As humans, we make sense of the world through stories. I don’t just mean the fiction to listen to on audible, or buy from Amazon. I mean the way we navigate the world, the way we construct our reality, is through stories. “What are you going on about Emma? I didn’t...
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Top Five Ways To Reduce Stress In Your Divorce
Divorce brings stress, and you can’t always control how much. It all depends on the complexity of your case, whether children are involved, the behaviour of your soon-to-be-ex and everything else going on in your life at the same time. There are, however, some things...
Stress and high conflict divorce: what do you need to know?
April is Stress Awareness Month. You don’t need me to tell you that divorce is stressful: it comes second only to the death of a partner or child on the Holmes and Rahe stress scale. But high conflict divorce takes stress to a whole new level. In this deep dive we’ll...
7 ways to show yourself essential loving kindness during divorce
Loving yourself isn’t vanity, it’s sanity’ says author Katrina Mayer. And she’s right. Especially when you’re getting divorced. Separation and divorce bring a whole load of work, stress and emotional turmoil. Without building in some serious attention on yourself,...
Five Ways To Feel Good This Twixmas
So, the big day is over, but we are still in the holiday season: those strange days between Christmas and New Year dubbed ‘twixmas’. This time of year can bring different things to all of us: manic rushing all over the country (and maybe you just need a big rest)? An...
The costs of denying you’re in a high conflict relationship
Too many of my clients have a big, hidden struggle when it comes to divorce. Bigger than what to do about the children. Bigger than how to agree finances. They can’t accept they are in a high conflict marriage. They have spent years living with the behaviour patterns...
Divorce and looking after your mental health: five lessons from women who’ve been there
Divorce and looking after your mental health: five lessons from women who’ve been there I’ve said this hundreds of times before: divorce is one of the most stressful life experiences you’ll ever undertake. It’s second only to the death of a spouse or child. It’s...
Taking Charge of Your Divorce Finances When You Have Ill Health
Money and divorce: a combination that gives most people a few additional grey hairs. Knowing what you have, what you don’t and coming to a settlement that feels fair can be seriously hard work. And, unfortunately, it’s even harder if you have ill health. For one...