How to be a Lady Who Leaves

Divorce Coaching For Smart Women

Get control of your divorce

Your time is now

How to be a Lady Who Leaves, an Amazon Best Seller is a guide book for any woman thinking about or going through divorce in England and Wales. Packed with information, practical hints, tips, extra resources and case studies from ladies just like you going through divorce. 

Does the thought of leaving your marriage scare you to death even though you want to leave?

Are you panicked by the thought of all the paperwork, the legal bills and understanding what it will mean for you financially?

Are you concerned that divorce will have a detrimental impact on your children and this wracks you with guilt?

Do you wish you understood the divorce process?

How to be a Lady Who Leaves is for you if you answered YES to any of these questions.

How to be a Lady Who Leaves

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Emma Heptonstall featured in Marie Claire
Emma Heptonstall in the Telegraph

Download the Smart Woman’s Guide: How to be a Lady Who Leaves now and get control of your divorce before it gets control of you!

The smart woman's Divorce Checklist

Is this you?

You have always been a smart, sassy woman, confident, competent, in control.

Until now.

Now you are facing divorce.

You feel lost, overwhelmed, confused and totally out of your comfort zone.

And that’s before you factor in the emotional rollercoaster.

You don’t understand the divorce process. You’re scared to start racking up solicitor fees. You aren’t even sure if you need a solicitor. You’re getting conflicting advice from concerned friends or family members. You just want to do this right so that you can start to rebuild your future and rediscover the competent, confident woman you were before.


That’s where I come in.

 Hi I’m Emma, The Divorce Alchemist.

My passion is empowering strong women like you to understand the divorce process so that you feel calm and in control,
knowing that you can move through this. Through divorce coaching, I want to show you what choices you have,  give you the skills to manage your lawyer and the tools to support yourself emotionally, so that you can move forward with your life.

Whether you are already in the divorce process or even just thinking about it, my job is to help you get clear on what you want. Most importantly, I offer an independent perspective and I’m a great confidential sounding board.

I’m not like other divorce coaches.

I’m not going to tell you that I know what you are going through. I don’t. I’m not divorced. In fact for what it’s worth, I’m not married.

I do know how to support you and I do understand the divorce process, having seen hundreds of women just like you get over whelmed and stressed with the breakdown of their marriage.

round me!


I’ve created the 7 Steps to Divorce System to help you work

through the divorce process in a logical and practical way,

whilst keeping you in touch with who you are and what you

really want 

from your life.

Here’s how I can help you

You are unique. Your divorce is unique. Divorce Alchemy is about us creating the right recipe for you in your divorce.

When we work together, we get to uncover the ‘real’ you. The you that probably feels buried under a mountain of other things right now.

I’m here to support  and empower you and to listen to you without making judgments. My work is about understanding you first and your divorce second.

Here’s what I’m not:

⊗ I’m not your solicitor. I won’t be handling the legal side of your divorce but I’ll explain how it works and what choices you have.

⊗ I’m not your family mediator. But I can advise whether that would be a good option for you.

⊗ I’m not a relationship counsellor who wants to rehash your past. But I will help you find out what you want for the future.

⊗ I’m not your best friend, your sister or your mother. I’m not emotionally involved in your divorce. But I care about you and your ability to understand the legal process and how to tackle the future.

I’d love to work with you if:

You are a smart sassy woman who is ready to take action and make a change.

You know that you need to make decisions about yourself, your children and your future.

You want an emotionally healthy divorce and come out the other side feeling confident about who you are and what you want next.

You’d like to get clear about your finances and what that means going forward.

You recognise the value of investing in yourself and the benefits that this will give you in the longer term.

You are ready to take back control.

Are you in? Contact me today for a free discovery call and let’s chat about how we can get started.

what others say

Emma is a coach of exceptional skill. She has a proven ability to deliver transformative, life-changing 1:1 work with warmth, humour and integrity. Highly recommended.

Dr. Henrie Lidiard INLPTA Master Trainer


Being coached by Emma is like having a conversation with a friend, I always feel totally at ease with her.

Emma has a special knack of asking just the right question at just the right time to unlock my constrained thinking and there have been many lightbulb moments!

Emma gets me to think differently, be easier on myself and open up to new ways of perceiving a situation. I always come away feeling uplifted and ready to approach my goal with a fresh perspective.


Understanding Divorce  is a 30 day programme designed to support you through your divorce step by step. By working through these cards, you’ll understand how the divorce process works and also be guided through the action steps you need to take, helping you to navigate your divorce with ease. 

Understanding Divorce

Understanding Divorce

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