It\u2019s a bank holiday here in the UK: how are you spending it? Have you got the tree down already and can\u2019t wait to get the children back to school? Or are you holding onto the last of the holidays, not ready to look 2023 in the eye yet? Either is fine! And, either way, today feels like a good time to introduce myself and what Divorce Alchemy is all about.<\/p>\n
\u2026I want you to know you\u2019re in safe hands. Whether it\u2019s you who made the decision to leave, or your spouse who did the leaving, you\u2019re in the right place. Here\u2019s what you can expect:<\/p>\n
You may be feeling a whole host of emotions about your separation and divorce. Maybe loss is front and centre at the moment, and contemplating a different future feels too much. Maybe you\u2019re drowning in the logistics of life as a single person and parent. Perhaps you are desperate to get your spouse out of your life. Maybe you\u2019ve made peace with it all and are looking forward to the next phase. Maybe you feel all of these things at once!<\/p>\n
It\u2019s all valid, and normal. You will experience a rollercoaster of emotions as you divorce, just as you do when someone dies. I\u2019ve written more about grief and divorce here<\/a>.<\/p>\n Every divorce is unique, just as every marriage is unique. Your family circumstances, your financial situation, the extent to which you and your spouse are able to divorce amicably are all factors in how you can approach the divorce process. But, whatever happens, it\u2019s important to focus on you and your future. Of course, you need to make space to grieve, and to go at the right pace for you. But I see so many women wasting precious energy (let alone time and money) raking over the past, and playing power games because they don\u2019t want to let their other half \u2018win\u2019.<\/p>\n Divorce isn\u2019t about winning and losing. Done well, divorce is a process of closure: one that sets you up for a healthy and positive future. This time of year is great for planning: I encourage all my clients to have a vision for their future, and I urge you to as well. How would you like to end 2023? Be both positive and realistic. Once you\u2019ve sketched that out, what are the steps you need to take to get there?<\/p>\n I\u2019ve told you a little about Divorce Alchemy, and what I do to help women through divorce. But how much do you know about me? Here are five facts about me, Emma, the person behind Divorce Alchemy:<\/p>\n It might surprise you that I don\u2019t go around advocating divorce. In fact, the entire first chapter of How To Be A Lady Who Leaves<\/em> is all about whether the decision to leave is the right one. And here\u2019s why: if the cause of your unhappiness is you, you\u2019ll leave and nothing will have changed. Life will have just got more complicated (and probably more acrimonious). You take yourself with you.<\/p>\n Sounds harsh? Yes, but, it\u2019s a truth told with your very best interests at heart. As a coach my job is to help you make the best decisions for you, and that means working on yourself sometimes. The good news is that it means your future is in your hands, whether you divorce or not.<\/p>\n Are you serious about divorce? You can be seriously considering it, or seriously determined to go: both are important. And I can help you with both! Pre-order your copy of How To Be A Lady Who Leaves<\/em> before 9 January, and you can join my webinar on getting started absolutely free. And don\u2019t worry if you can\u2019t make it live, I\u2019ll send you the recording!<\/p>\n Pre-order your book here<\/a><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Emma Heptonstall,<\/b><\/a><\/span>\u00a0the Divorce Alchemist is the author of the Amazon best-selling book\u00a0How to be a Lady Who Leaves, the Ultimate Guide to Getting Divorce Ready<\/b><\/span><\/a>. A former lawyer, Emma is a family mediator and founder of Get Divorce Ready the online self-study and group programmes. Emma has been featured on BBC Radio, The Telegraph, the iPaper and in Marie Claire Magazine. Emma is also the host of\u00a0\u00a0The Six Minute Divorce Podcast<\/b><\/span><\/a>. To find out more visit\u00a0www.emmaheptonstall.com<\/b><\/span><\/a><\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" It\u2019s a bank holiday here in the UK: how are you spending it? Have you got the tree down already and can\u2019t wait to get the children back to school? Or are you holding onto the last of the holidays, not ready to look 2023 in the eye yet? Either is fine! 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<\/span>Finally, the big question: is divorce right for you?<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>About Emma<\/span><\/h2>\n