/p>\n Here\u2019s how reading How To Be A Lady Who Leaves will help you get ready for divorce in 2021.<\/i><\/span><\/p>\n Read How To Be A Lady Who Leaves<\/em> – this book isn\u2019t<\/i> about convincing you to get divorced. How do you know whether you\u2019re just crabby with your spouse after a tough year? Or whether it really is the end (and a brand new start)? It\u2019s a crucial distinction and one that the book opens with. So if you\u2019re thinking there\u2019s hope for your marriage yet \u2013 get the book! <\/span><\/p>\n The early chapters will take you through a whole series of exercises and questions to help you make the right decision for you. And if you decide to work on your marriage, that\u2019s great. The work you will have done in the book will give you some valuable starting points. <\/span><\/p>\n In principle, divorce is simply legal administration. It\u2019s paperwork that ends a legal contract between you and your spouse. In reality, it\u2019s a hot, human, emotional mess. Of course it is. The decision to leave is never easy or painless; even if you\u2019re 100% sure it\u2019s the right one for you. It\u2019s the second most stressful life event going, after the death of a child or spouse. <\/span><\/p>\n So this book doesn\u2019t start with what forms you need to complete, or how to instruct a solicitor. It starts with you. It starts with your emotional health, your headspace and your vision for the future. <\/span><\/p>\n In the words of an Amazon reviewer: \u201c<\/span>So many friends had ideas based on hear-say as to how to leave my husband but I needed fact, support, clarity and compassion… this book had these in bucket loads!\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n So, yes, we\u2019ll get to the facts. We\u2019ll get to how divorce works in England and Wales and how you can navigate that process as smoothly as possible. But this book is also about support and compassion. Don\u2019t underestimate how much of that you need.<\/span><\/p>\n Divorce is a vastly different ballgame if you\u2019re experiencing domestic abuse. The absolute priority is your safety. <\/span><\/p>\n How To Be A Lady Who Leaves dedicates a whole section to how to leave when you are in an abusive situation. And how to keep yourself and your children safe as the divorce process unfolds. <\/span><\/p>\n Getting divorced is not a sprint. It\u2019s a marathon and it\u2019s easy to run out of energy. The sheer juggernaut of the divorce process can have you diving for the duvet and procrastinating. But to get your divorce done, you need to keep chipping away. <\/span><\/p>\n Knowing the right order to do things is critical to keeping going. I will help you tackle everything in achievable steps, so you know you are making the progress you need. <\/span><\/p>\n Household finances can be messy. And they can be daunting, especially if your other half has mostly taken charge of the money. But, to be a lady who leaves you need to get a handle on your numbers. There\u2019s no getting away from it. <\/span><\/p>\n And it doesn\u2019t have to be scary. I take you through exactly what you need to do so you can plan for a secure, independent future. And she shows you how to organise your finances so you have everything in order for the courts. <\/span><\/p>\n The number one worry most of my clients who are parents have is how to support their children through the divorce process. From how to break the news, to how to decide living arrangements, divorce and children is a tricky, emotional mix. But, if you\u2019re in an unhealthy marriage, \u2018staying together for the kids\u2019 is not a smart option \u2013 it doesn\u2019t do you or them any good. <\/span><\/p>\n \u2018How To Be A Lady Who Leaves\u2019 takes you through all the options for managing the situation when children are involved. From how to support their emotional needs as well as your own, to how to manage parenting decisions when you and your ex are no longer together. <\/span><\/p>\n The first thing many people do when they decide to divorce is to consult a solicitor. This is a huge, costly mistake. Why? Because a solicitor is simply there to process the legal side of divorce. <\/span><\/p>\n There\u2019s an awful lot of work to do before you get to that stage. You need to know what you want and need for your future. You need to understand your financial situation. You need to be processing grief and building a support team around you. <\/span><\/p>\n Your solicitor should not be the entirety of your support team. Most solicitors are not counsellors, and using them as such is expensive and unsatisfying! So let this book guide you first. Get to grips with what you want and need. Understand what\u2019s possible, and then find a solicitor who can help you with the legal side from a position of confidence. <\/span><\/p>\n As I said at the very start, the mysterious powers at Amazon have ultimate control over when the book goes on sale for 99p. So keep checking here!