How to Be a Lady Who Leaves:

From Overwhelm and Doubt to Confidence and Clarity

Are you a woman who’s contemplating leaving your marriage, feeling trapped in a web of overwhelm and doubt? Imagine embarking on a transformative journey that leads you from uncertainty to unshakable confidence and crystal-clear clarity. Maybe you’re a woman already on your divorce journey and you are finding the road really tough. You need guidance, a helping hand and belief that you can do this. 

Introducing “How to Be a Lady Who Leaves,” an 8-week immersive experience meticulously curated by internationally known divorce coach Emma Heptonstall, The Divorce Alchemist®. Emma’s unique blend of expertise as a former lawyer and high conflict specialist and mediator will guide you, through all stages of your divorce with the support of her Amazon best selling book How To Be a Lady Who Leaves The Ultimate Guide to Getting Divorce-Ready.

More than just a book club…

How to Be a Lady Who Leaves: From Overwhelm and Doubt to Confidence and Clarity is an immersive book exploration: Dive into Emma’s powerful book that has inspired countless women to step into their strength and educate them to be the CEO’s of their divorce. 

Throughout the 8-week journey, you’ll receive expertly designed teaching modules that provide invaluable insights, strategies, and actionable steps. Emma’s expertise as a former lawyer and high conflict specialist will move you from feeling out of your depth and stressed to knowledgeable and calm withthe tools you need to make good decisions that will last you a life time. 

At the end of our 8 weeks together you’ll :

01 Know whether you are a lady who is leaving

And it’s okay if you’re not! Happy marriages are good for your physical and mental health and if this course gives you the tools to continue working on your relationship well I love that!

02 Recognise if you’re in an abusive situation

Think you’d know if you are in an abusive relationship? Sadly it’s not always the case. Abusive takes many forms and is often very subtle. When you’ve been in an abusive relationship for years you often become immune to the signs. Together we’ll uncover what’s really going on in your marriage. 

03 Understand the divorce process in England and wales

Since April 2022 we have had no-fault divorce. This has taken awau a whole layer of complexity to getting your divorce done. Does it mean it’ll be easy? No. But it will be more straightforward to apply and it’s even easier to do this yourself without using lawyers to do it for you. 

04 Understand the financial remedy process

Understanding how the legal system deals with your money on divorce is crucial. If you haven’t been the money manager in your relationship its even more important. Learn to recognise fact from fiction and the importance of ‘knowing your numbers’ before you start negotiating. 

05 Know how best to support your children in divorce

Your children are your priority. You may be staying in an unhappy relationship because you think its better for your children. This rarely the case. Learn how the legal process considers the needs of your children and how to ensure that you support your children in the best way possible.

06 Understand the importance of looking after yourself

Think that you need to consider everyone else first it your divorce? Not so. Remember that a CEO has a team around them to ensure they’re supported by people with expertise outside their own skill set. Being the CEO of your divorce means its important to put yourself first so you can lead your team. Find out how. 

07 Have a plan for your life after divorce

Creating a plan for your future life now will be your north star. Having a clear vision and a goal will help you create and implement the strategies you need to keep you moving forward even when it feels overwhelming and too difficult. 

Bonus 08 Recognise high-conflict behaviours and how to deal with them

If only every divorce was amicable! Sadly, you might not be so lucky and if your husband is a high-conflict personality you already know that your divorce is going to be harder, take longer and cost more money. Find out how to handle this situation without losing your mind. 

Here’s what you’ll find inside:

7 curated modules taking you through the Amazon best seller How To Be a Lady Who Leaves with the author herself The Divorce Alchemist ® Emma Heptonstall. An additional bonus module on dealing with high-conflict behaviour. Whether you’re ready to leave right now, you’ve already left and you’re feeling stuck or you plan to leave in the coming months, Emma is here to get you divorce-ready.

A support companion:

Comprehensive Workbooks – Your membership  includes comprehensive workbooks thoughtfully designed to help you reflect, engage, and take actionable steps. They’re your personal tools for transformation.

A tribe of women just like you

Join a community of other courageous women embarking on their divorce journey. You’ll learn, laugh and share your experiences together in a safe and confidential space. The beauty of How to Be a Lady Who Leaves: From Overwhelm and Doubt to Confidence and Clarity is that you won’t be on your own. As the host of The Absolute Academy™ since 2017 Emma understand the power of community in divorce. 

Surrounding yourself with other women just like you works. It lifts you and supports you, it enables you to share with other women who get it and you don’t become a divorce bore to everyone else in your life!

Join today and re-write your story

Are you ready to be a Lady Who Leaves?

Hey, I’m Emma Heptonstall, The Divorce Alchemist and author of Amazon bestseller “How To Be a Lady Who Leaves”.


  • Do you feel like don’t know where to start and it all feels really hard…so you do nothing but panic.
  • Do you want to get a lawyer…but then it all starts to feel so final.
  • Do you fear losing your children, or the life that you have built together and you can’t see a way forward.
  • Do you feel like your family and friends are trying to be helpful….but they’re not able to give you the support you want or need.
  • Do you feel alone and want help in making a decision about the future of your relationship.


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I’m not sure I want to get divorced yet, is this the right programme for me?

