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Last time on the blog I shared the signs that #divorceMonday might be more than media hype for you this year. <\/span><\/p>\n And the number one sign? You\u2019re ready to take action. If you\u2019ve shifted from dreaming about a new life, to looking that reality in the eye and being prepared to make it happen, then this is the right time for you. <\/span><\/p>\n No more nights spent complaining about your spouse with friends over wine, only to carry on as normal until the next time. You\u2019re ready for change. But what are your divorce first steps<\/em>?<\/span><\/p>\n So you know it\u2019s not just the Christmas stress that\u2019s got you on the divorce path. It\u2019s something you\u2019ve thought about for a while, you know life doesn\u2019t have to be like this and you want to do something about it. <\/span><\/p>\n So why haven\u2019t you done anything yet? In my years of experience as a divorce coach I\u2019ve seen hundreds of women reach this point. My own research suggests that divorce can be on the minds of women for around five years before they do something about it. <\/span><\/p>\n And at the heart of it all is one basic emotion. Fear. <\/span><\/p>\n Fear comes to us in various costumes:<\/span><\/p>\n Here\u2019s the thing. Living with fear is no way to live. It\u2019s not good for you, it\u2019s not good for your children. It\u2019s keeps alive a situation that is keeping you small and unhappy. Take those divorce first steps<\/em>.<\/span><\/p>\n Taking action does not have to mean you pack your bags, or get on the phone to an expensive solicitor. Action is not the same as rash action. All action means is that you move from a state of dreaming to an active state, where you are in control.<\/span><\/p>\n And, yes, that can feel scary, because when you take control you take responsibility for yourself \u2013 and remember, it\u2019s only you and your children you can be responsible for. What your soon-to-be-ex-husband, friends, his\u00a0 friends, or the neighbours think or do is their business, not yours. <\/span><\/p>\n Taking action is the only medicine for fear, or lack of confidence. <\/span><\/p>\n Remember the children’s book by Michael Rosen We’re Going on a Bear Hunt<\/em>?\u00a0You can\u2019t go over it, you can\u2019t go under it, you have to go through it. Action reduces fear and grows confidence. <\/span><\/p>\n There are plenty of ways you can get active now. <\/span><\/p>\n You can surround yourself with supportive women \u2013 you\u2019ll find others going through the same thing as you in my free group Ladies Who Leave<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n You can start researching your options. My book \u2018How To Be a Lady Who Leaves\u2019<\/span><\/a> is a great start to understanding the divorce process and doing it your way. <\/span><\/p>\n You can talk to trusted friends or family about your thoughts and develop a support network around you. <\/span><\/p>\n But it can still feel overwhelming. <\/span><\/p>\n Divorce is a big deal (it can be one of the most positive things you ever do, but that doesn\u2019t stop it being a big deal). Where do you start? How do you make this happen as smoothly as possible? And, importantly for lots of us, how do you avoid throwing thousands of pounds at solicitors in the process? <\/span><\/p>\n If you want a guaranteed, step-by-step guide to navigating divorce on your terms, the Get Divorce Ready programme is for you. <\/span><\/p>\n It combines:<\/span><\/p>\n So, if you want to:<\/span><\/p>\n Then claim one of the few places left on Get Divorce Ready. We start 31st<\/span>\u00a0January 2019.<\/span><\/p>\n Emma Heptonstall,<\/strong><\/a>\u00a0the Divorce Alchemist is author of the Amazon best selling book\u00a0How to be a Lady Who Leaves, the Ultimate Guide to Getting Divorce Ready<\/strong><\/a>. A former lawyer, Emma is a practising family mediator and founder of Get Divorce Ready the online self study and group programmes. Emma is featured on BBC Radio, The Telegraph, the iPaper and in Marie Claire Magazine. To find out more visit\u00a0www.emmaheptonstall.com<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Divorce first steps – getting started when you don’t know how Last time on the blog I shared the signs that #divorceMonday might be more than media hype for you this year. And the number one sign? You\u2019re ready to take action. If you\u2019ve shifted from dreaming about a new life, to looking that reality […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":4375,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"on","_et_pb_old_content":" Last time on the blog I shared the signs that #divorceMonday might be more than media hype for you this year. <\/span><\/p> And the number one sign? You\u2019re ready to take action. If you\u2019ve shifted from dreaming about a new life, to looking that reality in the eye and being prepared to make it happen, then this is the right time for you. <\/span><\/p> No more nights spent complaining about your spouse with friends over wine, only to carry on as normal until the next time. You\u2019re ready for change. But what are your divorce first steps<\/em>?