{"id":4261,"date":"2018-10-14T20:07:19","date_gmt":"2018-10-14T19:07:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/?p=4261"},"modified":"2025-11-18T12:20:29","modified_gmt":"2025-11-18T12:20:29","slug":"the-one-thing-most-women-dont-realise-about-divorce","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/the-one-thing-most-women-dont-realise-about-divorce\/","title":{"rendered":"The one thing most women don\u2019t realise about divorce"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>[et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; background_size=&#8221;initial&#8221; background_position=&#8221;top_left&#8221; background_repeat=&#8221;repeat&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; custom_padding=&#8221;|||&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; custom_padding__hover=&#8221;|||&#8221;][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; text_font_size=&#8221;16px&#8221; header_text_align=&#8221;justify&#8221; header_text_color=&#8221;#c5b2b1&#8243; header_2_text_align=&#8221;justify&#8221; header_2_text_color=&#8221;#c984b4&#8243; text_orientation=&#8221;justified&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<h1 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">The one thing most women don\u2019t realise about divorce <\/span><\/h1>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_82_2 ez-toc-wrap-center counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-custom ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title ez-toc-toggle\" style=\"cursor:pointer\"> Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\"><span class=\"ez-toc-js-icon-con\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #064239;color:#064239\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #064239;color:#064239\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/the-one-thing-most-women-dont-realise-about-divorce\/#navigating_divorce\">Navigating divorce<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/the-one-thing-most-women-dont-realise-about-divorce\/#divorce_is_an_invitation_back_to_yourself\">Divorce is an invitation back to yourself<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/the-one-thing-most-women-dont-realise-about-divorce\/#reconnecting_with_your_values\">Reconnecting with your values<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/the-one-thing-most-women-dont-realise-about-divorce\/#the_power_of_not_going_it_alone\">The power of not going it alone<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/the-one-thing-most-women-dont-realise-about-divorce\/#divorce_%e2%80%93_the_journey_of_a_lifetime\">Divorce &#8211; the journey of a lifetime<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\nWhen people talk about divorce, it\u2019s usually in terms of stress, expense and emotional turmoil. And that\u2019s not surprising. Divorce is second only to the death of a spouse or child on the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.simplypsychology.org\/SRRS.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Social Readjustment Rating Scale<\/a>. It\u2019s a big deal. And it can be full of heavy decisions, fraught negotiation and logistical difficulties. It\u2019s seen as a necessary evil when marriages have \u2018gone bad\u2019. <em>The one thing most women don&#8217;t realise about divorce<\/em> is that you can <em>feel<\/em> differently about it. You can <em>do<\/em> it differently.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"navigating_divorce\"><\/span>Navigating divorce<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">But what if I were to tell you that divorce can also be the way back to the true you? That it isn\u2019t merely hurdle to be overcome to get your life on track, but it\u2019s actually the key to planning and getting the life you want?<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">What if I said navigating divorce could actually be\u2026 fun? That it can leave you feeling empowered, confident and feeling your best rather than flattened, bruised and needing to pick up the pieces?<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">I\u2019m not exaggerating when I say it\u2019s possible for divorce to be life-changing in a hugely positive way. And I\u2019m not simply talking about the freedom you\u2019ll feel when released from a marriage that no longer makes you happy (though as you\u2019ll see from the women who\u2019s been there in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/the-absolute-academy\/\">The Absolute Academy<\/a>, that\u2019s a fantastic high!). I\u2019m talking about going through the divorce itself. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Think back to the woman you were before your marriage. Someone who knew what she wanted, how to play, how to relax. Think back to a time when life felt fun and seemed so much easier, so much lighter somehow. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">I\u2019ll let you into a secret. That woman is still there. Yes, you may have had a child or two since then, taken on a mortgage or have a more stressful job. You might feel like the only space in your head is filled with what tonight\u2019s dinner will be. But believe me, that woman is still there. She\u2019s even stronger, wilder, more determined and playful than she was a few years ago, because like a good wine or cheese she\u2019s matured beautifully with age! <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">And that woman knows that every step you take towards your divorce is a step that releases her from her sleep. <\/span><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"divorce_is_an_invitation_back_to_yourself\"><\/span><span class=\"s1\">Divorce is an invitation back to yourself<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">When you\u2019ve been unhappy, or simply in \u2018survive\u2019 rather than \u2018alive\u2019 mode for a while, it becomes normal. You start to feel like that\u2019s what life is \u2013 if you can get you and your loved ones safely through each day, job done. