Five Signs It’s Time To Get Divorce Ready


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19th September 2021

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date published

19th September 2021

Five Signs It’s Time To Get Divorce Ready


Is it time to Get Divorce Ready? Has divorce been on your mind for months now? Or years, even? Maybe the pandemic has made you realise you don’t want to waste any more time. Or maybe you’ve already made the decision to divorce but haven’t got anywhere useful with it since. You’ve spent hours trying to figure out what to do next, or you’ve already spent hundreds on advice that’s not got you far.


If that sounds like you it might be time to join Get Divorce Ready and make the life-changing progress you need to get your independence back. Read on to see if you recognise these five signs it’s time to Get Divorce Ready.


You want to take action

This first one is important. Perhaps you’ve been thinking about divorce for a while. Playing through scenarios in your head. Dreaming of what a future free from your marriage will look like. And this is all an important part of the process – it’s a vital first step. In fact, once my clients have made the decision to divorce I tell them to do nothing for a while. To just sit with their decision rather than race into hurried action they might regret.


But the time will come when you need to act. When it’s time to Get Divorce Ready, doing things in the right order can make a huge difference. So many of my clients get their divorces off to a difficult start because they miss some important steps. It’s not the end of the world – you can get back on track. But you might waste some time, energy and money along the way. 


If you are ready to take action in your divorce, and for that action to be informed by a smart plan, then it’s a good sign that Get Divorce Ready is right for you. 


You know it makes sense to get help

If you have plenty of time and money, and want to take on a challenging project, you can absolutely navigate much of your divorce by yourself. Without a solicitor, without my guidance. All the information is out there to piece together. It’s certain you will benefit from legal advice at some point, however.


When you DIY though you miss out on the benefit of experience you can trust. Sure, your sister or friend might have been through divorce and can tell you what they did. But every divorce is different. Because your life, your relationship, your circumstances are all completely unique. 


When you join Get Divorce Ready you get to cut through all the distraction. You get all the resources you need in the right order. And you also get me. For all those questions about what’s right for you. As a coach I’ve supported hundreds of women through divorce. And I’ve worked with many more in my previous roles as a solicitor and mediator. I know the legal process inside out. 


If you cost up all the time, energy and stress involved in going it completely alone, does it feel worth it? 


You understand the power of community

Divorce is a lonely business. As well as grieving the loss of your marriage you may lose friends, and contact with family members. And the people around you may be well-meaning, but let’s be honest… they get it wrong as much as they get it right. They put their foot in it when they’re trying to be helpful. They give advice that worked for them but just isn’t applicable or relevant to you. 


Imagine being part of a community of women going through divorce together. A community where there’s no shame, no stupid questions. Where you can say what’s on your mind and know others will be right there with you. Where you’re not sure how to handle your emotional teen, or planning Christmas. You get the benefit of all that collective wisdom, as well as mine. 


When you’re in a low spot and just need to vent, you’ve got a safe place to be. You know they’ll get it, without judgement. And when things go right, whether it’s as simple as a reply to an email, you have a squad ready to celebrate each win with you. 


You want answers

Yes, each divorce is unique. And you are in charge of your own process – I can’t tell you what decisions to make about your finances, your children or anything else. But I support you to make considered choices. So you make the decisions that are right for you.


And sometimes there are right answers – you want to do things right to save time and money in the long run. I can help you understand the legal system. So you know what to do when, and what everything means. I can provide all the resources you need to cut through all the noise in confidence you’re going about things the right way. 


When you need a job done, sometimes it makes sense to free up your own time and get support to do it well. I pay a cleaner because I know they clean more efficiently than I do, and I know there are other things I can do with my time. Sure, you can find your own answers. But why not make sure you get the right answers quickly, without any uncertainty?


You know you’re worth the investment

Ultimately, getting divorced is one of the biggest life decisions you’ll ever make. And one of the most stressful, there’s no getting away from that. So if you’re going to spend money on anything right now, doesn’t it make sense for it to be you and your divorce? 


Think about the things you’re giving money to at the moment. Maybe they’re to do with the necessities – food and childcare, for example. And of course, those things need to come first. But what then? Often where we spend money shows us what we care about in life. We might invest in gym membership because physical fitness matters. We might invest in training or a new hobby because we care about learning and development. 


Right now, what matters most to you? If you’re reading this, getting through your divorce unscathed is probably high on your list. Getting yourself back after being ground down by an unhealthy marriage will be up there too. Joining Get Divorce Ready will give you both the practical information and emotional support to help you navigate divorce with confidence. Isn’t that worth your investment?


Try Get Divorce Ready and see

If you’re not sure whether Get Divorce Ready is right for you, don’t worry. I can help. I’m running this fantastic course through the Absolute Academy from 27 September until 6 December 2021. It takes you through everything you need to know and do to get divorced on your terms. 


You can join for just £47 to take a look and see. You’ll get a week’s access to the wonderful Absolute Academy, including a Q&A with me. You’ll also get a complimentary copy of my Amazon bestseller How To Be A Lady Who Leaves and my Understanding Divorce card set. On top of all that you get access to the Get Divorce Ready course. 


After your week’s trial you can join the Absolute Academy (for a minimum of four months, at £197 per month). That way you’ll have me with you as you make real headway in your divorce and finish Get Divorce Ready with my support. Or you can leave, keeping all the resources and learning from our week together.


Does that sound like a safe way to make a real difference to your life and divorce? Of course it does – because it is! 


To secure your trial place in the Absolute Academy and get access to Get Divorce Ready before 27 September, all for just £47, simply join here The Absolute Academy Trial

About Emma

Emma Heptonstall, the Divorce Alchemist is the author of the Amazon best-selling book How to be a Lady Who Leaves, the Ultimate Guide to Getting Divorce Ready. A former lawyer, Emma is a family mediator and founder of Get Divorce Ready the online self-study and group programmes. Emma has been featured on BBC Radio, The Telegraph, the iPaper and in Marie Claire Magazine. Emma is also the host of  The Six Minute Divorce Podcast. To find out more visit


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