<\/span><\/p> So you know it\u2019s not just the Christmas stress that\u2019s got you on the divorce path. It\u2019s something you\u2019ve thought about for a while, you know life doesn\u2019t have to be like this and you want to do something about it. <\/span><\/p> So why haven\u2019t you done anything yet? In my years of experience as a divorce coach I\u2019ve seen hundreds of women reach this point. My own research suggests that divorce can be on the minds of women for around five years before they do something about it. <\/span><\/p> And at the heart of it all is one basic emotion. Fear. <\/span><\/p> Fear comes to us in various costumes:<\/span><\/p> Here\u2019s the thing. Living with fear is no way to live. It\u2019s not good for you, it\u2019s not good for your children. It\u2019s keeps alive a situation that is keeping you small and unhappy. Take those divorce first steps<\/em>.<\/span><\/p> Taking action does not have to mean you pack your bags, or get on the phone to an expensive solicitor. Action is not the same as rash action. All action means is that you move from a state of dreaming to an active state, where you are in control.<\/span><\/p> And, yes, that can feel scary, because when you take control you take responsibility for yourself \u2013 and remember, it\u2019s only you and your children you can be responsible for. What your soon-to-be-ex-husband, friends, his\u00a0 friends, or the neighbours think or do is their business, not yours. <\/span><\/p> Taking action is the only medicine for fear, or lack of confidence. <\/span><\/p> Remember the children's book by Michael Rosen We're Going on a Bear Hunt<\/em>?\u00a0You can\u2019t go over it, you can\u2019t go under it, you have to go through it. Action reduces fear and grows confidence. <\/span><\/p> There are plenty of ways you can get active now. <\/span><\/p> You can surround yourself with supportive women \u2013 you\u2019ll find others going through the same thing as you in my free group Ladies Who Leave<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p> You can start researching your options. My book \u2018How To Be a Lady Who Leaves\u2019<\/span><\/a> is a great start to understanding the divorce process and doing it your way. <\/span><\/p> You can talk to trusted friends or family about your thoughts and develop a support network around you. <\/span><\/p> But it can still feel overwhelming. <\/span><\/p> Divorce is a big deal (it can be one of the most positive things you ever do, but that doesn\u2019t stop it being a big deal). Where do you start? How do you make this happen as smoothly as possible? And, importantly for lots of us, how do you avoid throwing thousands of pounds at solicitors in the process? <\/span><\/p> If you want a guaranteed, step-by-step guide to navigating divorce on your terms, the Get Divorce Ready programme is for you. <\/span><\/p> It combines:<\/span><\/p> So, if you want to:<\/span><\/p> Then claim one of the few places left on Get Divorce Ready. We start 30<\/span>th<\/sup><\/span> January 2019.<\/span><\/p> Find out more here<\/span><\/a><\/span><\/p> Emma Heptonstall,<\/strong><\/a>\u00a0the Divorce Alchemist is author of the Amazon best selling book\u00a0How to be a Lady Who Leaves, the Ultimate Guide to Getting Divorce Ready<\/strong><\/a>. A former lawyer, Emma is a practising family mediator and founder of Get Divorce Ready the online self study and group programmes. Emma is featured on BBC Radio, The Telegraph, the iPaper and in Marie Claire Magazine. To find out more visit\u00a0www.emmaheptonstall.com<\/strong><\/a><\/p>","_et_gb_content_width":"","_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4374","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-i-want-to-leave-my-husband"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/EH_BlogImage-20.png?fit=1000%2C516&ssl=1","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p6aDhr-18y","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4374","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4374"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4374\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4375"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4374"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4374"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4374"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}<\/span>What\u2019s stopping you?<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n
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Divorce first steps - getting started when you don't know how<\/span><\/h1>
What\u2019s stopping you?<\/span><\/h2>
Make the decision to act<\/span><\/h2>
Keep it simple<\/span><\/h2>
Join Get Divorce Ready<\/span><\/h2>
The Divorce Alchemist<\/h2>