{"id":630,"date":"2015-01-03T16:56:50","date_gmt":"2015-01-03T16:56:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/?p=630"},"modified":"2025-10-20T16:28:38","modified_gmt":"2025-10-20T15:28:38","slug":"5-signs-you-are-ready-for-divorce","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/5-signs-you-are-ready-for-divorce\/","title":{"rendered":"5 signs you are ready for Divorce"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>[et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; background_size=&#8221;initial&#8221; background_position=&#8221;top_left&#8221; background_repeat=&#8221;repeat&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; custom_padding=&#8221;|||&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; custom_padding__hover=&#8221;|||&#8221;][et_pb_code _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; hover_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; sticky_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243;]<iframe loading=\"lazy\" style=\"border: none\" src=\"\/\/html5-player.libsyn.com\/embed\/episode\/id\/17488538\/height\/90\/theme\/custom\/thumbnail\/yes\/direction\/backward\/render-playlist\/no\/custom-color\/c5b2b1\/\" height=\"90\" width=\"100%\" scrolling=\"no\"  allowfullscreen webkitallowfullscreen mozallowfullscreen oallowfullscreen msallowfullscreen><\/iframe>[\/et_pb_code][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.24.2&#8243; background_size=&#8221;initial&#8221; background_position=&#8221;top_left&#8221; background_repeat=&#8221;repeat&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<h1 class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #c984a4;\">5 signs you are ready for Divorce<\/span><\/h1>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" size-full wp-image-592 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/01\/shutterstock_141473581.jpg?resize=1000%2C666&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"5 signs you are ready to get divorced www.emmaheptonstall.com\" width=\"1000\" height=\"666\" title=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/01\/shutterstock_141473581.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/01\/shutterstock_141473581-980x653.jpg 980w, https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/01\/shutterstock_141473581-480x320.jpg 480w\" sizes=\"(min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 480px) 480px, (min-width: 481px) and (max-width: 980px) 980px, (min-width: 981px) 1000px, 100vw\" \/><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">So, its January.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">The tree has been taken down and you\u2019ve dropped the children off at school. Perhaps you&#8217;re<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>at work or you&#8217;re a stay at home mum. Whichever.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">Your thinking about<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>the big \u201cD\u201d word that lots of women like you think about in January..<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\"><strong><span class=\"s1\">I&#8217;m not talking about your Diet, I\u2019m talking about Divorce.<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">There I said it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">I said what you&#8217;re thinking, because that\u2019s why you&#8217;re reading this. You are wondering whether you should get divorced.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">Don\u2019t worry, it will be our secret until you are ready to tell your best friend or your mum. It won&#8217;t come from me.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\"><strong>You know that divorce is a big deal, you know that it will change everything and you&#8217;re not really sure if you want to do it<\/strong>. You&#8217;re unhappy with the way things are in your marriage, you feel like you can&#8217;t go on like this anymore\u2026 but how do you really know if you&#8217;re ready to get divorced?<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">There&#8217;s no right or wrong answer. Some women just know, others are less sure. \u00a0This post will help you recognise <strong>5 signs that you are ready for\u00a0divorce<\/strong>.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5_signs_youre_ready_for_divorce\"><\/span><span style=\"color: #877674;\">5 Signs you&#8217;re ready for Divorce<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<h4 class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"i\"><\/span><span style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<h4 class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1_you_can_be_honest_with_yourself\"><\/span><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; color: #c984a4;\"><b>1. You can Be honest with yourself<\/b><\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">Being honest with yourself is the biggest favour that you can do yourself when you are thinking about divorce. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">Divorce is just a legal process and actually, it&#8217;s really quite simple and straight forward. It&#8217;s the feelings surrounding divorce that takes its toll both emotionally and financially. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">It&#8217;s how you deal with your feelings that makes the difference in your divorce. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">In the article I wrote <span style=\"color: #877674;\"><a style=\"color: #877674;\" title=\"Help! My husband wants a Divorce\" href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/help-my-husband-wants-a-divorce\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Help! My husband wants a Divorce<\/a><\/span>, I suggested an exercise to help work out what you want in your marriage and to look at whether your needs are being met. If you need help with this, you can check it out <a title=\"Help! My husband wants a Divorce\" href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/help-my-husband-wants-a-divorce\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">here<\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">If you are being honest with yourself about how you feel, about the fact that you are unhappy and want to end your marriage, you&#8217;re ready for divorce.