When is the best time to plan for divorce?
When is the best time to plan for divorce? I get asked this a lot. There’s always a reason why now isn’t the best time. It’s nearly summer, it’s nearly ‘back to school’ it’s nearly Christmas! You name it, I’ve heard it and a few more besides. The truth is, you can always plan. Planning is just planning. It isn’t doing. Planning is sensible, it’s preparation and ground work. It’s making sure that when the time is right you can act.
Make Autumn Work For You This Year
There’s a constant refrain amongst my friends, clients and business colleagues at the moment – one I’m feeling too, if I’m honest.
“How is it mid September already? How are we more than three quarters through the year?”
Before we know it, it’s half term, then the run-up to Christmas. If you have children, it’s an incredibly busy time of year for activities, with harvest, Halloween, Bonfire Night, Advent and Christmas activities cropping up.
And whether you have children or not, this is often the time of year when we look back at what we’ve achieved so far, what we haven’t and what we want to get out of the rest of the year. Which can be an energising thing to do, but it can also feel overwhelming and dispiriting.
If divorce has been on your mind, it might feel like too much to add to the list – a giant task to accomplish with everything else going on. Plus there’s the guilt of even thinking of leaving with Christmas coming up.
But can you bear to go through the motions this year, when you’re just not feeling it? Does the thought of lunch with his mother turn your stomach?
Here’s the thing. You don’t have to just grin and bear it.
Now is exactly the time to get divorce ready
Because it gives you options. It puts you in control. Get Divorce Ready provides you with everything you need to know to handle your divorce confidently, your way. It’s creating a plan, a strategy that you are in control of. That you get to craft your way.
It’s not winter yet, but as the leaves begin to fall, the squirrels are preparing. They’re gathering nuts to see them through. They are doing what they need to do now to make sure they can survive.
It’s not Christmas yet, but, if you’re anything like me, you’ve got a few gifts already bought because you like to plan. You don’t want to be rushed or feel pressure. You like to have the preparations under control.
When you plan your divorce, the same thing can happen. It’s not about actually leaving at any particular time, it’s about being prepared, being ready in a calm and confident way.
If you join the Get Divorce Ready programme this Autumn you will have the answers you need by mid-November, well before the festive season takes full hold. And that means you can make informed choices.
More than that, it means you can make informed choices with a small group of women who know what it’s like, are in similar positions and have your back. You won’t be doing it alone.
Joining Get Divorce Ready this Autumn means that ahead of the Christmas frenzy you will:
- Understand all of the divorce process
- Have practiced completing all the forms (with follow along videos)
- Know when to get legal help (and when to save money by not!)
- How to manage co-parenting
- When to use parallel parenting
- How to cope in a high conflict situation
- Have strategies for communicating with your soon to be ex
- Know your numbers – how to navigate the financial knowledge you need to negotiate the divorce you want.
- Have a ready-made support network of women to keep you motivated.
Click through here to find out more and book your place.
It doesn’t mean you need to leave before Christmas if that’s not right for you. When I ran this programme in 2017, the ladies chose to wait until spring before issuing their divorce petitions. But what it does mean is that you’ll spend this Autumn gaining new knowledge and skills that you know could be life-changing.
And you’ll be confident that when you decide to leave, you’ll have strategies to do it in as low-conflict, low-cost way as possible.
Knowledge is power
Having this in place before Christmas means you won’t just spend this Autumn looking after everyone else’s needs and feeling like life is passing you by. You’ll be making massive strides to creating the future life you want. And who could wish for a better Christmas present than that?!
So don’t let Autumn slip by in the same routines. Go after what you want and need and sign up for Get Divorce Ready today!
Emma Heptonstall, the Divorce Alchemist is author of the Amazon best selling book How to be a Lady Who Leaves, the Ultimate Guide to Getting Divorce Ready. A former lawyer, Emma is a practising family mediator and founder of Get Divorce Ready the online self study and group programmes. Emma has been featured on BBC Radio, The Telegraph, the iPaper and in Marie Claire Magazine. To find out more visit www.emmaheptonstall.com