<\/span><\/a> <\/span><\/p>\n And do spread the word \u2013 if you have friends or family members who have suffered this year and you think they might need this book, now\u2019s the time to act! <\/span><\/p>\n Buying the book isn\u2019t a nail in the coffin for your marriage, if you\u2019re on the fence about it. It simply helps you make smart, informed choices about your future. It\u2019s not only about doing divorce well \u2013 it\u2019s about doing life well. Figuring out what you want and making a plan for it to happen. <\/span><\/p>\n Once I\u2019m back in the New Year I\u2019d love to help you as you make decisions about your divorce. Doors to my supportive, proactive membership community The Absolute Academy<\/span><\/a> are always open \u2013 you can find more about that here. <\/span><\/p>\n And if you need a chat \u2013 book one in for January here<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n For now \u2013 happy reading! <\/span><\/p>\n Emma Heptonstall,<\/strong><\/a>\u00a0the Divorce Alchemist is author of the Amazon best selling book\u00a0How to be a Lady Who Leaves, the Ultimate Guide to Getting Divorce Ready<\/strong><\/a>. A former lawyer, Emma is a family mediator and founder of Get Divorce Ready the online self-study and group programmes. Emma has been featured on BBC Radio, The Telegraph, the iPaper and in Marie Claire Magazine. To find out more visit\u00a0www.emmaheptonstall.com<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Read \u2018How To Be A Lady Who Leaves\u2019 For 99p! Breaking news! The kindle edition of \u2018How To Be A Lady Who Leaves: The Ultimate Guide To Getting Divorce Ready\u2019 will be on sale for 99p! The powers-that-be at Amazon don\u2019t tell me exactly when that will happen, annoyingly. But it will be over the […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":16063,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"on","_et_pb_old_content":" Breaking news! The kindle edition of \u2018How To Be A Lady Who Leaves: The Ultimate Guide To Getting Divorce Ready\u2019<\/span><\/a> will be on sale for 99p! The powers-that-be at Amazon don\u2019t tell me exactly when that will happen, annoyingly. But it will be over the Christmas and New Year 2021 period. So this blog\u2019s all about how and why you should read How To Be A Lady Who Leaves for 99p.<\/span><\/p> Let\u2019s start with you now. Christmas Day has come and gone. How was it for you? <\/span><\/p> Did you get chance to relax and take time for yourself? Were you able to ride the waves of divorce grief, if that\u2019s what you\u2019re experiencing at this emotional time of year? There\u2019s still plenty of Christmas holiday time left, so if you want to make sure you do get time to look after yourself take a read of my blog \u2018Divorce Grief at Christmas\u2019 here.<\/a><\/span><\/p> These days between Christmas and New Year are often when time loses all meaning. Days merge into one another on the sofa, with turkey sandwiches and chocolate biscuits keeping us going. Or maybe you\u2019re striking out for a dose of fresh air on a bracing winter walk. Whatever you\u2019re up to, these quiet winter days are time to replenish. <\/span><\/p> \u2018Replenish\u2019 will have different meanings for all of us. Maybe you\u2019re the sort of person who likes to feel as prepared and in control as possible. So the best way for you to replenish is to use this time to gently get on top of things \u2013 organise paperwork. Do some research. Get your divorce affairs in order.<\/span><\/p> Or maybe you\u2019re the sort of person who needs to switch off the pressures and the \u2018shoulds\u2019 from the outside world for a while. Lose yourself in these hazy days. Everything can wait.<\/span><\/p> Both are totally valid approaches to the final days of 2020. Do whatever you need to do. In either case, bagging yourself a 99p copy of How To Be A Lady Who Leaves<\/span><\/a> will serve you well. <\/span><\/p> Here\u2019s how reading How To Be A Lady Who Leaves will help you get ready for divorce in 2021.<\/i><\/span><\/p> Read How To Be A Lady Who Leaves<\/em> - this book isn\u2019t<\/i> about convincing you to get divorced. How do you know whether you\u2019re just crabby with your spouse after a tough year? Or whether it really is the end (and a brand new start)? It\u2019s a crucial distinction and one that the book opens with. So if you\u2019re thinking there\u2019s hope for your marriage yet \u2013 get the book! <\/span><\/p> The early chapters will take you through a whole series of exercises and questions to help you make the right decision for you. And if you decide to work on your marriage, that\u2019s great. The work you will have done in the book will give you some valuable starting points. <\/span><\/p> In principle, divorce is simply legal administration. It\u2019s paperwork that ends a legal contract between you and your spouse. In reality, it\u2019s a hot, human, emotional mess. Of course it is. The decision to leave is never easy or painless; even if you\u2019re 100% sure it\u2019s the right one for you. It\u2019s the second most stressful life event going, after the death of a child or spouse. <\/span><\/p> So this book doesn\u2019t start with what forms you need to complete, or how to instruct a solicitor. It starts with you. It starts with your emotional health, your headspace and your vision for the future. <\/span><\/p> In the words of an Amazon reviewer: \u201c<\/span>So many friends had ideas based on hear-say as to how to leave my husband but I needed fact, support, clarity and compassion... this book had these in bucket loads!\u201d<\/span><\/p> So, yes, we\u2019ll get to the facts. We\u2019ll get to how divorce works in England and Wales and how you can navigate that process as smoothly as possible. But this book is also about support and compassion. Don\u2019t underestimate how much of that you need.