The Absolute Academy

The private community for women who want to axe the overwhelm and get their divorce done.

 

Lonely, confusing, terrifying, exhausting.

 

Divorce can be all of these things. If you go it alone. But relax.
You don’t have to go it alone. The Absolute Academy is here for you.

A private community of women who want to gain control of their divorce and feel better while they do it.

Do you:

  • feel out of your depth?
  • want it to all just go away?
  • struggle to sleep because of your divorce?
  • wish you knew people who really got it?
  • worry you’ll spend thousands and get nowhere?

Would you like to:

  • feel confident?
  • know exactly what to do each step of the way?
  • relax and look forward to the future?
  • connect with others who truly understand?
  • save thousands of pounds?

Take the stress and uncertainty out of your divorce
& protect your bank balance.

Only £225/month

– Lucy’s Story –

“A friend initially handed me Emma’s book when they heard I wanted to get divorced but what really lured me into the Absolute Academy was the calm authoritative tone of its director, Emma Heptonstall on the phone one morning. I remember exactly where I was sitting (a less often visited Pret in West London) when something went click inside my head as Emma gently held me in her capable hands in that 1st free consultation as I babbled, worried and narrated my thus-far story. 

Later, when my story took the shape of a saga with many nail biting months of waiting for my ex to cooperate, there were multiple occasions when I looked forward to the weekly catch ups online so I could feel seen & heard by the experts and others who became familiar.

There were plenty of times when something too awful to bear alone happened and then I had a place to fire off a message, safe in the knowledge that I would get an answer almost immediately, plus a dose of sympathy and a knowledge of what that feels like. This was something no friends or family could provide.

Emma provided me with the name and details of one of the central characters in my divorce: a truly fantastic solicitor. Having this person was pivotal in my situation.

Later, when trying to avoid going back to court yet again, Emma wrote a letter – describing my situation and her part in supporting me – which had the authority to enable my bank to hear me and act in my favour accordingly. Things like this would not happen without a team: I felt so glad to have a really good one around me when it counted”.

Meet Emma, The Divorce Alchemist

Emma Heptonstall is the author of How to be a Lady Who Leaves - The Ultimate Guide to Getting Divorce Ready and a former lawyer. She is a practising Divorce Coach with a specialism in high conflict diversion. Emma has worked with hundreds of women through their divorce: from making the decision to the Decree Absolute. She knows the legal, emotional, and practical landscape of divorce inside out. And she's here to support you to make the best emotional and financial decisions for you and your future.

DID YOU KNOW?

You don’t have to use a solicitor to divorce. You may not need to use one at all. And if you do instruct a solicitor I’m confident you can use them more effectively than you are now. So you’ll save thousands of pounds.

But it’s not just about the money. When you take charge of your divorce you put the power back in your hands. What would it feel like to make the right decisions for your divorce, backed up with my support and a whole community of women behind you?

Just think what that will do for your confidence.

Are you ready to save money and step into your power?

– Mandy’s (pseudonym) Story –

“Originally (naively) I thought my divorce wouldn’t need solicitors so it was that balance of having some guidance and support versus paying lots of money to a solicitor and so I knew it would be really cost effective but the beauty of working with Emma is that she can balance all of those things, and when it did end up being super high-conflict, her absolute robust background and training sets her apart.

She had the education and experience to really hold my hand through that process of actually getting me through the court process and formalities with the compassion and empathy which is what I needed – guidance, focus structure, some tough love occasionally but compassion and empathy.

I didn’t know my numbers. It was so helpful to have Emma guide me through that. It was really important to me that she had a strong background, education and experience as well as the human side of things that she offered.

When my divorce turned into a high-conflict situation she pivoted in what you offered me. It’s also important to me that Emma doesn’t allow man-bashing. In the community she allows people to share their stories but you doesn’t let us get stuck in man-bashing and ruminating and she guides us away from that because it really isn’t helpful.

Emma has the ability to be endlessly patient and neutral especially when someone is stuck and not listening to the guidance in the group programme. The community is super-important. A knowledgeable group of women who all support each other and are so well moderated. Facebook lives are great and you remind us not to go down rabbit holes and encourage us to focus on what’s important to us. Its a balance of support and community and friendship”

What’s included with your Absolute Academy membership?

Live trainings & exclusive content

Live trainings including Get Divorce Ready ‘live’ which runs twice a year (you can join as many times as you like). Topics range from creating a divorce plan to using Family Mediation, preparing for court and managing communication. You get the opportunity to suggest training topics right for you. Access to the 8 week Get Divorce Ready self-study portal including an additional 5 hours of video trainings and a 95 page workbook to take you right through the divorce process.

Weekly Live Q&A

Weekly live Q&A sessions so you can join, ask the questions you have and learn from the questions the other ladies have – expanding your knowledge and increasing your confidence!

Weekly Zoom Wednesdays from 8:30-10pm. Come and join the chat!

How to be a Lady Who Leaves Book' by Emma Heptonstall

A copy of ‘How to be a Lady Who Leaves Book’ by Emma Heptonstall delivered to your home address

Understanding Divorce Cards

Understanding Divorce – 30 Daily Lessons Cards and 17 Key Concept Cards, including a list of resources for further learning

Private Facebook Group

A secret Facebook Group where you can connect and share in a private and safe space without fear of judgement or shame. Get support from other ladies just like you.

30 Minute Welcome Consultation with Emma

Member discount on paid services

Enjoy a member discount on Emma’s other paid services whilst being a Club member. 20% discount on all online or 1:1 programs (excluding Voxer) with Emma Heptonstall, the discount can support you whether you need the self-study or 1:1 coaching.

Do divorce better!

Only £225/month

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

Why invest in the Absolute Academy?

There are many reasons to invest: the supportive community, the resources, toolkits and Q&As. But it boils down to two main benefits:

1. You will save money. Most likely the knowledge and skills you get from being in the Absolute Academy will mean you can deploy your solicitor strategically, rather than rely on them for every little thing. This will save you thousands.

2. You’ll develop a confidence that means you’ll navigate not only your divorce on your terms, but the rest of your life too. When you invest time and energy in your divorce, with the right support behind you, you get it done. It’s that simple.

How does it work?

You’ll get access to two private spaces: an online portal full of resources and training to access whenever you wish. You can return to the portal as many times as you like while a member of the academy. And a private, secret Facebook group where you can connect with other women, and me. We also have a weekly zoom clinic and a live facebook Q&A every week.

Why do I have to join for four months?

Divorce is a marathon, not a sprint. I want you to get best value from The Absolute Academy which means I want to support you to understand your divorce inside out. After the first four months you can cancel anytime. We actively encourage you to leave when you’re ready – this is about getting divorce done and moving on with your life!

Is the group private?

Our Facebook Group is both private and secret – people will not be able to tell you’ve joined, and only the ladies in there will see what you post.

What if I have specific questions about my divorce that aren't covered in the resources?

I know every divorce is unique, and that’s why I hold Q&As every week to answer your individual questions. The Q&A is recorded so you can watch the replay if you can’t attend live. So every week there’s an opportunity to benefit from my professional expertise.

Join The Absolute Academy, Today!

Only £225/month

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