{"id":19686,"date":"2025-07-17T06:30:32","date_gmt":"2025-07-17T05:30:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/?p=19686"},"modified":"2025-07-01T08:39:56","modified_gmt":"2025-07-01T07:39:56","slug":"5-ways-to-ensure-your-divorce-stays-on-track-over-summer","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/5-ways-to-ensure-your-divorce-stays-on-track-over-summer\/","title":{"rendered":"5 ways to ensure your divorce stays on track over summer"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The summer holidays throw routines into chaos if you\u2019re a parent. And if you\u2019re in the midst of divorce, it can feel like the straw that breaks the camel\u2019s back. But it is possible to stay sane, have fun and keep your divorce progressing. Here are 5 ways to ensure your divorce stays on track over summer:<\/span><br \/>\n<b><\/b><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"let_divorce_go_a_little_over_summer\"><\/span><b>Let divorce go a little over summer<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">First up, the reality is that everything slows down over August. Even if you\u2019re not going away, and want to keep steaming ahead with your work and divorce, other people will have their leave booked in. Solicitors and courts are on go-slow over the summer weeks, that\u2019s just how it is.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The good news is, you don\u2019t have to feel bad about slowing your pace down too. Honestly, it\u2019s okay to have a breather &#8211; you\u2019ll come back more refreshed. If this is going to leave you frustrated, do what you can to get your plan and your paperwork in order so you\u2019re ready to roll when things pick up again. I\u2019m working over August, so I can help you with that!<\/span><b><\/b><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"have_planned_breaks\"><\/span><b>Have planned breaks<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There is a huge energetic difference between deliberately putting something to one side for a while, and avoiding it. You know that nagging feeling you should be getting on with something, and it\u2019s just waiting for you, like a monster under the bed? It is possible to NOT feel like that.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here\u2019s how: you take charge of when the breaks are going to happen. If the school holidays mean the children are around and you\u2019ll have less time for your divorce, own it. Work with the reality you have, don\u2019t feel guilty about it. Decide what absolutely needs to happen and what will have to wait. Then, get on with enjoying summer! If you find it hard to prioritise or say no, let me help you create a strategy that works for you.\u00a0<\/span><b><\/b><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"communicate_clearly\"><\/span><b>Communicate clearly<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you know you\u2019re not going to be available, make sure all the relevant people in your divorce know too, including your soon-to-be-ex. A simple: \u2018I\u2019m on holiday from xx to yy and I won\u2019t be responding to messages during that time\u2019 is enough. It means you set expectations, and your solicitors will know not to chase for anything.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The important thing here is to stick to it. If your soon-to-be-ex is someone who will cross boundaries, harassing you but not taking any responsibility themselves, then filter their number and email away, and only check it once a week.\u00a0<\/span><b><\/b><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"make_time_for_yourself\"><\/span><b>Make time for yourself<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I can\u2019t emphasise this enough, but you need to find pockets of time for yourself. You will parent better, and you\u2019ll also be able to cope with any divorce curveballs better. Make use of holiday clubs. Organise childcare swaps with friends. Use CBeebies. But give yourself some headspace amongst it all.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Members of <\/span><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/the-absolute-academy\/\">The Absolute Academy<\/a><\/strong><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> have access to a private Facebook community, where you can share what\u2019s going on for you and your divorce. You can also join my weekly live Q&amp;As and zoom calls to answer any questions. If you need a place where you can be yourself, and share the realities of managing divorce over summer, this is it!\u00a0<\/span><b><\/b><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"have_a_plan_for_september\"><\/span><b>Have a plan for September<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It\u2019s so much easier to put something down if you know you have a plan to start again. If you\u2019ve ever written a to-do list last thing at night to pick up in the morning, you\u2019ll know this is true!\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">September is when the children are back in school and you can focus on what you need for you and your future. How are you going to make the most of this time so by the time Christmas comes around, you can look back at all the progress you\u2019ve made?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Join <\/span><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/the-absolute-academy\/\">The Absolute Academy<\/a><\/strong><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and you can work through <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Get Divorce Ready<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> live, with me in autumn. I\u2019ll be with you, week by week, as you take the steps you need to divorce your way. By December you\u2019ll be well on your way to the future you want and need.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Got questions about The Absolute Academy and whether you\u2019re better off with the Absolute Essentials for \u00a397\/month, or the full Academy for \u00a3147\/month? Book in your <\/span><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/contact\/\">free 15 minute consultation<\/a><\/strong><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and let\u2019s explore what\u2019s best for you!\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><\/h2>\n<h2 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"about_emma\"><\/span>About Emma<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p class=\"p2\"><span class=\"s1\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/about-me-emma-heptonstall\/\" data-abc=\"true\"><b>Emma Heptonstall,<\/b><\/a><\/span>\u00a0the Divorce Alchemist is the author of the Amazon best-selling book\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.co.uk\/How-Be-Lady-Who-Leaves\/dp\/1999631501\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-abc=\"true\"><span class=\"s1\"><b>How to be a Lady Who Leaves, the Ultimate Guide to Getting Divorce Ready<\/b><\/span><\/a>. A former lawyer, Emma is a family mediator and founder of Get Divorce Ready, the online self-study programmes, and the newly released \u2018Should I be a Lady Who Leaves?\u2019. For More Information on Should I be a Lady Who Leaves?\u00a0<strong><a class=\"ProsemirrorEditor-link\" href=\"https:\/\/emmaheptonstall.com\/yes\">click here<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p class=\"p2\">Emma has been featured on BBC Radio, The Telegraph, the iPaper and in Marie Claire Magazine. Emma is also the host of\u00a0\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/gb\/podcast\/the-six-minute-divorce-podcast-with-emma-heptonstall\/id1547792197\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-abc=\"true\"><span class=\"s1\"><b>The Six Minute Divorce Podcast<\/b><\/span><\/a>. To find out more visit\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/\" data-abc=\"true\"><span class=\"s1\"><b>www.emmaheptonstall.com<\/b><\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The summer holidays throw routines into chaos if you\u2019re a parent. And if you\u2019re in the midst of divorce, it can feel like the straw that breaks the camel\u2019s back. But it is possible to stay sane, have fun and keep your divorce progressing. 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