<\/span><\/p>\n<h4 class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"i-2\"><\/span><span style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<h4 class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2_youre_willing_to_ask_yourself_%e2%80%9cis_my_marriage_really_over%e2%80%9d_and_accept_the_consequences\"><\/span><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; color: #c984a4;\"><strong>2.<\/strong> <b>You\u2019re willing to ask yourself \u201cIs my marriage really over?\u201d and accept the consequences<\/b><\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">This applies equally to whether divorce is your idea or not. The truth is, marriages don&#8217;t end because of only one person. They end because one person is unhappy. Usually, both people are; if only they\u2019d be honest enough to admit it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">It maybe that you or your spouse has strayed, but remember, infidelity doesn&#8217;t come from nowhere. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">People in emotionally happy marriages don&#8217;t cheat. Fact.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">I know that\u2019s hard to hear right now, particularly if your husband has cheated on you. It might be that you\u2019ve cheated on him and feel guilty about it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">I\u2019m not making excuses for either of you, nor is this about blame. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">It\u2019s about that gut wrenching honesty that you&#8217;ve ignored for a while.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\"> If the thought of getting divorced fills you with terror about what will happen to you and the children, you&#8217;ve got more work to do before you ask for a divorce. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">If however, you&#8217;re ready to accept that maybe your marriage is over and although scared about what that means, you&#8217;re willing to move forward, you&#8217;re probably ready for a divorce.<\/span><\/p>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"i-3\"><\/span><span style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3_youre_willing_to_take_responsibility\"><\/span><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; color: #c984a4;\"><b>3. You\u2019re willing to take responsibility<\/b><\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">Remember, there\u2019s nothing you can do to change the behaviour of your husband, <strong>you can only change yourself. If you want to<\/strong>. It may already be too late, but if it\u2019s not, what are you willing to do to change your behaviour in your relationship? Are you willing to really hear what your husband feels? Are you willing to do things differently? Are you willing to be open and vulnerable to share with your husband how you feel, and ask him for what you really want? If the answer to these questions is no, you are ready for divorce.<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<h3 class=\"p3\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"communication_is_the_key_to_a_successful_relationship_its_also_the_key_to_a_successful_divorce\"><\/span><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #877674; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">Communication is the key to a successful relationship; it&#8217;s also the key to a successful divorce.<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<h5 class=\"p3\"><span style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #c70d92;\">\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 <span style=\"color: #c984a4;\">\u00a0<\/span><\/span><span style=\"color: #c984a4;\">Emma Heptonstall\u00a0\u223c The Divorce Alchemist<\/span><\/span><\/h5>\n<\/blockquote>\n<h4 class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"i-4\"><\/span><span style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<h4 class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4_you_recognise_that_you_and_your_husband_have_different_values_without_blame\"><\/span><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; color: #c984a4;\"><b>4. You recognise that you and your husband have different values without blame<\/b><\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">As we go through life we change. Sometimes we grow<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>with our partner at a similar rate. Sometimes we don\u2019t. Its normal. \u00a0It&#8217;s just the way it is. When two people have very different values in a\u00a0\u00a0relationship it can be challenging. Blame and anger often surface.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">Perhaps you\u2019ve started arguing. Arguing more than you used to.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">Disagreeing with your partner is normal and its healthy to express your differences. But consider this.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\"><strong> Are your arguments solution focused?<\/strong> Are they trying to resolve the situation to mutual benefit; or are they about control, manipulation and blame?<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">Wanting a divorce when you are\u00a0angry and blaming isn&#8217;t healthy. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\"><b>Let\u2019s be clear, I\u2019m not talking about anger, blame and fighting that would be described as domestic violence<\/b>. If that\u2019s you, you can find support for that<a title=\"national domestic violence helpline.