{"id":19678,"date":"2025-06-19T06:00:25","date_gmt":"2025-06-19T05:00:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/?p=19678"},"modified":"2025-10-28T17:10:41","modified_gmt":"2025-10-28T17:10:41","slug":"5-ways-a-divorce-community-will-support-you-and-one-red-flag","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/5-ways-a-divorce-community-will-support-you-and-one-red-flag\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Ways a Divorce Community Will Support You (And One Red Flag)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>[et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; background_size=&#8221;initial&#8221; background_position=&#8221;top_left&#8221; background_repeat=&#8221;repeat&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; custom_padding=&#8221;|||&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; custom_padding__hover=&#8221;|||&#8221;][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; background_size=&#8221;initial&#8221; background_position=&#8221;top_left&#8221; background_repeat=&#8221;repeat&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_82_2 ez-toc-wrap-center counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-custom ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title ez-toc-toggle\" style=\"cursor:pointer\"> Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\"><span class=\"ez-toc-js-icon-con\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #064239;color:#064239\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #064239;color:#064239\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/5-ways-a-divorce-community-will-support-you-and-one-red-flag\/#1_access_to_tool_kits_live_training_and_resources\">1. Access to tool kits, live training and resources<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/5-ways-a-divorce-community-will-support-you-and-one-red-flag\/#2_be_seen_heard_and_understood\">2. Be seen, heard and understood<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/5-ways-a-divorce-community-will-support-you-and-one-red-flag\/#3_get_to_the_heart_of_what_matters\">3. Get to the heart of what matters<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/5-ways-a-divorce-community-will-support-you-and-one-red-flag\/#4_save_money\">4. Save money<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/5-ways-a-divorce-community-will-support-you-and-one-red-flag\/#5_there_when_you_need_it\">5. There when you need it<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-6\" href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/5-ways-a-divorce-community-will-support-you-and-one-red-flag\/#divorce_communities_the_red_flag_to_watch_out_for\">Divorce communities: the red flag to watch out for<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-7\" href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/5-ways-a-divorce-community-will-support-you-and-one-red-flag\/#frequently_asked_questions\">frequently Asked Questions<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-8\" href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/5-ways-a-divorce-community-will-support-you-and-one-red-flag\/#about_emma\">About Emma<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\nIf you\u2019ve ever wondered what the point of a divorce community is, read on! The Absolute Academy has been running for<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> 9 years<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> now, and has supported hundreds of women in that time. Here\u2019s what you can expect when you join:<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1_access_to_tool_kits_live_training_and_resources\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">1. Access to tool kits, live training and resources<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No more feeling like you don\u2019t know where to start, or whether to just accept your soon-to-be-ex\u2019s financial plan, because you want it all to be over and you don\u2019t know whether it makes sense!\u00a0<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Everyone joining the Absolute Academy gets access to a portal of resources and live training. From next step lists, to templates, to decision-making tools, these are materials you can access whenever you need them, for as long as you\u2019re part of the community.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2_be_seen_heard_and_understood\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">2. Be seen, heard and understood<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the things my members find most valuable is having a safe space where everyone gets it. This is a place to get everything off your chest (though there\u2019s a caveat, which I share in the red flag below!). It\u2019s a place to get a sanity-check, from members and from me. It\u2019s also an action-place, where you can galvanise yourself to move forward.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you\u2019re an Absolute Alchemy member, you can make as much use of the weekly Q&amp;As and Zoom calls\u00a0 as you need, so you have my support on the specifics of your situation, week in, week out.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3_get_to_the_heart_of_what_matters\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">3. Get to the heart of what matters<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">My members tell me that the zoom calls are where the deepest shifts happen. I host these every week, and we get right into what\u2019s going on for you in your divorce. The zooms are where it gets real, and where you remember exactly who you are.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4_save_money\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">4. Save money<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It costs just \u00a3147 per month to be part of the Absolute Academy (or even less, \u00a397, if you opt out of the zooms and Q&amp;A and become an Absolute Essentials member). For some women, it makes the difference between spending thousands on a solicitor or self representing. For others, they realise they can be much more tactical in how they instruct a solicitor, deploying them at certain points in the process. Again, they save thousands of pounds. And they also get the confidence that comes with knowing they\u2019ve taken control of their divorce.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5_there_when_you_need_it\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">5. There when you need it<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Let\u2019s be real &#8211; you can\u2019t be focussed on your divorce everyday, or every week. Life gets in the way, and I always encourage my clients to factor in breaks when they consciously put the divorce down and step away for a while in any case, because that break can bring clarity and a much needed reset. <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you\u2019re a member of The Absolute Academy you can tap into the resources and community on your terms. It\u2019s part of your support system that you can use as and when you need it.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"divorce_communities_the_red_flag_to_watch_out_for\"><\/span>Divorce communities: the red flag to watch out for<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are other divorce communities out there. I\u2019m so proud of this one.