{"id":18549,"date":"2022-12-12T06:30:05","date_gmt":"2022-12-12T06:30:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/?p=18549"},"modified":"2022-12-07T13:29:21","modified_gmt":"2022-12-07T13:29:21","slug":"three-ways-to-have-peace-of-mind-with-your-divorce-this-christmas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/three-ways-to-have-peace-of-mind-with-your-divorce-this-christmas\/","title":{"rendered":"Three ways to have peace of mind with your divorce this Christmas"},"content":{"rendered":"

Putting your divorce down over Christmas is a powerful, empowering act. It allows you to step away, and get a fresh perspective. It means you can have time reconnecting with yourself, and loved ones. And it means you will be ready to act in the new year. But how can you stop your divorce looming over you through the festive season? Here are three ways to have peace of mind with your divorce this Christmas.<\/p>\n

<\/span>Give yourself a break<\/span><\/h2>\n

You may have already decided that Christmas is when you\u2019re going to motor ahead with your divorce. There are lots of reasons why many of us don\u2019t feel full of seasonal cheer over Christmas: maybe it isn\u2019t something you celebrate, religiously or culturally. Maybe you have difficult family relations and you\u2019d rather treat Christmas as \u2018just another day\u2019. Maybe your divorce means Christmas feels extra poignant and painful this year, and you just want to throw everything at it being over.<\/p>\n

Whatever your feelings about the Christmas period, one thing is true. It\u2019s pretty much the only time of year in the UK when the whole country stops for a few days. Yes, emergency services are still in place, thank goodness. But, most offices, workplaces, schools and community services close. This makes it a perfect opportunity for you to take a break too.<\/p>\n

If you try and motor ahead with your divorce over Christmas you\u2019ll be swimming against the tide. The courts will wind down and be on skeleton staff. It\u2019s likely your legal team will be on annual leave. Friends and family might lend a listening ear, but ultimately they want to switch off too.<\/p>\n

That doesn\u2019t mean you can\u2019t do some organising and decision-making. If this is the only time you get some headspace, maybe because your children are with their other parent, then, go for it. As I\u2019ll go on to explain in a moment, facing things head on can bring a sense of peace, rather than hiding and avoiding.<\/p>\n

But put boundaries around it. Decide in advance which will be \u2018divorce days\u2019 and which will be complete days off. The days off are worth their weight in gold. We all need recovery time. Our ability to problem solve and respond creatively comes into play when we take some time away from what we\u2019re dealing with. Just think of Archimedes and his \u2018eureka!\u2019 moment in the bath!<\/p>\n

And give yourself as much time off as possible.<\/p>\n

<\/span>Take charge<\/span><\/h2>\n

Taking time off doesn\u2019t just mean heaving a huge sigh of relief and running away! Fear and avoidance can play a huge part of divorce – and they can mean we self sabotage. Remember that you are the CEO of your divorce. However difficult a situation is, you need to deal with it. Sometimes you need rest, advice, or help before you can do that properly, but you still need to be able to understand the situation for what it is.<\/p>\n

So, before you put away your divorce for Christmas, give yourself some time to put everything in order:<\/p>\n