<\/span><\/h2>\nAnd start responding wisely.<\/p>\n
Normalise taking your time to pause, digest and assess. Bossing your divorce means slowing down.<\/p>\n
Here\u2019s what that looks like:
You receive an email from your soon-to-be-ex\u2019s solicitor, demanding some figures by the end of the week.
Reaction: you\u2019re immediately on the defensive, enraged, anxious about getting the information together. You might fire off an angry text to your ex asking them what they\u2019re playing at, and spend the next few days fuming, losing sleep.<\/p>\n
Response: you take a deep breath. You think about the practical content of what\u2019s in the email. Is it reasonable? Are they overstepping or playing powergames? You think about your own needs and time frames. You consult professional help if needed (like me!), to be fully informed. And you reply, \u2018I\u2019ve received your message, thank you. I\u2019m consulting with my team and can have a response for you within ten days.\u2019<\/p>\n
<\/span>2. Stop emotional communication\u2026<\/span><\/h2>\nAnd use BIFF.<\/p>\n
Humans are emotional, of course we are. And emotional communication can be helpful in some situations – think about charity campaigns pulling at your heartstrings. But a CEO mindset focuses on logic as well as emotional intelligence. And when you get drawn into emotional communication with your soon-to-be-ex things usually escalate.<\/p>\n
So use the BIFF method instead. Keep things:
Brief – no unnecessary extras
Informative – stay on point and move your divorce forward
Firm – no giving away your power with things like \u2018if you don\u2019t mind?\u2019
Friendly – in the sense of being civil, not aggressive or passive aggressive.<\/p>\n
<\/span>3. Stop going with the flow\u2026<\/span><\/h2>\nAnd make a plan.<\/p>\n
Of course, it\u2019s good to be flexible. That\u2019s a known CEO quality too. Life is always going to throw you curveballs. But you need a vision for your future – one grounded in ambitious reality. And then you need to put your attention and energy into making it happen.<\/p>\n
<\/span>4. Stop giving away your future\u2026<\/span><\/h2>\nJust for a moment\u2019s peace right now.<\/p>\n
I see this all the time and it breaks my heart. Women walk away from the financial settlement they deserve because they just want it all to be over. It\u2019s a tactic your spouse will use to grind you down. Fight for your future self and stand your ground.<\/p>\n
<\/span>5. Be a boss and stop doing it all yourself\u2026<\/span><\/h2>\nAnd build a team you trust.<\/p>\n
A CEO knows they can\u2019t do everything themselves. They know a successful project requires different skillsets. So they bring in expertise, tactically, while retaining control of the decision-making. You can\u2019t be expected to become a legal and financial expert overnight, or have emotional and strategic insight when you\u2019re deep in stress, maybe trauma. There are professionals who can help you. Invest in them to protect yourself now, and to protect your future.<\/p>\n
Being a CEO of your divorce means you are in control of what you do during divorce, not the other way around. As a trauma responsive divorce strategist with over a decade of experience, I can help you take the action you need now to get the future you deserve.<\/p>\n
Book your free consultation with me today<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/h2>\n[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_code _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}”]