{"id":19475,"date":"2024-06-20T06:30:15","date_gmt":"2024-06-20T05:30:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/?p=19475"},"modified":"2024-06-03T08:48:07","modified_gmt":"2024-06-03T07:48:07","slug":"ways-a-divorce-coach-can-help-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/ways-a-divorce-coach-can-help-you\/","title":{"rendered":"5 ways a divorce coach can help you"},"content":{"rendered":"

What does a divorce coach do anyway? In a nutshell, I\u2019ll save you time, money and emotional energy. But how? Read on to find out five game-changing ways a divorce coach can help you in your divorce.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>1. Figure out what\u2019s important (in divorce and life)<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n

All of the coaching I do, whether it\u2019s 1-1, in the Get Divorce Ready programme or Should I Be A Lady Who Leaves, starts with the question of what\u2019s important to you first. Because that sets your course. Your values are guiding lights to help you decide your next steps. Without those, you\u2019re working blind.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Of course, values work is something you can explore without a coach. But it\u2019s so much more powerful with someone asking the right questions, lovingly calling you out, validating you and holding you accountable.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s at the foundation of everything.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>2. Save money in your divorce\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n

There are two ways a divorce coach can save you money in your divorce. One: by reducing the amount you spend on solicitor\u2019s fees. Remember, solicitors bill in six minute increments, and they bill for absolutely everything – including reading the emails you send. So if you have your vision and your plan sorted first, you\u2019re not paying for as many of those six minutes!\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Secondly, a divorce coach can help you assess your financial big picture so you don\u2019t miss out on longer term financial security. So many women have a \u2018that will do, I just want it over now\u2019 approach to settlement. Which is understandable. But if you\u2019re not fully informed, you could be setting yourself up for a future that\u2019s harder than it needs to be.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>3. Save time<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n

It is possible to divorce without any professional help whatsoever – from me, from a legal team, from a financial adviser. But you\u2019ll be second guessing yourself. You won\u2019t know whether the choice you\u2019re making is right for you.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

A divorce coach won\u2019t tell you what decision to make, but I will share knowledge and context about the legal situation, grounded in my expertise both within the legal profession and coaching. I\u2019ll also help you clarify your own thinking so you make smart choices that protect your future. And you\u2019ll get there a whole lot quicker and with more confidence than going it alone.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>4. Build your divorce team<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n

Anyone who\u2019s getting divorced needs a team around them, and they will get one, whether consciously or not. If nothing else, friends and family will support you – sometimes in ways you don\u2019t want or ask for!\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

A divorce coach helps you map out exactly where you are, mentally, emotionally and practically, with your divorce.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

All that overwhelm you\u2019re feeling settles as you start to realise where it comes from. And then you can pinpoint the support you need. For some women, emotional support has to come first. For others, having a friend step in to help with the school run once or twice a week can be all it takes to free up a little headspace and time to get things moving. For others, a financial adviser is the first place to start, as the marital assets are complicated.<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s not just the roles people play that are important. It\u2019s the personalities too. Rapport with your team is vital. After decades of supporting women through divorce I know plenty of experts who can help. Whether it\u2019s finding the right match in terms of the ethos of your legal support, or the particular financial specialism you need, I have the names and the networks to help.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>5. Trust yourself<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n

This sounds fluffy but it\u2019s not. Trust in yourself might be the greatest price you paid for your marriage. And it\u2019s the greatest gift divorce has to offer you. Most women who have decided to leave, or who have been left, are stuck with that \u2018How did I get here?\u2019 question. They question their judgement on getting married in the first place. They question whether they should have left years ago. They question their reality – \u2018was it really that bad?\u2019, \u2018Do I really need to fight for the pension?\u2019<\/span><\/p>\n

A divorce coach will give you a safe place to stand. I\u2019ll help you ground yourself in what matters (see back to point one) and build a path from there. I won\u2019t let you give up on yourself. You\u2019ll prove to yourself just how confident, capable and smart you really are. Before thinking about your relationship with anyone else, we\u2019ll make sure your relationship with yourself is rock solid.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t matter whether you\u2019ve worked with a coach before. It doesn\u2019t matter whether your divorce is complex, high wealth, high conflict, or not. If you want to save time, money and emotional energy in your divorce, and you\u2019re willing to bring yourself to the party, I\u2019d love to work with you. Just book in a <\/span>free 15 minute consultation<\/span><\/a> to see how I can help you shape your future.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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<\/span>About Emma<\/span><\/h2>\n

Emma Heptonstall,<\/b><\/a><\/span>\u00a0the Divorce Alchemist is the author of the Amazon best-selling book\u00a0How to be a Lady Who Leaves, the Ultimate Guide to Getting Divorce Ready<\/b><\/span><\/a>. A former lawyer, Emma is a family mediator and founder of Get Divorce Ready, the online self-study programmes, and the newly released \u2018Should I be a Lady Who Leaves?\u2019. For More Information on Should I be a Lady Who Leaves?\u00a0click here<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Emma has been featured on BBC Radio, The Telegraph, the iPaper and in Marie Claire Magazine. Emma is also the host of\u00a0\u00a0The Six Minute Divorce Podcast<\/b><\/span><\/a>. To find out more visit\u00a0www.emmaheptonstall.com<\/b><\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

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