April is Stress Awareness Month. You don’t need me to tell you that divorce is stressful: it comes second only to the death of a partner or child on the Holmes and Rahe stress scale. But high conflict divorce takes stress to a whole new level. In this deep dive we’ll...
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#EmbraceEquity: What Does This Mean For Your Divorce?
This year, the theme for International Women’s Day on 8 March is #EmbraceEquity. But what does this mean for your divorce? In this deep dive, we’ll look at what equity is, how it compares with equality, and how it can feature in your divorce journey. What is equity?...
5 ways to make your divorce kinder
Divorce is one of those life events that no-one wishes for: it’s not on any bucket lists. And its very nature: the end of a marriage, the legal process, living separately, is going to feel hard. But that doesn’t mean there aren’t things you can do to improve the whole...
The 2 ways your high conflict ex will try and control your financial settlement
When it comes to high conflict spouses, money is often a huge issue. And it’s not even about money, it’s about control. In this blog I share two of the most common ways your high conflict ex will try and control your financial settlement, and what you can do about it.
Four parenting strategies to use when your ex is high conflict
Parenting is hard. Parenting through divorce is harder. And parenting when the other parent is high conflict is perhaps the pinnacle of hard. It can be soul destroying. But there are things you can do to protect your children, both now and into the future. Here are...
How can you plan to divorce your high conflict spouse?
If your spouse is a high conflict personality type, buckle up. Your divorce, unfortunately, will be a bumpy ride. But it’s a journey worth making: the rest of your life awaits. In this blog I share the potential pitfalls of divorcing a high conflict person, compared...
The costs of denying you’re in a high conflict relationship
Too many of my clients have a big, hidden struggle when it comes to divorce. Bigger than what to do about the children. Bigger than how to agree finances. They can’t accept they are in a high conflict marriage. They have spent years living with the behaviour patterns...
How to manage the people in your divorce
What do you say to the team at work? How do you show effective leadership in your divorce without running yourself into the ground? We borrow lessons from the HR department in this week’s blog. Read it to make sure you’re not mismanaging your divorce people (and there are more of them than you think!)