{"id":19378,"date":"2023-12-07T06:30:09","date_gmt":"2023-12-07T06:30:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/?p=19378"},"modified":"2024-03-27T11:47:18","modified_gmt":"2024-03-27T11:47:18","slug":"how-to-decide-whether-to-divorce","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/how-to-decide-whether-to-divorce\/","title":{"rendered":"Should I Be A Lady Who Leaves: How To Decide Whether to Divorce"},"content":{"rendered":"

How do you know if your relationship is over? Leaving might be the best thing you ever do for yourself. Or you might be walking away from something really special, something that just needs some TLC and attention to get back on track. In this blog we dive deep into the decision-making process, so you can start to answer the most important of questions: Should I Be A Lady Who Leaves?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>You\u2019re questioning your relationship and you want answers<\/span><\/h2>\n

In her bestseller memoir <\/span>Untamed <\/span><\/i>Glennon Doyle writes about how she\u2019d stay up late at night Googling things like:\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2018Should I leave my husband?\u2019<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2018He\u2019s a good dad, should I end our marriage?\u2019<\/span><\/p>\n

As you might expect, she didn\u2019t find her answers on Google. And you\u2019re not going to find your answers there either. Or from me – I can\u2019t say whether you should be a lady who leaves, and if anyone else tells you they can, they\u2019re lying.<\/span><\/p>\n

This is a decision only you can make for yourself. Because, ultimately, this isn\u2019t a decision about your relationship. It\u2019s about you.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>Start with you<\/span><\/h2>\n

One of the most important things I tell all my clients is this: you can\u2019t control what other people do. Only what you do. This is absolutely critical to remember if you do decide to leave, and you\u2019re dealing with the rollercoaster of the divorce process. But it\u2019s also absolutely critical to remember now.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

One of the things I\u2019ve seen over and over again is women leaving a relationship hoping it will fix their life. Leaving, on its own, isn\u2019t a quick fix. Why? Because you take yourself with you. So all the problems, anxieties and emotional baggage you carry (and we all have it), will go with you too.<\/span><\/p>\n

I\u2019m telling you this because I want to be completely honest. It would be unscrupulous of me, as a divorce coach, to pretend that leaving is the answer to everything. For many women, it is absolutely the right move. But only when it\u2019s done for the right reasons.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

If you\u2019re considering leaving because:<\/span><\/p>\n