Trauma-responsive, legally informed
divorce coaching and consulting.
Supporting you to make sound CEO-level decisions at a time of overwhelm.
Trauma-responsive, legally informed divorce coaching and consulting.
Supporting you to make sound CEO-level decisions at a time of overwhelm.
Navigate Divorce with Clarity, Calm and Confidence
Three grounded, educational sessions for women who want to move through divorce wisely, not reactively.
Is this where you are right now?
- You’re unsure what to do next
- You’re scared of making the wrong decisions
- You want clarity, not chaos
You’re not alone. Many women find themselves in this position. Together, we can create a path forward that feels right for you
How I Can Help
Emotional Support
Divorce isn’t just a legal process; it’s an emotional journey. I provide a safe, confidential space to explore your feelings, helping you process emotions and build resilience.
Strategic Guidance
With my background as a former lawyer and mediator, I offer insights into the divorce process, helping you understand your options and make strategic decisions.
Empowered Decision-Making
I support you in making decisions that align with your values and goals, ensuring you feel confident and in control throughout the process.
Former lawyer & mediator
Trauma-responsive approach
Emotional support and strategic planning
Works alongside solicitors & therapists
Divorce coaching that supports you emotionally and strategically
Trauma-responsive support
Divorce can dysregulate the nervous system, even for the most capable women. This work focuses on emotional safety, steadiness, and regulation, so you can think clearly and feel supported as you move through the process.
Legally informed strategy
Divorce like a CEO
You don’t need to be a CEO to divorce like one. This is about approaching decisions thoughtfully, rather than reactively. Slowing things down, considering the bigger picture, and leading yourself through divorce with clarity and confidence.
Let’s Work Together
Step 1: Book a Free 15-Minute Consultation
We’ll discuss your situation and determine how I can best support you.
Step 2: Develop Your Divorce Strategy
Together, we’ll create a tailored plan that addresses your unique needs and circumstances.
Step 3: Move Forward with Confidence
With ongoing support, you’ll navigate your divorce with clarity and strength.
“Being coached by Emma is like having a conversation with a friend, I always feel totally at ease with her.
Emma has a special knack of asking just the right question at just the right time to unlock my constrained thinking and there have been many lightbulb moments!
Emma gets me to think differently, be easier on myself and open up to new ways of perceiving a situation. I always come away feeling uplifted and ready to approach my goal with a fresh perspective.”
“Emma has been brilliant. From the moment I realised that my marriage was over, I have been terrified, mainly because I had no idea what to do next or how much it was going to cost me. Having been a stay at home mum, I didn’t have the safety net of my own income. Not only has Emma saved me a small fortune by avoiding unnecessary solicitor visits, she has also equipped me with the knowledge I need and the confidence to drive things forward and to ask for what I really want. Emma does this with patience and good humour, even when you are losing it and you feel like your world is ending. If you are questioning the cost, don’t! She is worth every penny and pays for herself in the money she saves you and the voice of sanity she brings amidst the chaos. Do yourself a favour and have a chat with Emma. “
“Working with Emma has been a hugely positive experience and saved me a stack load of cash – I’m only now instructing a solicitor, as we near the end of our divorce process. Emma’s so gifted at holding space for the huge emotional rant every time it gets difficult, and then somehow managing to understand where we are both coming from, and helping me to put together my calm, rational response in a way that will be well received by my ex. I genuinely do not know where I would be without her! And she’s now being hugely supportive as I choose a solicitor and as I navigate the last and predictably tricky stage of my financial negotiations. Can’t recommend her highly enough!”
I’m Emma
I’m Emma,
The Divorce Alchemist, former lawyer and mediator, here to offer trauma responsive and legally informed coaching to women like you.
If you’re here, it’s because you have questions. You want to know how to navigate this, what to do about money, whether you’ll have to move house, what’s going to happen with the children… above all you want to know your future is secure.
Divorce is confusing, can be terrifying, and has made you question everything.
But I want you to know this. You do have choices. And you can learn how to make considered, smart choices to create a flourishing, independent life.
I pour the decades of experience I have as an ex-lawyer, trained mediator, and trauma-responsive therapeutic coach into equipping you to manage your divorce in a calm and confident way.