\" href=\"http:\/\/www.nationaldomesticviolencehelpline.org.uk\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> <b>here.<\/b><\/a><\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">I\u2019m talking about the anger, frustration and blame you feel because your relationship isn&#8217;t working. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">Divorce maybe inevitable, but you need to find support to deal with those feelings first. It maybe that your marriage isn&#8217;t over. Maybe you need help to get back into communication with your husband. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">Getting back into communication will give you the clarity needed to make a good decision about divorce. Communication is key a successful relationship, it&#8217;s also the key to a successful divorce. If you accept that you and your husband have different values which mean that you can&#8217;t be in an intimate relationship from a place of calm, you&#8217;re ready for divorce. If you&#8217;d like a free 30 Minute Consultation, you can book it here: <span style=\"color: #877674;\"><strong><a style=\"color: #877674;\" href=\"https:\/\/tidycal.com\/bookemma\/initial-consultation\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Consultation<\/a><\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<h4 class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5_you_think_about_being_divorced_even_when_things_are_ok\"><\/span><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; color: #c984a4;\"><b>5. You think about being divorced even when things are ok<\/b><\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\"><span class=\"s1\">It\u2019s easy to think about getting divorced when you are unhappy, annoyed or upset.\u00a0<\/span>Perhaps you\u2019ve threatened divorce in an argument. <strong>At that moment you mean it<\/strong>.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">Things calm down and you forget all about it. Your relationship limps along for a few more months. Perhaps because it&#8217;s coming up to Christmas or you&#8217;ve been busy. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">It&#8217;s January now and, if you&#8217;re honest, even though Christmas \u2018wasn&#8217;t that bad\u2019, you thought about getting divorced whilst watching your husband playing with the children and your parents haven&#8217;t got a clue how unhappy you are. If this is you, you&#8217;re probably ready for divorce.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">Sometimes it can be really confusing and scary just taking those first steps to think about whether you are ready for divorce. Divorce coaching can help you get clear on whether divorce is right for you. It can also support you through the process if you decide that&#8217;s what you want. If you&#8217;d like a free 30 minute confidential chat, you can book your appointment here: <strong><span style=\"color: #877674;\"><a style=\"color: #877674;\" href=\"https:\/\/tidycal.com\/bookemma\/initial-consultation\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Consultation<\/a>.<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">Perhaps you are already clear that you are ready for divorce. Downloading my free e-book The smart woman&#8217;s Divorce Guide\u00a0 &#8211; How to get control of your divorce before it gets control of you will help you get clear about what practical steps you need to take to manage your divorce.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">\u00a0I&#8217;m Emma <span style=\"color: #c984a4;\">The Divorce Alchemist<\/span>, I support women like you to transform their experience of divorce through coaching. 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Clear, honest communication is key to a healthy relationship and also to navigating a separation or divorce well.\"<!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] -->      }<!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] -->    }<!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] -->  ]<!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] -->}<!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] --><\/script><!-- [et_pb_line_break_holder] -->[\/et_pb_code][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; hover_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243; sticky_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243;]<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"still_feeling_unsure\"><\/span><strong data-start=\"358\" data-end=\"383\">Still feeling unsure?<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><br data-start=\"383\" data-end=\"386\" \/>Recognising that you might be ready for divorce can stir up a mix of relief, fear, and sadness. That\u2019s completely normal. These frequently asked questions may help you reflect with honesty and self-compassion, so you can make decisions that truly serve <em data-start=\"641\" data-end=\"646\">you<\/em> \u2014 whether that means staying, seeking support, or beginning the next chapter of your life.<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_accordion _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; toggle_icon=&#8221;&#xe072;||divi||400&#8243; hover_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243; sticky_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243; admin_label=&#8221;Accordion&#8221;][et_pb_accordion_item _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; title=&#8221;Question: How do I know if I\u2019m ready for divorce?&#8221; hover_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243; sticky_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243;]<\/p>\n<p><strong data-start=\"477\" data-end=\"488\">Answer:<\/strong> There\u2019s no one moment, but signs include persistent unhappiness despite efforts, internal acceptance that the relationship may be over, taking responsibility for what you can control, recognising misaligned values, and finding yourself thinking about divorce even in calmer times.