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One of the most uncomfortable places to be is on the fence. This is true, both literally (splinters, cold bottoms!) and metaphorically. Our brains like to know what\u2019s next, what the future holds. And sometimes that\u2019s impossible to tell. But life certainly feels easier when we take control of the bits we are<\/i> in control of. In Divorce: How to get off the fence and get on with your future<\/em>, I take a look at how you can make a difference for yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n When it comes to thinking about whether or not to divorce, what can you control? Well, as with everything else, there are two big areas where you get to decide:<\/span><\/p>\n There\u2019s no getting away from the fact that divorce is a difficult, often unhappy business. People don\u2019t enter marriage expecting or wanting divorce, so in that respect, it\u2019s a sad place to be. <\/span><\/p>\n But not all marriages work. That\u2019s just fact. There\u2019s no shame in it. And while it might feel necessary to mentally beat yourself up, or it might feel good to blame your spouse, or others around you, that doesn\u2019t get you into a healthier, happier place. Which you absolutely deserve. <\/span><\/p>\n What does get you closer towards that future life you want is ACTION. It\u2019s having a picture of what you want your life to be, and getting clear on how you can work towards that.<\/span><\/p>\n Life is busy, there\u2019s no getting away from that either. And the way to manage a busy is by prioritising. So the question to ask yourself here is, \u2018What is most important to me?\u2019<\/span><\/p>\n Only you can answer that for yourself. But if you know, deep down, that your marriage is making you unhappy, and what a relief it would be to know how to navigate divorce on your terms, to have a way out, then it\u2019s up to you to prioritise it. Prioritising means getting off the fence and getting on with your future<\/em>.<\/span><\/p>\n Unfortunately big issues like relationships and divorce can often take up more headspace than action space. We can spend more time mulling, browsing websites, going round in circles with friends than actually finding a way forward. <\/span><\/p>\n When time is limited, what you need is a map through the woods. You don\u2019t have time to get lost! And that\u2019s exactly what Get Divorce Ready is. It\u2019s a way to cut through all the noise, and focus on what matters. What matters is you having control of your life and being able to make choices that will help you. <\/span><\/p>\n So what about the things you can\u2019t control?<\/span><\/p>\n Divorce is a legal process, that\u2019s true for all of us, royalty, celebrities, the lot. There are steps you have to take, in the right order. You can\u2019t change that, BUT you can decide when and how to initiate proceedings, when to engage a solicitor so it\u2019s on your terms and costing you less, and be ready with all the information the law requires so things go as smoothly as possible.<\/span><\/p>\n Remember the Morecambe & Wise sketch where Eric says to Andre “I’m playing all the right notes. But not necessarily in the right order”.<\/p>\n<\/span>Where your energy goes<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>Where your time goes<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>The law<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n