6 common concerns about joining Get Divorce Ready

6 common concerns about joining Get Divorce Ready. Joining any programme is a big decision and a big commitment. Emotionally and financially. So how do you know if joining Get Divorce Ready is for you? I want you to be sure. It’s not just the money, there’s the time to consider as well. Some of you have reached out and asked me questions, so I thought I’d put all  my comments in a blog for you so that you can make an informed decision either way. 
For those of you who may not be familiar with Get Divorce Ready, it’s my online group coaching programme for women who want to understand the divorce process in England and Wales and take steps to do as much of the divorce as possible themselves. 
The features:
  • 8 weekly Zoom calls recorded so you can watch as many times as you like – forever. (10-12 hours worth)
  • Additional audios and videos walking you through the court forms.
  • 180+ page Workbook
  • A copy of How to be a Lady Who Leaves
  • A set of Understanding Divorce 30 Daily Lessons cards
  • A secret Facebook Group
  • Access to the Get Divorce Ready Self-Study portal (value £347)
  • The VIP Package includes Voxer messaging (free Smart Phone app ) so you get more 1:1 time with me.
The benefits:
  • You deal with your emotional baggage
  • You build a future vision
  • You create your own bespoke plan
  • You keep dealing with your emotional baggage (yes that’s on going)!
  • An understanding of the law and how it relates to you
  • The ability to separate fact from the fiction others tell you
  • The support of other women in the same situation as you in a very private space (it’ll just be you)
  • The ability to petition for divorce confidently yourself
  • An understanding of financial disclosure 
  • An understanding of your own numbers
  • You’ll learn how to ask for what you want and need
  • You stay focused and accountable
  • Savings in legal fees

I’m worried that Get Divorce Ready won’t work for me

Get Divorce Ready isn’t for everyone. If because of domestic abuse, you’re entitled to Legal Aid to protect you, use it. If you and your husband have significant and complex financial arrangements, you’ll likely need the support of a Financial Adviser, Solicitor and possibly Pension Actuary and Forensic Accountant too. Who else might you need in your support team? You can read more in this blog Who do you need in your divorce support team?
For everyone else, Get Divorce Ready will  work for you, if you work for it!
Turning up for the calls won’t  cut it I’m afraid. Hope that somehow by joining you’ll get everything you need? Sorry – it doesn’t work that way. If you show up, read the materials, watch all the videos and ask questions, I guarantee it will work. If you don’t do the work, I also guarantee it won’t!
If you know you won’t step up, don’t step in!

I want to do Get Divorce Ready but I can’t afford it

Did you see my live stream in Ladies Who Leave where I was talking about the power of reframing? It came about after a conversation with my business coach about this very thing. Here’s what happened:
A couple of people have said that they’d like to join Get Divorce Ready but they can’t afford it. I always feel guilty when I hear that. My coach asked me whether that was true. I said how would I know? 
She said sometimes people say they can’t afford it when actually, the underlying reason is, that they’re not sure. They could invest but something them is stopping them. She asked me if I was sharing the value of the programme. I said I thought so.
She was brutal.
She said have you told them that working with you will save them 80% or more of the cost of legal fees?
Have you told them that the benefits of the programme – dealing with their emotions and making a clear financial plan will be with them long after their divorce?
Uum probably not? I said.
She reminded me that if cost is the real barrier, there are lots of free and lower cost ways to get my help – my blog, my book How to be a Lady Who Leaves and my Cards Understanding Divorce 30 Daily Lessons. She reminded me I can only help lots of ladies if  I get paid for my services.

If I pay for Get Divorce Ready it’ll take money away from my solicitor

This is a straightforward one to answer – if you do Get Divorce Ready, you’ll use your solicitor a whole lot less.  Will you still need one? Yes. You need to get advice on your agreements and your Consent Order drafted by a Solicitor.

I don’t have time to do Get Divorce Ready

Don’t have time or don’t want to make time? I’m cool with either – but be honest. Time commitment involved 2 hours on a Wednesday evening for 8 weeks 1-2 additional hours each week if you follow all the reading and the workbook.

I’m not ready to do Get Divorce because divorce terrifies me

I hear you. If divorce terrifies you because of abuse, Get Divorce Ready probably isn’t for you – if you’re not sure, ask me! If you’re just scared, that’s exactly why Get Divorce Ready is for you. Let’s get you unscared and ready to move forward with your divorce AND the rest of your life. 

Divorce is complex – I’ll wait for my husband to divorce me

If you’re waiting for your husband to divorce you, that’s fine. But how long have you been waiting, and are you happy for him to be in control of the pace of the process? Remember, even if you’re the Respondent, you still have paperwork to complete and it’ll still cost you if you end up needing to apply for court orders yourself.
 
So there you have it ladies. If you have any questions, email me at emma@emmaheptonstall.com
Emma Heptonstall, the Divorce Alchemist is author of the Amazon best selling book How to be a Lady Who Leaves, the Ultimate Guide to Getting Divorce Ready. A former lawyer, Emma is a practising family mediator and founder of Get Divorce Ready the online self study and group programmes. Emma has been featured on BBC Radio, The Telegraph, the iPaper and in Marie Claire Magazine. To find out more visit www.emmaheptonstall.com