<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_accordion_item][et_pb_accordion_item _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; title=&#8221;Question: Why does being honest with myself matter when considering divorce?&#8221; hover_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243; sticky_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243;]<\/p>\n<p><strong data-start=\"854\" data-end=\"865\">Answer:<\/strong> Honesty lets you see how you truly feel and what you genuinely need. The legal steps may be clear, but the emotional journey is the most complex \u2014 clarity helps you move with purpose rather than confusion.<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_accordion_item][et_pb_accordion_item _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; title=&#8221;Question: What does it mean to accept that my marriage might be over?&#8221; hover_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243; sticky_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243;]<\/p>\n<p><strong data-start=\"1149\" data-end=\"1160\">Answer:<\/strong> It means facing the possibility that the relationship has ended and being willing to explore what that means in practical and emotional terms \u2014 even if change feels scary.<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_accordion_item][et_pb_accordion_item _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; title=&#8221;What does taking responsibility look like when my marriage is in trouble?&#8221; hover_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243; sticky_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243;]<\/p>\n<p>It means understanding you cannot control your partner, only your reactions and actions. You\u2019ve listened, communicated, tried to make changes \u2014 if you\u2019re no longer willing or it\u2019s not working, that\u2019s a meaningful sign that it&#8217;s time to divorce.<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_accordion_item][et_pb_accordion_item _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; title=&#8221;Question: What if our values have become different?&#8221; hover_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243; sticky_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243;]<\/p>\n<p>Answer: People grow and change. If you discover you and your partner hold very different values and conversations are more about control, manipulation or blame instead of connection, that can signal you\u2019re ready to say \u201cenough\u201d. It is possible to work on shared values with the support of a therapist. Are you both will to do this?<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_accordion_item][et_pb_accordion_item _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; title=&#8221;Question: Does thinking about divorce when things seem \u201cfine\u201d mean I\u2019m ready to divorce?&#8221; hover_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243; sticky_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243;]<\/p>\n<p><strong data-start=\"2005\" data-end=\"2016\">Answer:<\/strong> Yes it can \u2014 if you find yourself imagining a life apart even during calm or \u201cgood\u201d moments, that can reflect a deeper sense that you don\u2019t belong where you are anymore. Paying attention matters. And you always have choice<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_accordion_item][\/et_pb_accordion][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; hover_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243; sticky_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243;]<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"whatever_you_decide_be_kind_to_yourself\"><\/span><strong data-start=\"299\" data-end=\"344\">Whatever you decide, be kind to yourself.<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><br data-start=\"344\" data-end=\"347\" \/>Divorce isn\u2019t just a legal process \u2014 it\u2019s an emotional journey that calls for courage and compassion. Take time to understand what you truly need and what feels right for you. If you\u2019re still unsure, know that you don\u2019t have to figure it all out alone. Support is available, and when you\u2019re ready, help is here to guide you towards clarity, confidence, and peace.<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>5 signs you are ready for Divorce So, its January. The tree has been taken down and you\u2019ve dropped the children off at school. Perhaps you&#8217;re\u00a0 at work or you&#8217;re a stay at home mum. Whichever. Your thinking about\u00a0 the big \u201cD\u201d word that lots of women like you think about in January.. I&#8217;m not [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":16078,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"on","_et_pb_old_content":"<h1 class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #c984a4;\">5 signs you are ready for Divorce<\/span><\/h1><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><img class=\" size-full wp-image-592 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/01\/shutterstock_141473581.jpg\" alt=\"5 signs you are ready to get divorced www.emmaheptonstall.com\" width=\"1000\" height=\"666\" \/><\/p><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">So, its January.<\/span><\/p><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">The tree has been taken down and you\u2019ve dropped the children off at school. Perhaps you're<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>at work or you're a stay at home mum. Whichever.<\/span><\/p><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">Your thinking about<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>the big \u201cD\u201d word that lots of women like you think about in January..