She Can Divorce
(Formerly The Absolute Academy)
The private community for women who want to axe the overwhelm and get their divorce done.
Lonely, confusing, terrifying, exhausting.
Divorce can be all of these things. If you go it alone. But relax. You don’t have to go it alone. She Can Divorce is here for you.
A private community of women who want to gain control of their divorce and feel better while they do it.
Do you:
- feel out of your depth?
- want it to all just go away?
- struggle to sleep because of your divorce?
- wish you knew people who really got it?
- worry you’ll spend thousands and get nowhere?
- wish it didn’t feel so overwhelming and scary?
Would you like to:
- feel confident?
- know exactly what to do each step of the way?
- relax and look forward to the future?
- connect with others who truly understand?
- save thousands of pounds?
- Feel like the CEO of your divorce (even if you have no corporate experience)?
Take the stress and uncertainty out of your divorce & protect your bank balance.
£97/month
“A friend initially handed me Emma’s book when they heard I wanted to get divorced but what really lured me into the Absolute Academy was the calm authoritative tone of its director, Emma Heptonstall on the phone one morning. I remember exactly where I was sitting (a less often visited Pret in West London) when something went click inside my head as Emma gently held me in her capable hands in that 1st free consultation as I babbled, worried and narrated my thus-far story.
Later, when my story took the shape of a saga with many nail biting months of waiting for my ex to cooperate, there were multiple occasions when I looked forward to the weekly catch ups online so I could feel seen & heard by the experts and others who became familiar.
There were plenty of times when something too awful to bear alone happened and then I had a place to fire off a message, safe in the knowledge that I would get an answer almost immediately, plus a dose of sympathy and a knowledge of what that feels like. This was something no friends or family could provide.
Emma provided me with the name and details of one of the central characters in my divorce: a truly fantastic solicitor. Having this person was pivotal in my situation.
Later, when trying to avoid going back to court yet again, Emma wrote a letter – describing my situation and her part in supporting me – which had the authority to enable my bank to hear me and act in my favour accordingly. Things like this would not happen without a team: I felt so glad to have a really good one around me when it counted”.
Meet Emma, The Divorce Alchemist
Emma Heptonstall is the author of How to be a Lady Who Leaves - The Ultimate Guide to Getting Divorce Ready and a former lawyer. She is a practising trauma-responsive therapeutic Divorce Coach and Family Consultant with a specialism in high conflict diversion. Emma has worked with hundreds of women through their divorce: from making the decision to the Decree Absolute. She knows the legal, emotional, and practical landscape of divorce inside out. And she's here to support you to make the best emotional and financial decisions for you and your future.
“I liked that you were a high-conflict specialist, a recovering lawyer and mediator and you could help me to reach a settlement using a solicitor in the background. I’d researched a lot but I didn’t know what to do with it and needed my money to go as far as it could. I needed value for money and you gave me that with a sense of humour and empathy.
Our online consultation showed me you understood me. I liked your style, honesty and you felt trustworthy. I had confidence you understood my situation and you could help ME”
“Out of the few people that were shortlisted, my brothers were looking for someone to help me, you were based in London but more than that you seemed to be more straightforward ….. and that’s what appealed to me. No nonsense, no frills, and I felt like you weren’t trying to make money out of me and take me on a journey that was to do with your business, it felt like you genuinely wanted to help“
DID YOU KNOW?
“Originally (naively) I thought my divorce wouldn’t need solicitors so it was that balance of having some guidance and support versus paying lots of money to a solicitor and so I knew it would be really cost effective but the beauty of working with Emma is that she can balance all of those things, and when it did end up being super high-conflict, her absolute robust background and training sets her apart.
She had the education and experience to really hold my hand through that process of actually getting me through the court process and formalities with the compassion and empathy which is what I needed – guidance, focus structure, some tough love occasionally but compassion and empathy.
I didn’t know my numbers. It was so helpful to have Emma guide me through that. It was really important to me that she had a strong background, education and experience as well as the human side of things that she offered.
When my divorce turned into a high-conflict situation she pivoted in what you offered me. It’s also important to me that Emma doesn’t allow man-bashing. In the community she allows people to share their stories but you doesn’t let us get stuck in man-bashing and ruminating and she guides us away from that because it really isn’t helpful.
Emma has the ability to be endlessly patient and neutral especially when someone is stuck and not listening to the guidance in the group programme. The community is super-important. A knowledgeable group of women who all support each other and are so well moderated. Facebook lives are great and you remind us not to go down rabbit holes and encourage us to focus on what’s important to us. Its a balance of support and community and friendship”
What’s included with your She Can Divorce membership?
Classroom and trainings
Q&A and Zoom Community*
'How to be a Lady Who Leaves Book' by Emma Heptonstall
Understanding Divorce Cards
Private Skool Community
A private Skool platform Community where you can connect and share in a private and safe space without fear of judgement or shame. Get support from other ladies just like you. Live Coffee break connection calls if you need mid-week accountability and direction.
30 Minute Consultation with Emma
Member discount on paid services
£97/month
“I remember thinking I wish there was someone who could hold my hand through all this and guide me in a different way to the solicitors… We chatted and I bought your book which I read cover to cover in 1 day (and I don’t read books). …You were just supernormal. No agenda for man hating, just empathy, support and practical help.
The plan to schedule regular calls and additional when needed meant I didn’t have to be the divorce bore, pouring it out to friends and getting different bits of advice, and mostly different depending who you spoke to and all coming from their own experiences. I liked that you had different options and that there was a support group even though as this has progressed I have preferred the privacy of just talking to you but it is reassuring to know I am not alone.
Your professional background and your calm friendly support and the fact you hadn’t personally been through (divorce) leaving you bitter and twisted were big factors. I knew from our initial conversation that with your support I could just do this. And thank god I did as I couldn’t have done/still be doing it without you.
I knew when we spoke you knew exactly how I was feeling without me even explaining and felt you were like ‘right we’ve got this…’ You helped take away the fear and made it practical whilst still offering emotional support. From the first conversation until now it has never felt like a business meeting”
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
Why invest in She Can Divorce?
There are many reasons to invest: the supportive community, the resources, toolkits and (Q&As)*. But it boils down to two main benefits: 1. You will save money. Most likely the knowledge and skills you get from being in She Can Divorce will mean you can deploy your solicitor strategically, rather than rely on them for every little thing. This will save you thousands. 2. You’ll develop a confidence that means you’ll navigate not only your divorce on your terms, but the rest of your life too. When you invest time and energy in your divorce, with the right support behind you, you get it done. It’s that simple.
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Join She Can Divorce, Today!
£97/month
3 months minimum contract