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I\u2019m one of the UK\u2019s most experienced divorce coaches (I think there were only two of us when I first started!) and I care deeply about the women I support. This isn\u2019t a large scale, packed to the rafters group. I\u2019m limiting the number of women joining this summer to 20, because I want everyone in there to be able to have my attention when you want and need it. Our zoom calls and Q&amp;As go DEEP.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It\u2019s not my style to talk about what other people are doing, I like to stay in my lane. But if you are looking into other divorce communities, I do urge you to check what their purpose is, and what sort of support you get.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Because, quite often, intentionally or otherwise, divorce communities can keep you stuck. They can become talking shops where you vent about your soon-to-be-ex, and read horror stories of what other people have been through. And, while there is a need to get things off your chest, a divorce coach running a community has a responsibility to offer more than that. It\u2019s about helping you move through difficult times, not relive them.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, do your due diligence. Make sure you\u2019re being supported by someone you trust, with a solid track record. Make sure that the community is about helping you take charge of your life and divorce.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I fully encourage my members to leave the Absolute Academy when they have completed their divorce. Many choose to stay on a little longer after the final order so they can \u2018land\u2019 and gather their thoughts, and recover, and that\u2019s fine &#8211; I won\u2019t push you out! But I won\u2019t encourage you to stay in limbo either.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So if you know that by Christmas you want your divorce done, or to be feeling as though it\u2019s absolutely in hand and you can look forward to 2026 with your head held high, I\u2019d love you to join us now.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And everyone who joins gets a 30 minute 1:1 welcome call with me too. A coaching session to give you the motivation and direction to get this divorce DONE!\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/the-absolute-academy\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>Join us here<\/strong><\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. I can\u2019t wait to support you this summer! <\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; hover_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243; sticky_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243;]<\/p>\n<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"frequently_asked_questions\"><\/span>frequently Asked Questions<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_accordion open_toggle_text_color=&#8221;#064239&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; toggle_text_color=&#8221;#064239&#8243; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_accordion_item title=&#8221;Q: Why is it important to consider using a Divorce Community?&#8221; open=&#8221;on&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p>A: Divorcing with the support of a community will help shape your decisions. You&#8217;ll be guided, gently challenged when necessary and have a team of women who have your back.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_accordion_item][et_pb_accordion_item title=&#8221;Q: How do a I choose the right  divorce community for me?&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; open=&#8221;off&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p>A: Choosing the right divorce community is important. Consider what you want and need from it. Consider the size, ethos and the expertise of the person running the community.\u00a0 Do you want to lurk or be an active participant?<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_accordion_item][et_pb_accordion_item title=&#8221;Q: What can I expect from a divorce community?&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; open=&#8221;off&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"1174\" data-end=\"1258\">A: That depends on the type of community you choose and how it functions. Generally larger groups are self-moderated, smaller bespoke groups will be more curated. You can choose between free and paid support<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_accordion_item][et_pb_accordion_item title=&#8221;Q: What are the benefits of paying to be in a divorce community?&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; open=&#8221;off&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p>A: Paid divorce communities are structured, have resources and the group is moderated by its leader. They tend not to enable prolonged venting but are curated to move you forward. Some are run by former lawyers who have a deeper and wider understanding of divorce and can support your education as opposed to purely emotional support.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_accordion_item][\/et_pb_accordion][et_pb_text admin_label=&#8221;About Emma&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"about_emma\"><\/span>About Emma<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p class=\"p2\"><span class=\"s1\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/about-me-emma-heptonstall\/\" data-abc=\"true\"><b>Emma Heptonstall,<\/b><\/a><\/span>\u00a0the Divorce Alchemist is the author of the Amazon best-selling book\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.co.uk\/How-Be-Lady-Who-Leaves\/dp\/1999631501\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-abc=\"true\"><span class=\"s1\"><b>How to be a Lady Who Leaves, the Ultimate Guide to Getting Divorce Ready<\/b><\/span><\/a>. A former lawyer, Emma is a family mediator and founder of Get Divorce Ready, the online self-study programmes, and the newly released \u2018Should I be a Lady Who Leaves?\u2019. For More Information on Should I be a Lady Who Leaves?\u00a0<strong><a class=\"ProsemirrorEditor-link\" href=\"https:\/\/emmaheptonstall.com\/yes\">click here<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p class=\"p2\">Emma has been featured on BBC Radio, The Telegraph, the iPaper and in Marie Claire Magazine. Emma is also the host of\u00a0\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/gb\/podcast\/the-six-minute-divorce-podcast-with-emma-heptonstall\/id1547792197\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-abc=\"true\"><span class=\"s1\"><b>The Six Minute Divorce Podcast<\/b><\/span><\/a>. 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The Absolute Academy has been running for 9 years now, and has supported hundreds of women in that time. Here\u2019s what you can expect when you join&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":19679,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"on","_et_pb_old_content":"<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[ez-toc]If you\u2019ve ever wondered what the point of a divorce community is, read on! The Absolute Academy has been running for<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> 9 years<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> now, and has supported hundreds of women in that time. Here\u2019s what you can expect when you join:<\/span><\/p><h2><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">1. Access to tool kits, live training and resources<\/span><\/h2><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No more feeling like you don\u2019t know where to start, or whether to just accept your soon-to-be-ex\u2019s financial plan, because you want it all to be over and you don\u2019t know whether it makes sense!