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Blue Monday: Are You Feeling It?<\/h1>\n

Ah, Blue Monday \u2013 the date in January we\u2019re at our most depressed apparently. The combination of gloomy weather, Christmas long past, unpaid bills from overindulging and January\u2019s pay not yet here does indeed set a gloomy scene for the third week of January. As we discussed in a previous blog, January\u2019s also a peak time for divorce planning<\/a>.\u00a0 This combination of feeling stressed out about life, de-motivated about lapsed New Year\u2019s resolutions and yearning to do something about a bad marriage can make for an anxious, depressed time.<\/p>\n

<\/span>Got the January blues?<\/span><\/h2>\n

First of all, go easy on yourself! The Christmas and January period is a time of heightened emotions, when all around all we\u2019re told to feel goodwill, have the perfect family gathering, and then start the year chipper and ready to take on the world. It\u2019s easy to feel like a failure if that\u2019s not what life looks like for you. Often, low moods are made worse when we compare where we want to be to where we are now. If your marriage is unhappy the difference between where your life is now and what you\u2019d like can feel enormous. And that\u2019s when overwhelm sets in. Let it. Just for a little while. Don\u2019t push down your feelings of panic or fear about how much there is to do to get your life the way you want it. They are part of you and they deserve to be acknowledged. It\u2019s a message to act.<\/p>\n

<\/span>Do you know what overwhelm is most scared of?<\/span><\/h2>\n

Sunlight. When you let your overwhelm out of the dark it loses its power. It would much rather lurk in the shadows, whispering to you. Don\u2019t let it. Face it. Once you do that, you\u2019ll see it\u2019s not a big as it pretended to be. You\u2019ll see you can feel overwhelmed and stand tall. The other thing about letting overwhelm come to the fore is this. It forces you to decide.<\/em> You can either decide to push it down again, or decide to do something about it. That might mean you decide there\u2019s nothing big you want to change. That actually, life just needs a gentle tweak to set things right. And that\u2019s great. Awareness is the first step. Use your insight and take action! Or it means you realise you are worth more than your current malaise. That there is more to life and you want it. That life after divorce will be liberating.<\/p>\n

<\/span>If that\u2019s you, you need to Get Divorce Ready.<\/span><\/h2>\n

When you feel overwhelm, you need someone to cut out all the crap. You need a shortcut through the wilderness that divorce often feels like. From my years of experience with clients, these are some of the questions they come to me with \u2013 usually all at once and with their heads ready to burst:<\/p>\n