[et_pb_section fb_built=”1″ _builder_version=”4.16″ global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_row _builder_version=”4.16″ background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_column type=”4_4″ _builder_version=”4.16″ custom_padding=”|||” global_colors_info=”{}” custom_padding__hover=”|||”][et_pb_text _builder_version=”4.20.4″ text_font=”Raleway||||||||” text_font_size=”16px” header_font=”|600|||||||” header_text_align=”justify” header_text_color=”#c5b2b1″ header_2_text_align=”justify” header_2_text_color=”#c984a4″ text_orientation=”justified” hover_enabled=”0″ global_colors_info=”{}” sticky_enabled=”0″]<\/p>\n
Just sometimes, people\u2019s eyebrows raise when they learn what I do for a living.<\/p>\n
\u201cDivorce coach? You like seeing marriages end?\u201d<\/p>\n
No. That\u2019s not what it\u2019s about at all.<\/p>\n
I believe we all have the right to be happy. To live lives that fulfil us, with people that fulfil us.<\/p>\n
I believe in marriage. Good marriage. Good marriages are good for us, we live longer and healthier lives, feel more connected and more fulfilled.<\/p>\n
I\u2019m absolutely not in the business of convincing people to get divorced.<\/p>\n
But in my years as a lawyer, mediator and coach, I\u2019ve seen what bad marriages can do to women. I\u2019ve seen the fear, isolation, the frustration of seeing life slip through your fingers. How do you know if you’re ready for divorce?<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n Most of the women I see have dreamed of divorce for YEARS (my own research shows the average is five), yet not taken action because: Five years (more, in many cases) is a long time to be wondering \u2018what if\u2019.<\/p>\n To have your brain going in circles trying to imagine a better future, yet feeling like it\u2019s all too difficult.<\/p>\n I want you to know that you\u2019re not alone. You are not the only woman who\u2019s struggled with doubt over whether she\u2019s making the right decision. Who\u2019s terrified of turning her world, and her family\u2019s world, upside down. Who feels like staying put is the best option.<\/p>\n And, maybe it is. I believe in good marriage, and leaving isn\u2019t for everyone – if there\u2019s a way back to a good marriage, fantastic. But until you look your marriage in the eye, you\u2019ll never know. Everything, absolutely everything, is more terrifying when it\u2019s unknown.<\/p>\n Some women decide they\u2019d like to explore divorce. They start having conversations with their spouse. But they\u2019re not really sure of what they want, or where they want the conversation to go \u2013 so it goes nowhere. Or they turn to family and friends, who are emotionally invested in the marriage too, making it difficult to provide the support and insight needed. Sometimes women run to a solicitor straightaway, hoping they will have the answers. They don\u2019t. Solicitors offer legal advice, but they can\u2019t make decisions about your life for you (and it gets expensive asking them).<\/p>\n Making these moves can often make a tangled situation feel even more overwhelming and complicated.<\/p>\n As soon as you reach out for support and get information you can trust, everything becomes a whole lot more manageable.<\/p>\n And that\u2019s why I created Club D36<\/a><\/strong>.<\/span><\/p>\n Back to my question right at the outset: How do you know you\u2019re ready for divorce<\/strong><\/span>?<\/span><\/strong><\/em> You can read more about the 5 signs that you\u2019re ready for divorce<\/a><\/strong><\/span> on my blog, but ultimately:<\/p>\n You know you\u2019re ready for divorce, or ready to seriously consider divorce, if you\u2019re ready to do something.<\/p>\n Club D36<\/span><\/a><\/strong> is a small, private community of women who are ready to take action. Action doesn\u2019t have to mean packing your bags, or instructing solicitors straightaway (in fact, I believe instructing a solicitor is actually one of the LAST things you should do!). It\u2019s about looking your situation in the eye and taking control of it.<\/p>\n That means: The women in there have invested in themselves and their future. They get it. They support each other through decision-making, and receive regular training and answers from me to guide them through their own particular divorce journey.<\/p>\n No divorce is exactly the same. The law in England and Wales is the same, but what it means for your life will be unique to you. And that\u2019s why divorce can feel so lonely.<\/p>\n But it doesn\u2019t have to. I want you to know that divorce doesn\u2019t mean failure. Done on your terms, with support, divorce means new beginnings, the start of the life you want to be leading.<\/p>\n And it can start today, for just \u00a336 a month<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n \u00a336 which could save you thousands in solicitors\u2019 fees by helping you take charge of your divorce, your way.<\/p>\n You\u2019re probably wondering why it\u2019s called Club D36<\/strong><\/a><\/span>. D36 is the form you fill in to get your Decree Absolute \u2013 the end of your divorce journey. In the club we\u2019re with you every step of the way.<\/p>\n If you\u2019re ready to start taking control of your life and your divorce \u2013 I\u2019d love to see you in there! Come and join us to get started with the rest of your life.<\/p>\n Emma Heptonstall<\/strong><\/a><\/span> The Divorce Alchemist is author of the Amazon best selling book How to be a Lady Who Leaves the Ultimate Guide to Getting Divorce Ready<\/strong><\/a><\/span>. A former lawyer, Emma is a practising family mediator and founder of Get Divorce Ready the online self study and group programme to help you get control of your divorce before it gets control of you. Emma has been featured on BBC Radio, The Telegraph, the iPaper and in Marie Claire Magazine. To find out more visit www.emmaheptonstall.com<\/strong><\/a><\/span><\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" How do you know if you\u2019re ready for divorce? Just sometimes, people\u2019s eyebrows raise when they learn what I do for a living. \u201cDivorce coach? You like seeing marriages end?\u201d No. That\u2019s not what it\u2019s about at all. I believe we all have the right to be happy. To live lives that fulfil us, with […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":4193,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"on","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4185","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-i-want-to-leave-my-husband"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/EH_BlogImage.png?fit=1000%2C516&ssl=1","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p6aDhr-15v","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4185","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4185"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4185\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4193"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4185"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4185"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4185"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}<\/span>Are you dreaming of divorce?<\/span><\/h2>\n
\u2022 They don\u2019t know what to do
\u2022 They\u2019re worried about what people will think
\u2022 They\u2019re worried they can\u2019t handle it
\u2022 They don\u2019t want to jeopardise their financial security
\u2022 They\u2019re worried about the impact on the children<\/p>\n<\/span>Are you ready to do something?<\/span><\/h2>\n
\u2022 Knowing what your options are
\u2022 Knowing what the legal process entails
\u2022 Knowing you are absolutely worth the life you want to lead
\u2022 Surrounding yourself with people who get it.<\/p>\n