<\/span><\/p><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\"><strong><span class=\"s1\">I'm not talking about your Diet, I\u2019m talking about Divorce.<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">There I said it.<\/span><\/p><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">I said what you're thinking, because that\u2019s why you're reading this. You are wondering whether you should get divorced.<\/span><\/p><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">Don\u2019t worry, it will be our secret until you are ready to tell your best friend or your mum. It won't come from me.<\/span><\/p><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\"><strong>You know that divorce is a big deal, you know that it will change everything and you're not really sure if you want to do it<\/strong>. You're unhappy with the way things are in your marriage, you feel like you can't go on like this anymore\u2026 but how do you really know if you're ready to get divorced?<\/span><\/p><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">There's no right or wrong answer. Some women just know, others are less sure. \u00a0This post will help you recognise <strong>5 signs that you are ready for\u00a0divorce<\/strong>.<\/span><\/p><h2 class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #877674;\">5 Signs you're ready for Divorce<\/span><\/h2><h4 class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">\u00a0<\/span><\/h4><h4 class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; color: #c984a4;\"><b>1. You can Be honest with yourself<\/b><\/span><\/h4><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">Being honest with yourself is the biggest favour that you can do yourself when you are thinking about divorce. <\/span><\/p><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">Divorce is just a legal process and actually, it's really quite simple and straight forward. It's the feelings surrounding divorce that takes its toll both emotionally and financially. <\/span><\/p><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">It's how you deal with your feelings that makes the difference in your divorce. <\/span><\/p><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">In the article I wrote <span style=\"color: #877674;\"><a style=\"color: #877674;\" title=\"Help! My husband wants a Divorce\" href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/help-my-husband-wants-a-divorce\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Help! My husband wants a Divorce<\/a><\/span>, I suggested an exercise to help work out what you want in your marriage and to look at whether your needs are being met. If you need help with this, you can check it out <a title=\"Help! My husband wants a Divorce\" href=\"https:\/\/www.emmaheptonstall.com\/divorce-coaching\/help-my-husband-wants-a-divorce\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">here<\/a>. <\/span><\/p><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">If you are being honest with yourself about how you feel, about the fact that you are unhappy and want to end your marriage, you're ready for divorce.<\/span><\/p><h4 class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">\u00a0<\/span><\/h4><h4 class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; color: #c984a4;\"><strong>2.<\/strong> <b>You\u2019re willing to ask yourself \u201cIs my marriage really over?\u201d and accept the consequences<\/b><\/span><\/h4><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">This applies equally to whether divorce is your idea or not. The truth is, marriages don't end because of only one person. They end because one person is unhappy. Usually, both people are; if only they\u2019d be honest enough to admit it.<\/span><\/p><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">It maybe that you or your spouse has strayed, but remember, infidelity doesn't come from nowhere. <\/span><\/p><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">People in emotionally happy marriages don't cheat. Fact.<\/span><\/p><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">I know that\u2019s hard to hear right now, particularly if your husband has cheated on you. It might be that you\u2019ve cheated on him and feel guilty about it.<\/span><\/p><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">I\u2019m not making excuses for either of you, nor is this about blame. <\/span><\/p><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">It\u2019s about that gut wrenching honesty that you've ignored for a while.<\/span><\/p><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\"> If the thought of getting divorced fills you with terror about what will happen to you and the children, you've got more work to do before you ask for a divorce. <\/span><\/p><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">If however, you're ready to accept that maybe your marriage is over and although scared about what that means, you're willing to move forward, you're probably ready for a divorce.<\/span><\/p><h4 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">\u00a0<\/span><\/h4><h4 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; color: #c984a4;\"><b>3. You\u2019re willing to take responsibility<\/b><\/span><\/h4><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">Remember, there\u2019s nothing you can do to change the behaviour of your husband, <strong>you can only change yourself. If you want to<\/strong>. It may already be too late, but if it\u2019s not, what are you willing to do to change your behaviour in your relationship? Are you willing to really hear what your husband feels? Are you willing to do things differently? Are you willing to be open and vulnerable to share with your husband how you feel, and ask him for what you really want? If the answer to these questions is no, you are ready for divorce.