What is a divorce community and what can it do for you? A divorce community might be a new concept to you so in this blog we\u2019ll dig into exactly what it\u2019s about. I\u2019ve run The Absolute Academy for nearly five years now, and supported hundreds of women through their divorces. But how does it work and why should you join? Here are five benefits of joining a divorce community.<\/p>\n
You get access to two vital resources when you\u2019re part of The Absolute Academy. The private, secret Facebook group is where all the chat and interaction happens. I\u2019m in there regularly and host a live Q&A every week. Consider my brains yours for the picking! I\u2019m also supported by two wonderful moderators, both of whom have extensive experience of divorce and supporting people through change. They\u2019re on hand to help too.<\/p>\n
As well as all that, you get access to a portal full of toolkits and training about how to navigate divorce. Everything from what to do first to communication with your soon-to-be-ex to how to broach financial settlements. Some of it is information you could probably find yourself searching Google, but this way you\u2019ll have it at your fingertips, instantly. And, of course, you could always ask your solicitor, but they bill for every six minutes\u2019 work, so it adds up!<\/p>\n
Everyone in The Absolute Academy gets it. They\u2019re going through divorce themselves. You can show up with no pretence. It\u2019s great to have your sister, or your best friend for support. But they will always come with baggage: they’re informed by their own experience. And they love you, it can be hard for them to see you upset.<\/p>\n
Whether it\u2019s frustration that the children are refusing to see their other parent, or doubting yourself about whether your soon-to-be-ex is being unreasonable, or admitting you just want to walk away, The Absolute Academy members have your back. We are all there for you. We\u2019ll help you connect with your own strength, call out your soon-to-be ex\u2019s BS and get your life back on track.<\/p>\n
Divorce is hard. It\u2019s not fun. And what do we do with hard, not-fun things? We avoid them. The trouble is, the more you avoid your divorce the longer you stay stuck. The more life you waste, and, often, the more money you waste, too. It\u2019s absolutely vital to take charge of your divorce. Otherwise you\u2019ll let your soon-to-be-ex take control.<\/p>\n
Taking control doesn\u2019t mean never stopping. It doesn\u2019t mean taking your ex-spouse to the cleaners. It means making a plan of action, and taking steps forward. That includes resting. But the important thing is, it\u2019s you setting your own agenda.<\/p>\n
We all know that good intentions can fall by the wayside as life gets in the way. But The Absolute Academy means you have a place to go to stay on track. To declare your intentions and ask for support. To share your deliberations and update on your progress. To be seen, heard and validated.<\/p>\n
Believe me, this makes all the difference. It doesn\u2019t exactly make your divorce fun, but it makes it a whole lot more positive. And, it means you are much more likely to get on and do the things to get a settlement you\u2019re happy with. As well as gain confidence along the way.<\/p>\n
There are so many online spaces these days. How do you know who to trust? You\u2019re in safe hands in The Absolute Academy.<\/p>\n
I\u2019ve been working with divorcing women for a decade. I\u2019ve worked as a lawyer, a mediator and a coach. I\u2019m a High Conflict Diversion Specialist. I know what I\u2019m talking about! And my trusted moderators are there to ensure The Absolute Academy remains a safe place for everyone.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s a private, secret Facebook Group so no-one will know you\u2019re a member. And you can use a pseudonym in there if you want to.<\/p>\n
One of the first things I tell people who have decided to divorce is to wait before instructing a solicitor. Why? Because they are expensive! And their expertise is in the legal process. The first steps you need to take for your divorce (unless you are in danger) are not legal ones. You need to get your head in order first. To get to grips with the emotional and logistical problems of separation. And to think about what you want and need from the future. A solicitor could advise you on all of this, but it would cost thousands!<\/p>\n
When you\u2019re in The Absolute Academy you\u2019ll learn how to manage your own divorce process. You\u2019ll learn when a solicitor is most useful, and which aspects you can handle yourself. You\u2019ll understand whether you need to delegate to other specialists, such as financial advisers. By doing all of this you\u2019ll put yourself in the best position to get a settlement that\u2019s right for you, and you won\u2019t be racking up costs in six minute intervals from the solicitor\u2019s office!<\/p>\n
\u2026 to join The Absolute Academy at 2021\u2019s rates. From 1 February it will go up to \u00a3225\/month for new members. So if you know 2023 is the year you want to take charge of your divorce, get on with your future and feel proud of what you can do, come and join us today<\/a>!<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Emma Heptonstall,<\/b><\/a><\/span>\u00a0the Divorce Alchemist is the author of the Amazon best-selling book\u00a0How to be a Lady Who Leaves, the Ultimate Guide to Getting Divorce Ready<\/b><\/span><\/a>. A former lawyer, Emma is a family mediator and founder of Get Divorce Ready the online self-study and group programmes. Emma has been featured on BBC Radio, The Telegraph, the iPaper and in Marie Claire Magazine. Emma is also the host of\u00a0\u00a0The Six Minute Divorce Podcast<\/b><\/span><\/a>. To find out more visit\u00a0www.emmaheptonstall.com<\/b><\/span><\/a><\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" What is a divorce community and what can it do for you? A divorce community might be a new concept to you so in this blog we\u2019ll dig into exactly what it\u2019s about. I\u2019ve run The Absolute Academy for nearly five years now, and supported hundreds of women through their divorces. But how does it […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":18641,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[20,12,4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-18640","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-divorce-coaching","category-divorce-support","category-thinking-about-a-divorce"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/Five-benefits-of-joining-a-divorce-community.jpg?fit=1000%2C516&ssl=1","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p6aDhr-4QE","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/18640","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=18640"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/18640\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/18641"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=18640"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=18640"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=18640"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}<\/span>About Emma<\/span><\/h2>\n