April is Stress Awareness Month. You don’t need me to tell you that divorce is stressful: it comes second only to the death of a partner or child on the Holmes and Rahe stress scale. But high conflict divorce takes stress to a whole new level. In this deep dive we’ll...
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The 2 ways your high conflict ex will try and control your financial settlement
When it comes to high conflict spouses, money is often a huge issue. And it’s not even about money, it’s about control. In this blog I share two of the most common ways your high conflict ex will try and control your financial settlement, and what you can do about it.
Four parenting strategies to use when your ex is high conflict
Parenting is hard. Parenting through divorce is harder. And parenting when the other parent is high conflict is perhaps the pinnacle of hard. It can be soul destroying. But there are things you can do to protect your children, both now and into the future. Here are...
How can you plan to divorce your high conflict spouse?
If your spouse is a high conflict personality type, buckle up. Your divorce, unfortunately, will be a bumpy ride. But it’s a journey worth making: the rest of your life awaits. In this blog I share the potential pitfalls of divorcing a high conflict person, compared...
The costs of denying you’re in a high conflict relationship
Too many of my clients have a big, hidden struggle when it comes to divorce. Bigger than what to do about the children. Bigger than how to agree finances. They can’t accept they are in a high conflict marriage. They have spent years living with the behaviour patterns...
Financial Disputes: Three ways your soon-to-be-ex can drive you money mad
There are usually two main flashpoints in divorce: money and children. When the two collide, it’s even more explosive. In this week’s blog we look at how to manage your emotions when your soon-to-be-ex is driving you money mad.
What to do when your child doesn’t want to see their other parent
Separation and divorce is often a confusing, scary time for children. In an ideal scenario, the children will have good quality contact with both parents. They will move between households smoothly, and feel safe and loved at both. You and your ex-spouse will work...
Your Ultimate Guide to No Fault Divorce
Next month sees the biggest change in divorce law in England and Wales for over 50 years. You’ve probably heard that ‘no fault’ divorce is coming into effect on 6 April 2022. But what does it mean for you? All your questions are answered in this ultimate guide to no...