You get to set the agenda with your solicitor, your soon-to-be-ex, and yourself. Whether you are considering divorce, or are already several miles into your divorce journey, by working with me you’ll clear on what you want and need and make it happen.
Everyone around you will have an opinion. I provide an impartial, informed, confidential space you can trust. My only agenda is to help you get the best possible outcome for you. And that might not be what you think it is right now.
If you feel like you’ve tried to get help before, but people keep referring you on because of the complexity of your case, or trauma, or neurodivergence, and you can’t find the right person for you, you’re finally in the right place.
I have supported hundreds of stressed, overwhelmed women through their divorce and into life on their terms again. I’d love to do the same for you.
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You don’t need to decide everything today.
FAQs
What is divorce coaching and consulting?
Divorce coaching and consulting offer calm, expert guidance during one of the most life altering transitions a woman can face.
Coaching supports you emotionally. It strengthens your self trust, helps you regulate overwhelm, and allows you to make clear, well considered decisions rather than reactive ones.
Consulting brings legally-informed structure and strategy. You gain a realistic understanding of what lies ahead, what options exist, you learn how to prepare strategically and how to avoid costly mistakes when acting from fear or urgency.
Together, they provide both emotional regulation and practical clarity so you can move forward feeling informed, protected, and quietly confident in the choices you make.
How do I know if I need divorce coaching and consulting?
Many highly capable women seek support at the moment they realise they have been carrying too much alone for too long.
You may recognise yourself here if you feel torn between staying and leaving, frightened of making the wrong decision, mentally exhausted by the constant overthinking, or aware that you are no longer showing up as the calm, clear woman you know yourself to be.
Seeking support is not a sign that you are failing. It is often the decision that allows women to move through this chapter with far greater strength, self respect, and emotional stability.
You do not have to reach breaking point before allowing yourself to be supported.
Can divorce coaching and consulting help if I am still considering divorce?
Yes. In fact, this is often when support is most valuable.
You do not need certainty to begin. What you need is a confidential, carefully held space where your thoughts can be explored without pressure or influence.
Clarity rarely appears in chaos. It emerges when your nervous system is calmer and your mind has room to think.
Coaching helps you hear your own inner voice again. Consulting ensures you understand the practical realities before taking meaningful steps.
Decisions that shape the rest of your life deserve reflection.
What does a divorce coach and consultant actually do?
Think of this role as a calm, clear thinking presence beside you while everything else may feel uncertain.
You are supported to slow the pace of reactive decision making, widen your perspective, and focus on what will truly serve your long term wellbeing.
This often includes helping you:
- Discern whether the relationship can be repaired or is reaching its natural end
- Prepare for important and often difficult conversations
- Understand what typically happens with finances and children
- Approach solicitors and mediation from a position of strength rather than fear
- Manage emotional triggers so they do not dictate life changing decisions
- Begin shaping a future that feels stable and self directed
You are never told what to do. Instead, you are guided back to your own clarity so your decisions feel grounded, thoughtful, and unmistakably yours.
When is the best time to begin divorce coaching and consulting?
Earlier than most women allow themselves to consider.
Support before major decisions are made can prevent unnecessary distress, reduce financial fallout, and help you move through the process with far greater composure.
You do not have to wait until things feel unbearable.
When you are well supported from the beginning, the entire trajectory of this experience can change. You respond rather than react. You think long term rather than simply survive the moment.
Early support is not dramatic. It is wise.
Does divorce coaching and consulting replace a solicitor or therapist?
No. Each professional holds an important and distinct role.
A solicitor provides legal advice.
A therapist facilitates deeper psychological healing.
Divorce coaching and consulting help you remain emotionally grounded, organised in your thinking, and clear about your priorities so you can use both professionals wisely.
When your decisions come from clarity rather than emotional overwhelm, outcomes tend to be more constructive not only financially, but psychologically and practically too.
What should I do first if I think my marriage may be ending?
Pause. At first do nothing.
When emotions are heightened, the nervous system naturally pushes for immediate action. Yet the decisions made in urgency are often the ones most revisited later.
Give yourself permission not to rush.
Speaking with a divorce coach and consultant can help you understand your position, avoid common mistakes, and approach the situation with calm discernment.
You do not need a fully formed plan. Often the first conversation simply brings relief and from that steadier place, your next step becomes far clearer.
You are allowed to move through this thoughtfully.