{"id":5876,"date":"2019-07-15T06:35:09","date_gmt":"2019-07-15T05:35:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/?p=5876"},"modified":"2025-12-09T09:20:11","modified_gmt":"2025-12-09T09:20:11","slug":"divorce-with-dignity-a-conversation","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/divorce-with-dignity-a-conversation\/","title":{"rendered":"Divorce with dignity &#8211; a Conversation"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>[et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; custom_padding=&#8221;|||&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; custom_padding__hover=&#8221;|||&#8221;][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.20.4&#8243; text_font_size=&#8221;16px&#8221; header_text_align=&#8221;justify&#8221; header_text_color=&#8221;#c5b2b1&#8243; text_orientation=&#8221;justify&#8221; z_index_tablet=&#8221;500&#8243; text_text_shadow_horizontal_length_tablet=&#8221;0px&#8221; text_text_shadow_vertical_length_tablet=&#8221;0px&#8221; text_text_shadow_blur_strength_tablet=&#8221;1px&#8221; link_text_shadow_horizontal_length_tablet=&#8221;0px&#8221; link_text_shadow_vertical_length_tablet=&#8221;0px&#8221; link_text_shadow_blur_strength_tablet=&#8221;1px&#8221; ul_text_shadow_horizontal_length_tablet=&#8221;0px&#8221; ul_text_shadow_vertical_length_tablet=&#8221;0px&#8221; ul_text_shadow_blur_strength_tablet=&#8221;1px&#8221; ol_text_shadow_horizontal_length_tablet=&#8221;0px&#8221; ol_text_shadow_vertical_length_tablet=&#8221;0px&#8221; ol_text_shadow_blur_strength_tablet=&#8221;1px&#8221; quote_text_shadow_horizontal_length_tablet=&#8221;0px&#8221; quote_text_shadow_vertical_length_tablet=&#8221;0px&#8221; quote_text_shadow_blur_strength_tablet=&#8221;1px&#8221; header_text_shadow_horizontal_length_tablet=&#8221;0px&#8221; header_text_shadow_vertical_length_tablet=&#8221;0px&#8221; header_text_shadow_blur_strength_tablet=&#8221;1px&#8221; header_2_text_shadow_horizontal_length_tablet=&#8221;0px&#8221; header_2_text_shadow_vertical_length_tablet=&#8221;0px&#8221; header_2_text_shadow_blur_strength_tablet=&#8221;1px&#8221; header_3_text_shadow_horizontal_length_tablet=&#8221;0px&#8221; header_3_text_shadow_vertical_length_tablet=&#8221;0px&#8221; header_3_text_shadow_blur_strength_tablet=&#8221;1px&#8221; header_4_text_shadow_horizontal_length_tablet=&#8221;0px&#8221; header_4_text_shadow_vertical_length_tablet=&#8221;0px&#8221; header_4_text_shadow_blur_strength_tablet=&#8221;1px&#8221; header_5_text_shadow_horizontal_length_tablet=&#8221;0px&#8221; header_5_text_shadow_vertical_length_tablet=&#8221;0px&#8221; header_5_text_shadow_blur_strength_tablet=&#8221;1px&#8221; header_6_text_shadow_horizontal_length_tablet=&#8221;0px&#8221; header_6_text_shadow_vertical_length_tablet=&#8221;0px&#8221; header_6_text_shadow_blur_strength_tablet=&#8221;1px&#8221; box_shadow_horizontal_tablet=&#8221;0px&#8221; box_shadow_vertical_tablet=&#8221;0px&#8221; box_shadow_blur_tablet=&#8221;40px&#8221; box_shadow_spread_tablet=&#8221;0px&#8221; text_text_align=&#8221;justify&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<h1>Divorce with dignity &#8211; a conversation.<\/h1>\n<p>Divorce with dignity &#8211; a conversation is all about how it starts with you &#8211; irrespective of what your soon-to-be-ex-husband is doing. 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the Ultimate Guide to Getting Divorce Ready.<\/a><\/span><\/strong>I talk with Sarah about this and the following resources will also help you.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #c5b2b1;\"><strong>7 Simple Steps<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #c5b2b1;\"><strong><a style=\"color: #c5b2b1;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/divorce-put-yourself-first\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Divorce: Put yourself first\u00a0\u00a0<\/a><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"feeling_stuck\"><\/span>Feeling Stuck?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>When you&#8217;re not really sure about what to do for the best, you can find yourself stuck in a loop. One minute you decide to leave and then you change your mind. I know that you can relate to this. Know that you are not alone &#8211; I&#8217;m yet to meet a woman you decided to divorce on a whim. But remember this &#8211; you&#8217;re a smart woman. You do already know whether things can change in your relationship. So you do already know deep down that your decision is more about whether you&#8217;re willing to carry on with things as they are, or not.<\/p>\n<p>It is scary, I know. On the other side of your fear however is the freedom from misery. Not only do you deserve that, you&#8217;re craving it every single day.<\/p>\n<p>I can help you navigate your decision to divorce. I can also support your legal, practical and emotional process. Get in touch and lets chat about how that can work for you.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"the_divorce_alchemist\"><\/span>The Divorce Alchemist<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/about-me-emma-heptonstall\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>Emma Heptonstall,<\/strong><\/a>\u00a0the Divorce Alchemist is author of the Amazon best selling book\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.co.uk\/How-Be-Lady-Who-Leaves\/dp\/1999631501\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>How to be a Lady Who Leaves, the Ultimate Guide to Getting Divorce Ready<\/strong><\/a>. A former lawyer, Emma is a practising family mediator and founder of Get Divorce Ready the online self study and group programmes. Emma has been featured on BBC Radio, The Telegraph, the iPaper and in Marie Claire Magazine. 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