{"id":19474,"date":"2024-06-06T06:30:01","date_gmt":"2024-06-06T05:30:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/?p=19474"},"modified":"2025-11-18T13:14:41","modified_gmt":"2025-11-18T13:14:41","slug":"who-needs-a-divorce-coach","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/who-needs-a-divorce-coach\/","title":{"rendered":"Who needs a divorce coach? 5 groups of people (and one who doesn\u2019t)"},"content":{"rendered":"

The online world is awash with myths and misunderstandings about divorce coaching – what it is and who it\u2019s for. In truth, I\u2019ve worked with hundreds of women, from TV producers to teachers, from homemakers to luxury property brokers. So, who needs a divorce coach? If you fall into one of the five groups I share in this blog, I know I can help save you time, money and emotional energy in your divorce. There is one group of people I\u2019m not best placed to help, though. Read on to find out who they are!<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>1. Women who want value for time and money as they divorce<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n

One of the myths you\u2019ll hear about divorce coaching is that it\u2019s only for people who can\u2019t afford legal representation. Absolutely not true! While a divorce coach can be a valuable lifeline for people who choose or need to self represent (more on that in a moment), those in higher wealth marriages still want value for money and to plan for their future.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

One of my clients, who works in the media world, is working with me over the next six months, and has also budgeted for a lawyer she has a rapport with, and who understands her situation inside out. Working with me means she has 360 insight on her divorce and her future, and can have more focussed discussions with her legal team, rather than them being the first port of call for everything. Which will save her money.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Could this client afford to pay the legal team, without having me in the picture? Yes, if she had to. But working 1-1 with me means she gets clarity on what she wants and needs. It\u2019s more efficient and more cost effective. And, in her words, \u2018Why would I pay more if I can get exactly what I need with you?\u2019<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>2. Women who want or need to self-represent in their divorce<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n

Some of my clients do indeed self-represent in their divorce. Some, because they have no other choice. Some hadn\u2019t ever intended to self-represent but after working with me they realise their situation isn\u2019t as complex as they\u2019d feared, and they are perfectly capable of doing it themselves with minimal fuss and legal expense.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

If you are forced into self-representation due to finances, then a divorce coach can be such a valuable investment. If money is tight I absolutely understand that it can feel like a leap of faith to spend on professional support in your divorce. But it can save you thousands, even tens or hundreds of thousands, in terms of your future life. A mistake, or lack of knowledge about financial planning can mean you are left with a settlement that\u2019s unfair and inadequate.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

A divorce coach can help you get clear on what you want and need, and make a plan that\u2019s within your means. Which might mean a shift in lifestyle. It might mean some big changes. All of which you are capable of taking control of, I promise. We can work through it together.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>3. Women who need to be tactical about legal support<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n

If there is any complexity around marital assets, you have children, or shared business interests, it is usually a good idea to enlist legal support at some stage. However, instructing a solicitor is not an all or nothing deal. It\u2019s perfectly possible to take charge of some parts of the process yourself, and bring in the professionals tactically. Which means you save yourself money.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

I help you to map out what you want from both divorce and your post-divorce life. I help you step into the mindset of being the CEO of your divorce – which is what you are. And then you can make informed decisions about how and when to instruct a solicitor. You do the elements you can, you instruct them to do the elements you\u2019d rather have in professional hands. You\u2019re in charge. It\u2019s as simple as that.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>4. Women who want to break patterns and understand themselves better<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n

Most women who seek out divorce coaching want help \u2018sorting their divorce out\u2019. Which they get from working with me, of course. But what actually happens through divorce coaching is they \u2018sort themselves out\u2019. Which has a legacy far greater than the Final Consent Order. It means you get a clear understanding on:<\/span><\/p>\n