{"id":19702,"date":"2025-09-18T06:30:21","date_gmt":"2025-09-18T05:30:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/?p=19702"},"modified":"2025-10-20T22:16:23","modified_gmt":"2025-10-20T21:16:23","slug":"the-absolute-academy-a-one-of-a-kind-divorce-support-community","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/the-absolute-academy-a-one-of-a-kind-divorce-support-community\/","title":{"rendered":"5 things that make The Absolute Academy a one of a kind divorce support community"},"content":{"rendered":"

There are so many reasons to join a divorce support community compared with going it alone: you find so many people who get it, who are making the same journey as you, and the support is on hand whenever you need it. But why choose The Absolute Academy? Here are five things to know about my private community for women who want to get their divorce done.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>We are proudly small<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

Years ago I had a free Facebook group. I set it up as a space for women who had decided to leave to come together, and to get to know me and the work I do. It worked well for a long time: women felt supported there, and I connected with some fantastic clients. It grew and grew, and when it was at around the 1000 mark, I took the difficult decision to close it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Why? Because I couldn\u2019t support those women in a group of that size with integrity. Yes, I had a staff team who acted as moderators, and I still do in The Absolute Academy. But it\u2019s important to me that if I\u2019m putting my name to something, and if I\u2019m offering a service to somebody, that I\u2019m able to do it to the best of my ability.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

And so The Absolute Academy is proudly small and perfectly formed. I won\u2019t go over 100 members, certainly not in the foreseeable future. Members have access to me every single week in Q&As and a zoom call, which means you get to ask questions about your specific case and you get real support directly from me.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>We don\u2019t spouse bash<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

I\u2019m all for letting off steam and recognising where your spouse has been a complete tool. There\u2019s space for that. But\u00a0 we don\u2019t have extended spouse bashing, however tempting that might be. Why? It might feel good at the time, to get everything off your chest. But it completely derails your divorce. Anytime you centre your soon-to-be-ex, you\u2019re taking away power from yourself. Here\u2019s what Mandy (not her real name) says about it:<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2018It\u2019s also important to me that Emma doesn\u2019t allow man-bashing. In the community she allows people to share their stories but she doesn\u2019t let us get stuck in man-bashing and ruminating and she guides us away from that because it really isn\u2019t helpful.\u2019<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

And I think that gives you a sense of me as a coach too. I am here for you, and want the very best for you, and that sometimes means setting boundaries. Which is exactly what I encourage you to do too!<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>We time travel<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

I\u2019m a trauma responsive divorce coach. What that really means is that when we work together we work from two points in time: we look after the current you and we look after the future you. And this is so important. If you were only to focus on current you, you might never move forward with your divorce. And if you were only to focus on future you, you might ignore trauma or patterns that have the potential to trip you up in the future.<\/span><\/p>\n

Strategy is about where you want to be. But we also have the present day reality to work with.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>We have fun<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

The Absolute Academy is all about you getting to live your life on your terms. And who says that can\u2019t include fun?! I\u2019ll never forget the zoom call about sex toys\u2026\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019re free to show up in the community as much or little as you need to. Some people rarely comment or post. Others use the group for accountability: \u2018I\u2019m going to send the email today and post in here when I\u2019ve done it!\u2019. As long as you\u2019re respectful, there\u2019s no wrong way to engage, and you\u2019ll be part of a community where you belong, just as you are.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>We know when it’s time to let go<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

Membership of The Absolute Academy isn\u2019t forever. It\u2019s about you navigating life before and during divorce. I certainly don\u2019t boot you out as soon as you receive the Final Order – it\u2019s fine to have time to decompress with people who understand, and can celebrate and commiserate with you.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

But it goes against my values to keep people in the group when they no longer need it. I do keep meaning to develop an alumni community, because so many women have asked for it! Maybe next year\u2026 let me know what you think about that!<\/span><\/p>\n

Want to work through your divorce with my support, and the backing of a community of women who are determined to take back their power? We\u2019d love for you to join us!\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Join the Absolute Academy<\/a><\/strong> from just \u00a397 per month today!\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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<\/span>About Emma<\/span><\/h2>\n

Emma Heptonstall,<\/b><\/a><\/span>\u00a0the Divorce Alchemist is the author of the Amazon best-selling book\u00a0How to be a Lady Who Leaves, the Ultimate Guide to Getting Divorce Ready<\/b><\/span><\/a>. A former lawyer, Emma is a family mediator and founder of Get Divorce Ready, the online self-study programmes, and the newly released \u2018Should I be a Lady Who Leaves?\u2019. For More Information on Should I be a Lady Who Leaves?\u00a0click here<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Emma has been featured on BBC Radio, The Telegraph, the iPaper and in Marie Claire Magazine. Emma is also the host of\u00a0\u00a0The Six Minute Divorce Podcast<\/b><\/span><\/a>. To find out more visit\u00a0www.emmaheptonstall.com<\/b><\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

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