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">And yes, when you\u2019re in crisis mode, it\u2019s important not to place heavy expectations on yourself. When you\u2019re up against it, surviving each day is a major victory and I don\u2019t want to take that away from anyone. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">But divorce shakes life up. It forces you to examine everything \u2013 you need to for the legal process and financial settlements for a start. And in that shake-up, you have an opportunity to see how life can be different.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">This isn\u2019t about money, though I\u2019m not underplaying the importance of understanding the financials. It\u2019s about something far more fundamental \u2013 it\u2019s about what you stand for in life. The person you are and want to be. It\u2019s about your values. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Divorce encourages you to go back to basics. To think about what it is that\u2019s most important to you in life and to see where you can start bringing those elements back in, now, from today. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Let\u2019s say \u2018friendship\u2019 is a strong value for you, but over the years friendships have dwindled as your marriage has dominated. You don\u2019t need lots of money or your decree absolute to start rekindling friendships now. Simple actions like reaching out to a friend, inviting someone round for coffee or going out for a drink can mean you start feeling more like the real you right now. <\/span><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"reconnecting_with_your_values\"><\/span><span class=\"s1\">Reconnecting with your values<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">So how do you get back to the person you once were, or, more accurately, the whole person you are now, not just the stressed-out, greyscale version? <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Think back to times in your life when you felt most alive. These might be work-related, family-related, holiday-related\u2026 Make a list \u2013 think of as many things as you can. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Now think about what it was about these times that lit you up. Don\u2019t make the mistake of thinking it was about staying at the luxury beach resort when you were on holiday! Plenty of millionaires live in dreamy beachfront penthouses and are miserable! No, the nugget that made you feel alive at those moments was something inside you. It might be things like:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul class=\"ul1\">\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s1\">A sense of achievement from doing something you love<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s1\">Contentment from being with loved ones<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s1\">Satisfaction from helping others<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s1\">Relaxation from feeling free of burdens<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s1\">Connection with new people<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s1\">Love of being in a beautiful space<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Your list will be personal to you. Give yourself the luxury of twenty minutes, a piece of paper and a cup of tea\/glass of prosecco and enjoy writing down the essence of those lovely memories. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Then choose your top three. Now it\u2019s time to think about how you might start to bring more of those elements into your life. The wonderful thing about values is they are FREE! Even if you love beautiful things, it doesn\u2019t require a huge budget to create a little area of special items within your home, or plant some flowers and herbs in a pot or window box. So take each of your examples in turn and brainstorm all the ways you can make them come alive right now. Then do something, today, to make one of them happen. <\/span><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"the_power_of_not_going_it_alone\"><\/span><span class=\"s1\">The power of not going it alone<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">I\u2019m not claiming it\u2019s easy to feel like you\u2019re taking back control when you\u2019ve got so much going on. Divorce can be a lonely and complicated process. It\u2019s great to reach out to friends and family, but as I\u2019ve discussed in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/who-do-you-need-in-your-divorce-support-team\/\"><span class=\"s2\">a previous blog<\/span><\/a>, they might not always have the best guidance for you, however loving and well-intentioned they are. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">That\u2019s why I offer <a href=\"https:\/\/wp.me\/P6aDhr-11i\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Clarity Over Coffee<\/a> (though I\u2019m not prescriptive \u2013 plenty of clients come to their sessions with a glass of wine in hand!) weekly sessions to walk this journey with you, and help you connect back to that vibrant, playful woman you know you are. We meet virtually for 30 minutes every week to talk about whatever you need, and you also get Voxer messaging (a bit like WhatsApp) for in-between so you can access me whenever you need to. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Ladies use these sessions in all sorts of ways. They are a great, practical tool for making sense of the divorce process and ensuring you\u2019re making decisions that are right for you. But, as I\u2019m a coach not simply a divorce specialist, they are also a way to help you get back to yourself. Over time working with clients I see the colour come back into their lives as they realise:<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Yes, I can do this!