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Procrastination. We can all fall prey to it at some point in our lives. Particularly when there are things that we don’t want to do through fear. But what we resist persists. Is it<\/em> time to get your divorce done?<\/em><\/p>\n The change of year is always a good signal to take stock and look ahead. If you\u2019re in the middle of divorce, or if you\u2019re thinking about it, Christmas can be a difficult time, with fraught tempers and festive pressures. But now it\u2019s time to set that aside and start anew. What does 2019 hold for you? Spend some time thinking and writing about this. Knowing what you want (and don\u2019t want) is essential when it comes to making plans and taking action. A great place to start if you haven’t yet left is my webinar Should I Stay or Should I go? <\/em><\/a> If you’ve already made the decision to divorce and it’s stalling, what’s holding you back?<\/p>\n What did 2018 mean for you? Chances are it\u2019s been a difficult period in your life, with some big emotional and practical struggles. While it\u2019s important to acknowledge the tough times you\u2019ve been through, think about the lessons they have taught you too. Take a pen and paper and reflect on:<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n Once you\u2019ve looked back, it\u2019s time to look ahead to the coming year. What do you want 2019 to be like? How do you want it to feel and what would you like to make happen? As I discuss here<\/a>, divorce gives you an opportunity for a reset, to decide what\u2019s important to you in life and to think about what you stand for. So take some time and think about:<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n Once you\u2019ve set your intentions and goals for the next year, it\u2019s time to clear out the rubbish! There\u2019s no space for everything you are going to achieve if you are holding on to old grudges or beliefs that keep you back. We all have stories in our heads about ourselves and other people. Treat this new year as a time to wipe the slate clean. If you\u2019ve always told yourself you are not good enough (not a good enough mother, not a good enough worker, not a good enough cook \u2013 anything!) wave that belief goodbye with the old year. And while you don\u2019t want to open yourself up to abuse from others who treat you badly, reframe your thoughts to focus on your end goal, rather than being caught up in power struggles with your soon-to-be-ex-husband.<\/p>\n Spend your energy on what you want, not on what other people want you to get drawn into. Finally \u2013 let go of the physical clutter too! If you\u2019ve been holding onto old items from the past, now\u2019s the time to let them go. And if finances allow, treat yourself to something just for you, something that represents a new start. \u00a0Even small changes can help move your mindset to a more positive place. I wish you lots of happiness and fulfilment for 2019! If you want help making your divorce a reality, on your terms, message me and we\u2019ll get going! Whether its Club D36, joining the next round of Get Divorce Ready, or 1:1 coaching you’re looking for, I’m here. Is it<\/em> time to get your divorce done?<\/em><\/p>\n book a call with Emma<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n Emma Heptonstall,<\/strong><\/a>\u00a0the Divorce Alchemist is author of the Amazon best selling book\u00a0How to be a Lady Who Leaves, the Ultimate Guide to Getting Divorce Ready<\/strong><\/a>. A former lawyer, Emma is a practising family mediator and founder of Get Divorce Ready the online self study and group programmes. Emma is featured on BBC Radio, The Telegraph, the iPaper and in Marie Claire Magazine. To find out more visit\u00a0www.emmaheptonstall.com<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Procrastination. We can all fall prey to it at some point in our lives. Particularly when there are things that we don't want to do through fear. But what we resist persists. Is it<\/em> time to get your divorce done?<\/em><\/p> The change of year is always a good signal to take stock and look ahead. If you\u2019re in the middle of divorce, or if you\u2019re thinking about it, Christmas can be a difficult time, with fraught tempers and festive pressures.<\/p> But now it\u2019s time to set that aside and start anew. What does 2019 hold for you? Spend some time thinking and writing about this. Knowing what you want (and don\u2019t want) is essential when it comes to making plans and taking action. A great place to start if you haven't yet left is my webinar Should I Stay or Should I go? <\/em><\/a><\/p> If you've already made the decision to divorce and it's stalling, what's holding you back?<\/p> What did 2018 mean for you? Chances are it\u2019s been a difficult period in your life, with some big emotional and practical struggles. 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If you\u2019ve always told yourself you are not good enough (not a good enough mother, not a good enough worker, not a good enough cook \u2013 anything!) wave that belief goodbye with the old year.<\/p> And while you don\u2019t want to open yourself up to abuse from others who treat you badly, reframe your thoughts to focus on your end goal, rather than being caught up in power struggles with your soon-to-be-ex-husband. Spend your energy on what you want, not on what other people want you to get drawn into.<\/p> Finally \u2013 let go of the physical clutter too! If you\u2019ve been holding onto old items from the past, now\u2019s the time to let them go. And if finances allow, treat yourself to something just for you, something that represents a new start. \u00a0Even small changes can help move your mindset to a more positive place.<\/p> I wish you lots of happiness and fulfilment for 2019! 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<\/span>Start 2019 as you mean to go on!<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>Time to reflect<\/span><\/h2>\n
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<\/span>Time to set goals<\/span><\/h2>\n
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<\/span>Time to let go<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>Time for you<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>The Divorce Alchemist<\/span><\/h2>\n
Is it time to get your divorce done?<\/h1>
Start 2019 as you mean to go on!<\/h2>
Time to reflect<\/h2>
Time to set goals<\/h2>
Time to let go<\/h2>
The Divorce Alchemist<\/h2>