Does this sound like you?
Your life looks enviable on the outside. People assume you’ve got it made. Maybe you have the house, the job, the family, the sparkling friends. Picture perfect. Maybe you have none of those things but people look up to you – you’re admired for being a strong, confident woman in control of her life.
But the truth is very different. And it doesn’t matter what things look like on the outside. If you know, in your bones, that your marriage is over, nothing else matters.
You won’t find peace. You can’t distract yourself out of your knowing. You need to act.
Despite what it looks like from the outside.
Knowing that divorce is right for you is a lonely place to be. A terrifying place to be. You don’t know what the future holds. You don’t know how your spouse will react. You don’t know whether family and friends will get it. All you know is that you have to do it. You have to leave.
I know that you’ve tried to make it work. I know you’ve wrangled with this for months, if not years. And I know that you wish it could all be over, so you don’t have to feel like this anymore.
Here’s what I also know. You can do this. You can divorce with clarity and confidence, in a calm and child-centred way.
Transform your divorce.
Divorce coaching gives you power
(& a healthier bank balance)
Like all coaching, divorce coaching equips you to make the right choices for you. I don’t tell you what to do – every divorce is different and you’re the expert in your own life. But I do bring my years of legal experience, my mediation training as well as my coaching expertise to play. I empower you to know what’s right for you. And then have the confidence to act on it.
I help you act with awareness of your emotions
(and your soon-to-be-ex’s). I help you navigate the legal system so you don’t waste time and money on unnecessary legal fees. If you instruct a solicitor you get billed for every six minutes of their time. Don’t use a solicitor to figure out your plan. Use them to do their job (getting on with the legal process) and put yourself in charge of your own divorce.
My mission is to ensure that you resolve your divorce as swiftly and as amicably as possible, with the least possible emotional harm all round. If you’re in a high conflict situation and amicable divorce isn’t an option, don’t worry. I’m a trained high conflict diversion specialist. I know that divorcing a narcissistic personality is a whole different ball game. I can help you plan and act in a way that protects you, now and in the future.
There is no getting away from the fact that divorce is stressful. That it’s life-changing. But what if you could navigate this stressful, life-changing process with grace, and come out stronger? What if your divorce is the gateway to a new, confident future full of hope and possibility? What if this is not an end, but a beginning?
What makes me The Divorce Alchemist?
For 13 years I worked as a legal adviser. I specialised in working with families dealing with the stress and confusion of relationship breakdown. Experiencing confusion about money and how to manage the children even when divorce is your decision, is hard. When you’re unprepared, it’s even harder.
Whilst working in the English Family Proceedings Court I began to study NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) and became a Master Practitioner. Why? I wanted to enhance my communication skills. I wanted to learn how to express my wants and needs in both my professional and personal life.
The results were dramatic. Contested child contact cases that were scheduled for a 5-day hearing were settled in an hour. Purely through the power of communication.
I believe that, in the majority of family breakdowns, protracted legal proceedings are totally unnecessary. It causes untold damage to wives, children and husbands. Then there’s the cost. Contested divorces cost thousands.
Women often come to the divorce process uncertain and confused. They don’t know what to do, or where to start. They ask friends for advice. They get several different answers. It doesn’t help. They don’t really understand what their lawyer tells them and they don’t understand that they have choices.
My purpose is to help women transform their future by focusing on what they want and need to build a future life. One that’s built on a successful divorce, making the right decisions at the right time. I coach smart women to feel in control of their situation.
High Conflict Specialist
I am the UK’s only accredited High Conflict Specialist. If you’re in a high conflict marriage, it’s important that you get the right advice and support for your situation. But how do you know whether you’re experiencing high or ‘normal’ levels of conflict as you divorce?
It’s so important to recognise a high conflict situation if you’re in one because it changes everything. Amicable, collaborative divorce simply isn’t possible if your spouse is high conflict. Many of my clients had normalised coercive, abusive behaviour. They were trying to be amicable and making matters worse.
As a high conflict specialist I’m here to help you make the smartest choices possible as you navigate your high conflict divorce. It can feel like you’re in a nightmare, but I promise you, there is a way to the other side.
Together, we can transform your divorce. Get the clarity and confidence you need to divorce on your terms.