<\/span><\/p> Divorce is a vastly different ballgame if you\u2019re experiencing domestic abuse. The absolute priority is your safety. <\/span><\/p> How To Be A Lady Who Leaves dedicates a whole section to how to leave when you are in an abusive situation. And how to keep yourself and your children safe as the divorce process unfolds. <\/span><\/p> Getting divorced is not a sprint. It\u2019s a marathon and it\u2019s easy to run out of energy. The sheer juggernaut of the divorce process can have you diving for the duvet and procrastinating. But to get your divorce done, you need to keep chipping away. <\/span><\/p> Knowing the right order to do things is critical to keeping going. I will help you tackle everything in achievable steps, so you know you are making the progress you need. <\/span><\/p> Household finances can be messy. And they can be daunting, especially if your other half has mostly taken charge of the money. But, to be a lady who leaves you need to get a handle on your numbers. There\u2019s no getting away from it. <\/span><\/p> And it doesn\u2019t have to be scary. I take you through exactly what you need to do so you can plan for a secure, independent future. And she shows you how to organise your finances so you have everything in order for the courts. <\/span><\/p> The number one worry most of my clients who are parents have is how to support their children through the divorce process. From how to break the news, to how to decide living arrangements, divorce and children is a tricky, emotional mix. But, if you\u2019re in an unhealthy marriage, \u2018staying together for the kids\u2019 is not a smart option \u2013 it doesn\u2019t do you or them any good. <\/span><\/p> \u2018How To Be A Lady Who Leaves\u2019 takes you through all the options for managing the situation when children are involved. From how to support their emotional needs as well as your own, to how to manage parenting decisions when you and your ex are no longer together. <\/span><\/p> The first thing many people do when they decide to divorce is to consult a solicitor. This is a huge, costly mistake. Why? Because a solicitor is simply there to process the legal side of divorce. <\/span><\/p> There\u2019s an awful lot of work to do before you get to that stage. You need to know what you want and need for your future. You need to understand your financial situation. You need to be processing grief and building a support team around you. <\/span><\/p> Your solicitor should not be the entirety of your support team. Most solicitors are not counsellors, and using them as such is expensive and unsatisfying! So let this book guide you first. Get to grips with what you want and need. Understand what\u2019s possible, and then find a solicitor who can help you with the legal side from a position of confidence. <\/span><\/p> As I said at the very start, the mysterious powers at Amazon have ultimate control over when the book goes on sale for 99p. So keep checking here!<\/span><\/a> <\/span><\/p> And do spread the word \u2013 if you have friends or family members who have suffered this year and you think they might need this book, now\u2019s the time to act! <\/span><\/p> Buying the book isn\u2019t a nail in the coffin for your marriage, if you\u2019re on the fence about it. It simply helps you make smart, informed choices about your future. It\u2019s not only about doing divorce well \u2013 it\u2019s about doing life well. Figuring out what you want and making a plan for it to happen. <\/span><\/p> Once I\u2019m back in the New Year I\u2019d love to help you as you make decisions about your divorce. Doors to my supportive, proactive membership community The Absolute Academy<\/span><\/a> are always open \u2013 you can find more about that here. <\/span><\/p> And if you need a chat \u2013 book one in for January here<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p> For now \u2013 happy reading! <\/span><\/p> Emma Heptonstall,<\/strong><\/a>\u00a0the Divorce Alchemist is author of the Amazon best selling book\u00a0How to be a Lady Who Leaves, the Ultimate Guide to Getting Divorce Ready<\/strong><\/a>. A former lawyer, Emma is a family mediator and founder of Get Divorce Ready the online self-study and group programmes. Emma has been featured on BBC Radio, The Telegraph, the iPaper and in Marie Claire Magazine. 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<\/span>Make the right decision<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>Get into the right headspace<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>Get to safety<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>Create a to-do list that works<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>Get a handle on your finances<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>What about the children?<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>Save money<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>Read How to be a Lady Who Leaves now!<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>About Emma<\/span><\/h2>\n
Read \u2018How To Be A Lady Who Leaves\u2019 For 99p!<\/span><\/h1>
Tune into what you need now<\/span><\/h2>
Make the right decision<\/span><\/h2>
Get into the right headspace<\/span><\/h2>
Get to safety<\/span><\/h2>
Create a to-do list that works<\/span><\/h2>
Get a handle on your finances<\/span><\/h2>
What about the children?<\/span><\/h2>
Save money<\/span><\/h2>
Read How to be a Lady Who Leaves now!<\/span><\/h2>
About Emma<\/h2>