<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">I know what I want from life!<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Yes, I am able to live life on my terms, starting now, whatever else is happening!<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"divorce_%e2%80%93_the_journey_of_a_lifetime\"><\/span>Divorce &#8211; the journey of a lifetime<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">When you\u2019re on a journey like this, you don\u2019t go unequipped. You wouldn\u2019t go on a mountain hike without the right gear \u2013 there are no prizes for being frost-bitten and miserable. The same is true of your divorce. Just like scaling Mount Everest, it can be the journey of a lifetime. Tough, yes, uncomfortable at times, certainly. And you\u2019ll need support around you. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">But it also has the potential to be one of the most exhilarating, rewarding experiences you\u2019ll ever have, knowing you\u2019ll come out of it stronger and feeling more alive than ever before. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">If you\u2019re excited about the adventure and curious about how <a href=\"https:\/\/wp.me\/P6aDhr-11i\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Clarity Over Coffee<\/a> can help you, just message me for a no-obligation 15-minute chat.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/contact\/\"><span style=\"font-size: 16px;\"><strong><span style=\"color: #c5b2b1;\">Message Emma<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/about-me-emma-heptonstall\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>Emma Heptonstall,<\/strong><\/a>\u00a0the Divorce Alchemist is author of the Amazon best selling book\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.co.uk\/How-Be-Lady-Who-Leaves\/dp\/1999631501\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>How to be a Lady Who Leaves, the Ultimate Guide to Getting Divorce Ready<\/strong><\/a>. A former lawyer, Emma is a practising family mediator and founder of Get Divorce Ready the online self study and group programmes. Emma has been featured on BBC Radio, The Telegraph, the iPaper and in Marie Claire Magazine. To find out more visit\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>www.emmaheptonstall.com<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The one thing most women don\u2019t realise about divorce <div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_82_2 ez-toc-wrap-center counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-custom ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title ez-toc-toggle\" style=\"cursor:pointer\"> Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\"><span class=\"ez-toc-js-icon-con\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: 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href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/et_pb_layout\/divorce\/#divorce_coaching_for_smart_women\" >Divorce Coaching For Smart Women<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/et_pb_layout\/divorce\/#your_time_is_now\" >Your time is now<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/et_pb_layout\/divorce\/#its_all_about_%e2%80%a6\" >It&#8217;s all about &#8230;<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/et_pb_layout\/divorce\/#clarity\" >Clarity<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/et_pb_layout\/divorce\/#you\" >You<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-6\" href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/et_pb_layout\/divorce\/#and_getting_your_happy_back\" >and getting your happy back<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-7\" href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/et_pb_layout\/divorce\/#claim_your_free_30_minute_discovery_call\" >Claim your FREE 30 minute Discovery Call<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-8\" href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/et_pb_layout\/divorce\/#is_this_you\" >Is this you?<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-9\" href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/et_pb_layout\/divorce\/#i\" >\u00a0<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-10\" href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/et_pb_layout\/divorce\/#thats_where_i_come_in\" >That\u2019s where I come in.<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-11\" href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/et_pb_layout\/divorce\/#i-2\" >\u00a0<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-12\" href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/et_pb_layout\/divorce\/#heres_how_i_can_help_you\" >Here&#8217;s how I can help you<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-13\" href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/et_pb_layout\/divorce\/#work_with_me\" >Work with me<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-14\" href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/et_pb_layout\/divorce\/#divorce_alchemy\" >Divorce Alchemy<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-15\" href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/et_pb_layout\/divorce\/#7_step_divorce_system\" >7 Step Divorce System<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-4' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-4'><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-4' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-4'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-16\" href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/et_pb_layout\/divorce\/#as_featured_on\" >As featured on:<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\nWhen people talk about divorce, it\u2019s usually in terms of stress, expense and emotional turmoil. And that\u2019s not surprising. Divorce is second only to the death of a spouse or child on the Social Readjustment Rating Scale. It\u2019s a big deal. 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