\u00a0<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Everyone joining the Absolute Academy gets access to a portal of resources and live training. From next step lists, to templates, to decision-making tools, these are materials you can access whenever you need them, for as long as you\u2019re part of the community.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><h2><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">2. Be seen, heard and understood<\/span><\/h2><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the things my members find most valuable is having a safe space where everyone gets it. This is a place to get everything off your chest (though there\u2019s a caveat, which I share in the red flag below!). It\u2019s a place to get a sanity-check, from members and from me. It\u2019s also an action-place, where you can galvanise yourself to move forward.<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you\u2019re an Absolute Alchemy member, you can make as much use of the weekly Q&As and Zoom calls\u00a0 as you need, so you have my support on the specifics of your situation, week in, week out.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><h2><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">3. Get to the heart of what matters<\/span><\/h2><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">My members tell me that the zoom calls are where the deepest shifts happen. I host these every week, and we get right into what\u2019s going on for you in your divorce. The zooms are where it gets real, and where you remember exactly who you are.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><h2><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">4. Save money<\/span><\/h2><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It costs just \u00a3147 per month to be part of the Absolute Academy (or even less, \u00a397, if you opt out of the zooms and Q&A and become an Absolute Essentials member). For some women, it makes the difference between spending thousands on a solicitor or self representing. For others, they realise they can be much more tactical in how they instruct a solicitor, deploying them at certain points in the process. Again, they save thousands of pounds. And they also get the confidence that comes with knowing they\u2019ve taken control of their divorce.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><h2><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">5. There when you need it<\/span><\/h2><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Let\u2019s be real - you can\u2019t be focussed on your divorce everyday, or every week. Life gets in the way, and I always encourage my clients to factor in breaks when they consciously put the divorce down and step away for a while in any case, because that break can bring clarity and a much needed reset. When you\u2019re a member of The Absolute Academy you can tap into the resources and community on your terms. It\u2019s part of your support system that you can use as and when you need it.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><h2>Divorce communities: the red flag to watch out for<\/h2><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are other divorce communities out there. I\u2019m so proud of this one.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I\u2019m one of the UK\u2019s most experienced divorce coaches (I think there were only two of us when I first started!) and I care deeply about the women I support. This isn\u2019t a large scale, packed to the rafters group. I\u2019m limiting the number of women joining this summer to 20, because I want everyone in there to be able to have my attention when you want and need it. Our zoom calls and Q&As go DEEP.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It\u2019s not my style to talk about what other people are doing, I like to stay in my lane. But if you are looking into other divorce communities, I do urge you to check what their purpose is, and what sort of support you get.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Because, quite often, intentionally or otherwise, divorce communities can keep you stuck. They can become talking shops where you vent about your soon-to-be-ex, and read horror stories of what other people have been through. And, while there is a need to get things off your chest, a divorce coach running a community has a responsibility to offer more than that. It\u2019s about helping you move through difficult times, not relive them.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, do your due diligence. Make sure you\u2019re being supported by someone you trust, with a solid track record. Make sure that the community is about helping you take charge of your life and divorce.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I fully encourage my members to leave the Absolute Academy when they have completed their divorce. Many choose to stay on a little longer after the final order so they can \u2018land\u2019 and gather their thoughts, and recover, and that\u2019s fine - I won\u2019t push you out! But I won\u2019t encourage you to stay in limbo either.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So if you know that by Christmas you want your divorce done, or to be feeling as though it\u2019s absolutely in hand and you can look forward to 2026 with your head held high, I\u2019d love you to join us now.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And everyone who joins gets a 30 minute 1:1 welcome call with me too. A coaching session to give you the motivation and direction to get this divorce DONE!\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/the-absolute-academy\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>Join us here<\/strong><\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. I can\u2019t wait to support you this summer! <\/span><\/p><h2>\u00a0<\/h2><h2 class=\"p1\">About Emma<\/h2><p class=\"p2\"><span class=\"s1\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/about-me-emma-heptonstall\/\" data-abc=\"true\"><b>Emma Heptonstall,<\/b><\/a><\/span>\u00a0the Divorce Alchemist is the author of the Amazon best-selling book\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.co.uk\/How-Be-Lady-Who-Leaves\/dp\/1999631501\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-abc=\"true\"><span class=\"s1\"><b>How to be a Lady Who Leaves, the Ultimate Guide to Getting Divorce Ready<\/b><\/span><\/a>. A former lawyer, Emma is a family mediator and founder of Get Divorce Ready, the online self-study programmes, and the newly released \u2018Should I be a Lady Who Leaves?\u2019. For More Information on Should I be a Lady Who Leaves?\u00a0<strong><a class=\"ProsemirrorEditor-link\" href=\"https:\/\/emmaheptonstall.com\/yes\">click here<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p><p class=\"p2\">Emma has been featured on BBC Radio, The Telegraph, the iPaper and in Marie Claire Magazine. Emma is also the host of\u00a0\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/gb\/podcast\/the-six-minute-divorce-podcast-with-emma-heptonstall\/id1547792197\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-abc=\"true\"><span class=\"s1\"><b>The Six Minute Divorce Podcast<\/b><\/span><\/a>. 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