I’ll let you into a secret: lots of ladies just like you aren’t sure. I’ve yet to work with a lady who flippantly decided to leave her husband. Leaving is a big decision. Leaving feels confusing, scary and a bit like a failure.

Making the right decision is important, isn’t it? You want to know that you won’t look back with regret. You want to know that leaving is better than staying, even though you know the middle bit might not be a bed of roses.

Whether you are certain that divorce is the next step for you or it’s just something you want to explore, by joining this programme, you’ll give yourself the best opportunity to manage divorce with ease.

You can always book an appointment with me free of charge to discuss your needs here: Book to chat with Emma

I’m scared about getting divorced, will this programme help?

Absolutely. How to Be a Lady Who Leaves: From Overwhelm and Doubt to Confidence and Clarity is designed to take the fear out of the unknown, to equip you with the knowledge, tools and strategies that will enable to take confident action with Emma’s best selling book at your guide.

Taking confident action will save you time, money and sanity. Week by week we will build on your knowledge, skills and confidence.

How long do I have access to the course materials?

All the workbooks are downloadable and are yours forever. 

What format is the course content delivered in?

The programme materials are shared weekly and include eight workbooks. We’ll meet together for 8 weeks (spread over ten) via a zoom call to discuss the section of the week and answer your questions. Our calls will start at 8pm and be finished by 9pm. You’ll receive your workbook in advance so it acts as a companion to your reading. 

Will the programme be easy?

Divorce is never easy. This course is designed to help you be as prepared as you can be so that when times get tough, you can return to the plan you made during the course and follow it whatever your mood or emotional state. It will support you to make sound emotional and financial decisions, to respond rather than react.

How much time do I need to invest?

You’ll get out what you put in. If you invest a few hours a week, you should start to make progress. If you only dip into the materials and miss group calls, your progress will be slower. We strongly recommend that you make time to join the weekly group call.

When does How to Be a Lady Who Leaves: From Overwhelm and Doubt to Confidence and Clarity start and when does it end?

How to Be a Lady Who Leaves: From Overwhelm and Doubt to Confidence and Clarity starts on Monday 25th September 2023. The last taught class is Monday 27th November 2023 this means you’ll be finished before the Christmas December rush and, if you’re waiting until January to leave you will be ready. There is a two-week break with no classes 23rd and 30th October 2023

How much does it cost?

The investment into How to Be a Lady Who Leaves: From Overwhelm and Doubt to Confidence and Clarity is just £225 (that’s £3.52 per day over the 10 weeks) for the full 8-week programme. You’ll need a copy of How To Be a Lady Who Leaves The Ultimate Guide to Getting Divorce-Ready which can be downloaded on Kindle or through your audio-book store. Want a physical copy? Send me an email and I’ll send you one free of charge (unfortunately free copies cannot be given in other formats). 

Will my spouse find out I’m in the programme?

We do not disclose the names of any members of this programme. However, we strongly recommend that you put your safety first and ensure that you are the only person who has access to your email account, social media accounts, web browser on either a mobile device or computer.

I am experiencing domestic abuse, is it safe for me to join this programme?

How to Be a Lady Who Leaves: From Overwhelm and Doubt to Confidence and Clarity programme is NOT a domestic abuse support programme although if you are experiencing abuse you will benefit from being part of the programme. `we advise that you should also seek additional support. 

Therefore, please book a call with Emma privately to discuss your particular circumstances so I can help you decide if this programme can help you. If this programme isn’t right for you now, I will recommend alternative resources.

What if I am unhappy with the programme?

If you are genuinely unhappy with your decision to join How to Be a Lady Who Leaves: From Overwhelm and Doubt to Confidence and Clarity, please contact us within 14 days of payment. Please note that if you have received workbooks and joined any of the group calls  we will not be able to offer a full refund. Please note that refunds will be made pro-rata to the amount of time you’ve been on the course to a maximum of 14 days. Cancellation after 14 days  no refund will be given. If you choose to cancel you will no longer have access to the group calls or workbooks.

Is this course for women only, or can men join too?

This course is currently only for women. In the meantime, there are other ways you can work with me simply click here.

I'm not in England or Wales, can I join this programme?

It depends. I would recommend that you contact me directly to discuss your particular circumstances so that I can advise you. This programme has been designed specifically about the divorce process in England and Wales. You can get divorced under the jurisdiction of England and Wales if you are either domiciled in the UK but live abroad or you are habitually resident but live abroad.  However, if you are Scottish, and live in Scotland the programme probably isn’t for you.

How much is a Clarity Day with Emma?

A Clarity Day with Emma is a full day of 1:1 Coaching plus a written plan. The cost is £2000.




“Emma, you’ve been my life line many a time and I wouldn’t be here today with the choices I’m making without you my lovely. So glad I found you.”

Harby – Absolute Academy Member


“Not only has Emma saved me a small fortune by avoiding unnecessary solicitor visits, she has also equipped me with the knowledge I need and the confidence to drive things forward and to ask for what I really want.”

Lucy – Client


“How you are feeling is a rollercoaster and most of us don’t know how to do this stuff! Emma does, she gets it, she will get you.”

Katie – Client

Join today and re-write your story

Are you ready to be a Lady Who Leaves?


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