<\/span><\/p><blockquote><h3 class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #877674; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">Communication is the key to a successful relationship; it's also the key to a successful divorce.<\/span><\/h3><h5 class=\"p3\"><span style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #c70d92;\">\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 <span style=\"color: #c984a4;\">\u00a0<\/span><\/span><span style=\"color: #c984a4;\">Emma Heptonstall\u00a0\u223c The Divorce Alchemist<\/span><\/span><\/h5><\/blockquote><h4 class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">\u00a0<\/span><\/h4><h4 class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; color: #c984a4;\"><b>4. You recognise that you and your husband have different values without blame<\/b><\/span><\/h4><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">As we go through life we change. Sometimes we grow<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>with our partner at a similar rate. Sometimes we don\u2019t. Its normal. \u00a0It's just the way it is. When two people have very different values in a\u00a0\u00a0relationship it can be challenging. Blame and anger often surface.<\/span><\/p><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">Perhaps you\u2019ve started arguing. Arguing more than you used to.<\/span><\/p><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">Disagreeing with your partner is normal and its healthy to express your differences. But consider this.<\/span><\/p><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\"><strong> Are your arguments solution focused?<\/strong> Are they trying to resolve the situation to mutual benefit; or are they about control, manipulation and blame?<\/span><\/p><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">Wanting a divorce when you are\u00a0angry and blaming isn't healthy. <\/span><\/p><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\"><b>Let\u2019s be clear, I\u2019m not talking about anger, blame and fighting that would be described as domestic violence<\/b>. If that\u2019s you, you can find support for that<a title=\"national domestic violence helpline.\" href=\"http:\/\/www.nationaldomesticviolencehelpline.org.uk\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> <b>here.<\/b><\/a><\/span><\/p><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">I\u2019m talking about the anger, frustration and blame you feel because your relationship isn't working. <\/span><\/p><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">Divorce maybe inevitable, but you need to find support to deal with those feelings first. It maybe that your marriage isn't over. Maybe you need help to get back into communication with your husband. <\/span><\/p><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">Getting back into communication will give you the clarity needed to make a good decision about divorce. Communication is key a successful relationship, it's also the key to a successful divorce. If you accept that you and your husband have different values which mean that you can't be in an intimate relationship from a place of calm, you're ready for divorce. If you'd like a free 30 Minute Consultation, you can book it here: <span style=\"color: #877674;\"><strong><a style=\"color: #877674;\" href=\"https:\/\/app.acuityscheduling.com\/schedule.php?owner=13234035&appointmentType=2504475\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Consultation<\/a><\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/p><h4 class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; color: #c984a4;\"><b>5. You think about being divorced even when things are ok<\/b><\/span><\/h4><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\"><span class=\"s1\">It\u2019s easy to think about getting divorced when you are unhappy, annoyed or upset.\u00a0<\/span>Perhaps you\u2019ve threatened divorce in an argument. <strong>At that moment you mean it<\/strong>.<\/span><\/p><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">Things calm down and you forget all about it. Your relationship limps along for a few more months. Perhaps because it's coming up to Christmas or you've been busy. <\/span><\/p><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">It's January now and, if you're honest, even though Christmas \u2018wasn't that bad\u2019, you thought about getting divorced whilst watching your husband playing with the children and your parents haven't got a clue how unhappy you are. If this is you, you're probably ready for divorce.<\/span><\/p><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">Sometimes it can be really confusing and scary just taking those first steps to think about whether you are ready for divorce. Divorce coaching can help you get clear on whether divorce is right for you. It can also support you through the process if you decide that's what you want. If you'd like a free 30 minute confidential chat, you can book your appointment here: <strong><span style=\"color: #877674;\"><a style=\"color: #877674;\" href=\"https:\/\/app.acuityscheduling.com\/schedule.php?owner=13234035&appointmentType=2504475\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Consultation<\/a>.<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">Perhaps you are already clear that you are ready for divorce. Downloading my free e-book The smart woman's Divorce Guide\u00a0 - How to get control of your divorce before it gets control of you will help you get clear about what practical steps you need to take to manage your divorce.<\/span><\/p><p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;\">\u00a0I'm Emma <span style=\"color: #c984a4;\">The Divorce Alchemist<\/span>, I support women like you to transform their experience of divorce through coaching. 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