5 Ways a Divorce Community Will Support You (And One Red Flag)

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19th June 2025

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Emma Heptonstall

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19th June 2025

If you’ve ever wondered what the point of a divorce community is, read on! The Absolute Academy has been running for 9 years now, and has supported hundreds of women in that time. Here’s what you can expect when you join:

1. Access to tool kits, live training and resources

No more feeling like you don’t know where to start, or whether to just accept your soon-to-be-ex’s financial plan, because you want it all to be over and you don’t know whether it makes sense!  Everyone joining the Absolute Academy gets access to a portal of resources and live training. From next step lists, to templates, to decision-making tools, these are materials you can access whenever you need them, for as long as you’re part of the community. 

2. Be seen, heard and understood

One of the things my members find most valuable is having a safe space where everyone gets it. This is a place to get everything off your chest (though there’s a caveat, which I share in the red flag below!). It’s a place to get a sanity-check, from members and from me. It’s also an action-place, where you can galvanise yourself to move forward. When you’re an Absolute Alchemy member, you can make as much use of the weekly Q&As and Zoom calls  as you need, so you have my support on the specifics of your situation, week in, week out. 

3. Get to the heart of what matters

My members tell me that the zoom calls are where the deepest shifts happen. I host these every week, and we get right into what’s going on for you in your divorce. The zooms are where it gets real, and where you remember exactly who you are. 

4. Save money

It costs just £147 per month to be part of the Absolute Academy (or even less, £97, if you opt out of the zooms and Q&A and become an Absolute Essentials member). For some women, it makes the difference between spending thousands on a solicitor or self representing. For others, they realise they can be much more tactical in how they instruct a solicitor, deploying them at certain points in the process. Again, they save thousands of pounds. And they also get the confidence that comes with knowing they’ve taken control of their divorce. 

5. There when you need it

Let’s be real – you can’t be focussed on your divorce everyday, or every week. Life gets in the way, and I always encourage my clients to factor in breaks when they consciously put the divorce down and step away for a while in any case, because that break can bring clarity and a much needed reset. When you’re a member of The Absolute Academy you can tap into the resources and community on your terms. It’s part of your support system that you can use as and when you need it. 

Divorce communities: the red flag to watch out for

There are other divorce communities out there. I’m so proud of this one. 

I’m one of the UK’s most experienced divorce coaches (I think there were only two of us when I first started!) and I care deeply about the women I support. This isn’t a large scale, packed to the rafters group. I’m limiting the number of women joining this summer to 20, because I want everyone in there to be able to have my attention when you want and need it. Our zoom calls and Q&As go DEEP. 

It’s not my style to talk about what other people are doing, I like to stay in my lane. But if you are looking into other divorce communities, I do urge you to check what their purpose is, and what sort of support you get. 

Because, quite often, intentionally or otherwise, divorce communities can keep you stuck. They can become talking shops where you vent about your soon-to-be-ex, and read horror stories of what other people have been through. And, while there is a need to get things off your chest, a divorce coach running a community has a responsibility to offer more than that. It’s about helping you move through difficult times, not relive them. 

So, do your due diligence. Make sure you’re being supported by someone you trust, with a solid track record. Make sure that the community is about helping you take charge of your life and divorce. 

I fully encourage my members to leave the Absolute Academy when they have completed their divorce. Many choose to stay on a little longer after the final order so they can ‘land’ and gather their thoughts, and recover, and that’s fine – I won’t push you out! But I won’t encourage you to stay in limbo either. 

So if you know that by Christmas you want your divorce done, or to be feeling as though it’s absolutely in hand and you can look forward to 2026 with your head held high, I’d love you to join us now. 

And everyone who joins gets a 30 minute 1:1 welcome call with me too. A coaching session to give you the motivation and direction to get this divorce DONE! 

Join us here. I can’t wait to support you this summer!

About Emma

Emma Heptonstall, the Divorce Alchemist is the author of the Amazon best-selling book How to be a Lady Who Leaves, the Ultimate Guide to Getting Divorce Ready. A former lawyer, Emma is a family mediator and founder of Get Divorce Ready, the online self-study programmes, and the newly released ‘Should I be a Lady Who Leaves?’. For More Information on Should I be a Lady Who Leaves? click here.

Emma has been featured on BBC Radio, The Telegraph, the iPaper and in Marie Claire Magazine. Emma is also the host of  The Six Minute Divorce Podcast. To find out more visit www.emmaheptonstall.com

 

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