Getting Divorce Ready: How Do You Fit It In?

One of our most human tendencies is to put off the big things – the things that feel difficult or overwhelming. When daily life is more than enough to fill our days and we have to-do lists as long as our arms, planning anything else can feel too much. Even more so if it’s a challenging, emotionally vulnerable, logistically fraught decision like whether or not to divorce. It begs the question: Getting Divorce Ready: How Do You Fit It In?

But that nagging feeling that your marriage needs to change won’t go away. It might be that you need to air your concerns your spouse, communicate better – with or without the support of a marriage counsellor – and you’ll get back on track. I’m all in favour of a good marriage.

Equally, it might be that your future lies elsewhere – that the vision you have of your life just won’t happen in this marriage.

Either way, putting things off doesn’t make them easier. It just makes them later. Facing the future can feel overwhelming but the longer you leave it, the higher the mountain seems.

Taking things step by step

The truth is, tackling difficult things in a managed, step-by-step way is the only way to get them done. You can’t go round them, you can’t go under them, you have to go through them. One step at a time.

Evenings scrolling through websites, groups and forums looking at what other women are doing, or sleepless nights wondering what the future holds are the real time-killers.

I created Get Divorce Ready for women just like you. Women who know that the only way to eat an elephant is one bite at a time, but don’t know how or where to start to make the best use of their incredibly valuable time.

Get Divorce Ready by getting the right support

Get Divorce Ready takes you through every step of the divorce process, including the all important inner work to ensure divorce is the right decision for you. So if you’re one of those ladies who you hasn’t made her mind up to leave and wants help getting clear on the best way forward, Get Divorce Ready can help you too.

Rather than wasting time wondering ‘what if’ or navigating endless webpages working out what you need to do first, Get Divorce Ready will help you to:

• Get clear on what you want from your future – whether that’s working on your marriage or what your post-divorce life will look like
• Understand each step of the legal process and what you need to do first (it’s definitely NOT contact a solicitor!)
• Work out strategies for talking to your soon-to-be-ex to help open communication channels and minimise conflict (which also minimises cost in the long term).

I know how busy life is. That’s why the workbooks are designed to help you get the essential points quickly and easily.

That’s why the secret Facebook Group is available to you whenever you like for the duration of the course and for a month after. 

And that’s why the coaching calls are held in the evening, so you can get young children to bed first. It’s all designed to help make your decision-making as hassle-free as possible, and to keep you on track so you’re moving forward rather than in circles.

Make is easier for yourself

In short, Get Divorce Ready is your ultimate time, stress and money saving guide to navigating divorce on your terms. It puts you in control. Which, when life is feeling overwhelming, is gold dust.

So if you want to save yourself time and money, get divorce ready before Christmas, so you can divorce on your terms I’d love you to join me. Click through  to find out more and join. The doors close to this round on Wednesday 26th September at 10pm (we start on 3rd October).

Having doubts about helping yourself first?

When your default setting is helping other people first, the idea of putting yourself first feels uncomfortable and well, just a little crazy? Selfish? Unimaginable? The idea that you would do that and  spend money in the process feels plain wrong. There I said it. It feels wrong. Your brain says ‘but what about…” the gas bill, the Christmas savings, the new football boots the…. the list could go on. It will go on if you let it.

Investing in your divorce

No one likes investing in their divorce.

No one thinks, “I know, I’d really love to spend my money getting out of this awful situation”

Frustration, anger and fear make us resentful. You’d rather spend your money on your children, Christmas, a holiday you name it, you’d rather spend it on those things. Spending your money on ‘nice’ things makes you feel great!

What if investing in your divorce moves you forward quicker, gives you a support network that will likely last post divorce (just ask the other ladies who did the last round of Get Divorce Ready), builds your confidence, saves your hours of research, a whole lot of cash (that you can spend on doing lovely things), and a whole load of stress?

Yes but….

I hear you, you’ve still got doubts, worries and fears. I understand. Investing in coaching is scary. Whether you’ve done it before or not! I wrote a Facebook post about this very topic:

If you’ve still got doubts, this blog post I wrote will help you get some clarity: 6 Common Concerns about joining Get Divorce Ready.

If you’d like to know more, you can find out here.

Doors close on Wednesday 26th September (we start on 3rd October).

Emma Heptonstall, the Divorce Alchemist is author of the Amazon best selling book How to be a Lady Who Leaves, the Ultimate Guide to Getting Divorce Ready. A former lawyer, Emma is a practising family mediator and founder of Get Divorce Ready the online self study and group programmes. Emma has been featured on BBC Radio, The Telegraph, the iPaper and in Marie Claire Magazine. To find out more visit www.emmaheptonstall.com