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\u2018Quiet Divorce\u2019 became a buzzword last year, but in truth, it\u2019s been around for centuries – longer, probably! So what is a quiet divorce, and what can you do if you\u2019re in one? Here are five signs you\u2019re in a quiet divorce.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n You have your routines, they have theirs. You go to work, go out with friends separately. Eat separately, or if you eat together, you don\u2019t talk. In the evenings you watch separate things on separate devices. It\u2019s more like being in a flatshare from your twenties than a marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Intimacy doesn\u2019t just mean sex, though in a quiet divorce that\u2019s not usually happening either. It\u2019s also signs of caring – holding hands, smiling, hugging each other. And beyond that, it\u2019s who you feel comfortable with. Who do you turn to when you\u2019re having a bad day? Who do you want to be vulnerable with? If it\u2019s not your spouse, then you\u2019ve lost emotional intimacy too.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Quiet divorces are sometimes called zombie marriages. The marriage is no longer alive. And when you\u2019re living like that, you sink into a rut. You\u2019re going through the motions in life, but nothing is exciting. Living like this affects your mental health as well as your marriage.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Communication is the life-blood of any relationship. If you don\u2019t communicate, beyond the bare minimum, you lose the connection between you. Even arguments can be healthy – they show that you have something invested in the other person. When you can\u2019t even be bothered to argue, something has gone very badly wrong.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n\n
<\/span>You and your spouse lead parallel lives<\/span><\/span><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
<\/span>There\u2019s no intimacy, physical or otherwise<\/span><\/span><\/h3>\n
<\/span>Lack of energy<\/span><\/span><\/h3>\n
<\/span>You don\u2019t talk to one another<\/span><\/span><\/h3>\n