{"id":19549,"date":"2025-01-23T06:30:07","date_gmt":"2025-01-23T06:30:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/?p=19549"},"modified":"2024-12-17T09:43:12","modified_gmt":"2024-12-17T09:43:12","slug":"the-five-things-you-need-to-know-about-your-divorce-in-2025","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/the-five-things-you-need-to-know-about-your-divorce-in-2025\/","title":{"rendered":"The five things you need to know about your divorce in 2025"},"content":{"rendered":"

Take it from me, as one of the most established divorce coaches in the UK, and the UK\u2019s only High Conflict Diversion Specialist, there\u2019s a right way and a wrong way to go about divorce. Here are the five things you need to know about your divorce in 2025. <\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>1. The only permission you need is from yourself<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

I see so many women doing mental gymnastics over this. Finding reasons to stay because they feel as though they should. You are important. You deserve to live for you: not just for your children, and certainly not for your marriage.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Speak your truth – to yourself first. If your marriage isn\u2019t up to scratch, you are worth more than that. Does that mean divorce? Not always. But it does mean looking reality in the eye, being honest with yourself and your spouse.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

One of my clients, Brenda, booked a session with me last year to work through all her thoughts and feelings. She left the call much clearer about what she wanted from her life and marriage. It turned out that her husband didn\u2019t want the same things, and so, for them, divorce was the healthiest option. Another client, Liz, had a similar conversation with me later that year. She really clarified what was missing from her marriage, and found the confidence to address it with her husband. And, for them, it turned things around, and their marriage is back on track. <\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>2. You can do it<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

You are competent enough just as you are. You have what it takes to navigate divorce and come out the other side even stronger. Even if you don\u2019t feel like it right now.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you are chaotic and disorganised just be compassionately honest with yourself about your strengths and weaknesses. You\u2019ll need some support but you are a grown up and you can do this! Need help creating a plan? I can help! ADHD? I can definitely help with that. Want to get smart with finances? We can do it together.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

It all starts with putting yourself in the driving seat, and getting real about what you need. <\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>3. You won\u2019t regret it<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

Grief and sadness that you didn\u2019t get the marriage you hoped for is one thing. It\u2019s not the same thing as regretting leaving. If you\u2019ve thought about what you want and need from your marriage and your life, and you\u2019re not getting it, there\u2019s nothing to regret.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

If you\u2019ve not done that work, you need to get your hands on <\/span>Should I Be A Lady Who Leaves?<\/a><\/strong>, the online course that takes you through everything you need to consider to make this important decision.<\/span><\/p>\n

Is divorce easy? No. But even if conflict is high and your ex makes it utterly miserable you still won\u2019t regret putting your needs first. In fact it will give you more evidence that you\u2019re doing the right thing!\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

There will never be a \u2018right\u2019 time with enough money or time or space. It won\u2019t get easier, it will just get later, so why not now? And if there is a specific family reason to delay for a few months, such as your children about to sit their GCSES, there\u2019s lots you can do quietly to prepare, and I\u2019m happy to guide you. But don\u2019t let the stories you tell yourself keep you stuck. You don\u2019t want to be reading this next year and nothing\u2019s changed! <\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>4. Ask for help<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

Yes, you can do it (see point 2!). But it\u2019s easier with help, and depending on your circumstances, the right professional help might be essential. If you\u2019re right at the start of your divorce, do this quick self-audit now:<\/span><\/p>\n